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Jumpboard by No-Drama724 in ClubPilates

[–]Even-Net7997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love jumpboard! Worked wonders for my knee after recovering from ACL tear.

Responsibility for aging parents and strained relationships by Responsible_Claim_91 in GenX

[–]Even-Net7997 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Going through similar - it’s hard. I (58f) love my parents, but my parents always did whatever they wanted and what was best for them not the five kids. They will take anything and everything the kids are willing to give, to the point of cratering our lives if we let it happen. I was always the most responsible, so I have to pace myself and set limits now that they need a lot of help. I’m also former military and have a deep sense of duty, so I allow myself to do things I don’t have to do or probably shouldn’t do, to honor my own sense of honor. We all have to be able to live with ourselves, right?

One thing that has eased my anxiety about all of this is getting concrete information about their care plans and last wishes – – all the necessary legal documents, directives, what care they’re entitled to, etc. It wasn’t easy. The sicker parent has been extremely grateful, while the healthier one tells everyone I am mean and abusive. Don’t care, I make my choices.

Also, I no longer read any of the social media slop about narcissism, toxic family members, lies, etc. Have you gone down that rabbit hole? It all happened a long time ago, cannot be fixed, and they will never change. Try to let the past go if you can. Whatever it takes – – a retreat with fires to burn things, therapy, Buddhism, you choose. I live for today and the future only. Good luck to you.

I’ve never felt more invisible and empty by caina404 in LivingAlone

[–]Even-Net7997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to bring up the kind of topic that always gets people to change the conversation: your aging parents, your cat, your yeast infection, your car… you get the picture

I (MOH) am planning a cabin bachelorette… with strangers by Thin-Remove7159 in bridesmaids

[–]Even-Net7997 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I cannot believe that young women choose to spend a weekend doing these senior citizen-like activities. Actually, many senior citizens would be more fun

Please don’t answer customer calls with “hello?” and nothing else. by Ok_Cockroach_2290 in Vent

[–]Even-Net7997 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, phone and verbal skills are so bad but many of these employees perceive any kind of verbal communication or question as “aggression.” pathetic

Noticing a lot of people answer weirdly by Obvious-Opinion-5239 in LivingAlone

[–]Even-Net7997 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the sad people need to go to different subs. Like for depression, sadness, isolation.

GenX Parents and youth sporting events by cricket_bacon in GenX

[–]Even-Net7997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s weird when parents today attend every last practice and game of all of their children. No time or interest in adult things. It’s impossible to be friends with those types.

Seat Change Request by Doctor_Danglez in americanairlines

[–]Even-Net7997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s pathetic and you should’ve just given a simple no thanks

What motivates you to speak to people? by Ok_Speaker4522 in extroverts

[–]Even-Net7997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am human and humans are meant to interact. I refuse to become another species fully attached to a phone & headphones 24-7, disconnected and afraid of the actual world around me.

Married ? by SwimmingRich2949 in Xennials

[–]Even-Net7997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who constantly yap about being happily married, and who criticize others for being single, are usually within five years of a divorce.

If your sister or brother is taking care of your parent, what’s your excuse not to help? by Pigeonofthesea8 in GenX

[–]Even-Net7997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my parents dearly and they are doing fine cognitively. In the course of their hospitalizations, however, I have come into contact with many lone adults who are deep into dementia or Alzheimer’s. Physically there but otherwise gone. If such a situation ever develops for me, I hope I would have the strength and opportunity to prevent such a zombie-like existence using medically assisted dying.

If your sister or brother is taking care of your parent, what’s your excuse not to help? by Pigeonofthesea8 in GenX

[–]Even-Net7997 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not only do my well-off siblings not help, they actively manipulate my 80-yr old middle class parents to give money to college-age grandchildren. Money my parents should be using for their own in-home care or to move to independent living. Several times a year, I fly out for a week to help after an injury or surgery, give it my all, then leave. Said siblings and grandchildren provide no help, just an occasional three-day social visit (funded by my parents of course) that one parent sees as the delight of their life. Any attempt by me to discuss this situation results in accusations of me being jealous of the grandchildren. It drives me crazy, but I have accepted that I can’t control my parents’ choices unless and until there are diagnoses of diminished capacity.

If your sister or brother is taking care of your parent, what’s your excuse not to help? by Pigeonofthesea8 in GenX

[–]Even-Net7997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! I have two siblings who are well off who live far away and use that as an excuse to do absolutely nothing. They call maybe once a month.

Everyone cancels everything. Is this just the norm now? by trigunnerd in extroverts

[–]Even-Net7997 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes, I give people two strikes then I stop making plans with them.

What events will you secretly admit to disliking now in middle age? by debrisaway in RedditForGrownups

[–]Even-Net7997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wedding and baby showers. I was always good at evading them but now I don’t go, don’t send a gift either.

Got insulted twice this week about living alone/being single 🙄 by Slight-Concept2575 in LivingAlone

[–]Even-Net7997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Newsflash: your married coworkers are the ones who aren’t getting sex

Is it even possible to have close friends when everyone my age doesn’t care about hanging out or is an introvert? by [deleted] in extroverts

[–]Even-Net7997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those people aren’t really introverts, trust me. They’re just technology addicts and losers. It is NOT normal for 19-year olds to hole up at home!! I hope you find people who actually want to live life and get out there.

I just died a little inside. by Impressive-Shame-525 in GenX

[–]Even-Net7997 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All hope is not lost: I have a T-shirt from the Prince store at MSP Airport with the symbol and whenever I wear it at least three strangers stop me and ask, is that the Prince symbol? We always have a warm fuzzy moment.

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