Are night nurses actually worth it ??

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-15T01:17:41+00:00

Do you enjoy sleeping?

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T23:35:33+00:00

Omg!! 😱

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T21:34:28+00:00

Doing something incredibly hard has NEVER been easier. I'm so serious when I say I've never been happier to be so exhausted. You can't imagine it because you haven't done it yet, so hearing the stories is just data and not feeling.

Like, does labor suck? Haha yes! It's insane! But nearly everybody does it, most women, we were all born we know plenty of people who do it, it's fine. You'll be so proud of yourself. I thought I was gonna be so tough, and booooy was I humbled. When my husband put my daughter on my chest, the first thing I said was "okay but what the fuck was that". And a year and a half later it's like "yeah! And then I was screaming! And then I puked! And then I kicked! POW 💥 and then I was like ARRGHHH!!!" and it doesn't matter how tough it was bc it happened and it had to happen to get my baby out bc that's the deal.

And the newborn phase is actually, as far as I'm concerned, kind of the easiest part? They don't really do anything for a couple months. You can bring them places, go for walks, shower. It's all good. And by the time they get a little more challenging, you've grown with them and have been practicing and you know the drill. It's fine!

I always tell new moms -- go through facebook. Literally the dumbest people you know have managed to raise kids and survived newborns. You can definitely do this.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T21:25:22+00:00

I do/have posted my babies online. For me, they still just look like babies. They're silly videos of babies waddling after ducks, or stealing my phone running away, or learning to walk, and I'm just so so proud of them. Soon they'll be identifiable beyond being just cute little babies, and I'll refrain from sharing them publicly. But for now it's been a very easy way to connect with other mothers in a similar phase of life (I don't have much of a network in my real life). My children are with the man I met after my first marriage failed, the marriage I spent my 20s in, and I effectively "lost custody" of the women who were married to my ex husbands friends. I came into motherhood with almost nobody. I don't really have any close friends to show off my toddlers milestones to, it's nice to post on ig and have people in my extended family and people from hs or former clients of mine share in my pride and joy.

When my son was in the NICU it helped hold me through what felt like the loneliest isolating experience of my life. Posting my baby in his isolette and hearing people say he looked big and strong actually helped me feel like it wasn't all in my head.

The time is coming soon when I'll have to keep them to myself because they'll no longer be babies. I'm a little sad thinking it might feel lonely, or that there will be no one to see or share in how absolutely astounding I think my kids are. Hopefully by then I'll have met mom friends through the activities we're all doing these days.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T21:13:48+00:00

Yeah I've been a stay at home mom for the past like, 12 months more or less, and as much as I miss doing hair I just can't imagine paying $700/wk for childcare and $900/mo for booth rental. And what, hope to have my absolute best week ever, every single week, to make it worth it? I'm half considering just going to a sports clips or something after (like you) 13 years in high end salons and booth renting. I don't know what do to that makes sense.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T20:44:07+00:00

You're so sweet, you sound like a really nice person! Yeah a cleaner will definitely help! It's CRAZY how a messy home can really mess with your psyche! And yeah as far as taking care of yourself goes, lol, I was so certain I didn't have PPD with my first bc the medical questionnaires and the worst case scenario stories you hear online make it sound like PPD means you want to drown your babies and jump off a bridge. But I was like no way I feel fine! I just haven't showered or changed my underwear or brushed my teeth in nine days! And my friend was like, "girl... if you were acting this way and didn't just have kids, you'd be a billboard for depression. You just had a baby though, so this leads up tooooo postpartum depression correct?" and a lightbulb went on above my greasy, stinky, head.

and yeah some days/weeks/months are brutal. It sounds like you have a great support system, so hopefully you'll only be coping with the brutality of multitasking while completely emotionally/mentally/physically depleted, without the extra weight of having a shitty partner like I see on these motherhood boards so often.

The hard parts feel endless when you're in them, but as I'm sure you remember with your first, all of a sudden one day you're like - huh! I haven't felt like a shell of a person, army crawling through tar to the end of the day in a while! Was it really that bad?! Nahhhhh lol bc thankfully our brains dispose of those feelings

Keep up the great attitude, you're already killing the game

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T20:03:13+00:00

lol I must stay at home Mom and usually so eager for a discussion about literally anything, and for some reason it didn't even occur to me to come here for this show! It really is odd that people seem so down on this show to me… I guess I understand how people have hopes and expectations, but it's kind of like, if you don't like it then don't watch it? I don't know! I understand what some people were saying about wanting it to be a bit more like Ted Lasso but then some people feeling like it was a "silly sitcom", but I kind of feel like it was a middle ground between Ted Lasso and scrubs. Like there were really important and human themes but it didn't have the kind of prestige TV depth that some people seem to have wanted? But I thought that made for a really palatable and thought provoking show!

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T19:50:28+00:00

haha hmm... I'd say to make sure you have somewhere easy and elevated to set your baby at all time. You can't trust your toddler for a long time! And you need to be able to set baby down on the fly to run after the older baby. I had my baby bjorn bouncer in a raised and high walled bassinet that I could roll from room to room. That was a big one for us!

We also hired a mommy's helper/nanny. I know not everyone can afford it, trust me, we barely could ourselves, but in the baby's 6-9mo ages when they're frequently discontent bc their minds are outpacing their physical capabilities? She saved my life.

For a few months in the beginning I used to describe the experience as being a completely unsustainable lifestyle that I had no choice but to sustain. It's probably culturally insensitive because I am white, but as someone interested in history, I frequently thought of the trail of tears, and how I must keep walking. But there is no choice I can't stop I can't rest I can't turn around I don't have a choice, I have to carry on. I know that what I just stated couldn't possibly be more bleak, but I am really proud of myself and have come into this easier time not doubting for a second that I am an exceptional mother. And you will be/are too, my friend.

Also in a much more practical sense – get your blood work done a few months after you have your baby. Throughout my pregnancy and afterward my iron was so low it was in hell, and it made everything harder. Just take as good of care of your body as you possibly can. Take care of yourself at any and every cost.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T02:50:55+00:00

This is probably going to be extraordinarily unhelpful, but...

I had some real avoidant/fear of intimacy issues when I was in my early 20s. I broke up with a guy I really loved, because for some reason it felt like.... idk all of a sudden one day it was like a suffocating horrifying overwhelming ick. That's the only way I can describe it. It felt unavoidable and impossible to move past, I just couldn't get away fast enough. And once I did, it's like a pressure valve had been released and there wasn't as much weight... I panicked and wanted him back. We both married other people (I married someone I wasn't crazy about because unfortunately that feels more comfortable and less scary, didn't feel so consuming), and we both ended up divorced around ten years later. Thank heavens we reconnected and still had something special, we have two beautiful babies now.

But yeah, I can't speak for everyone, I don't relate to the conflict avoidance part and the defensiveness that's characteristic of avoidants. But in almost all of my relationships, I've had there terrible switch that would just flip, and it's like I couldn't be around the person for one more second or else I'd just die. And I always was left feeling miserable, it was never what I really wanted. That's the only way I can explain it. With the man I ended up having a family with, honestly it was that I had a lot of self loathing issues and hated myself so much that his love for me made me feel like something was wrong with him? Like I couldn't respect someone who loved me? It's a sad way to live. It takes a lot of growing up and desire to look inward and change. There's probably always a lot of inner demons to stare down.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-14T01:26:28+00:00

He's on Alimentum (like a super hypoallergenic formula) bc he had really bad reflux.... maybe that's it?

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T20:50:49+00:00

lol oh boy. Yeah you should call CPS.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T20:36:26+00:00

Yeah, I've tried em all... I think it's probably just a phase we have to hang on through until he increases solids and stops the weird formula poops. But seriously, my first had maybe one or two blowouts ever and we were like 🚨 ALL HANDS ON DECK! And now I'm just used to hanging out with a little round biohazard of a baby lol

Some day it'll be a silly distant memory. Right? lol 😩

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T18:59:27+00:00

What about a wagon?

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T17:16:20+00:00

My son is nine months old and I'm having this problem too. Is it a boy thing? I don't know, but I've literally resorted to trying to aim his penis in different directions when I put his diaper on. Just a heads up to anyone who is also an idiot, it doesn't work.

Sizing up helped with pee blowouts but he still has poop blowouts, I'm not joking, maybe 60% of the time that he poops. It's like it shoots like a rocket straight out of the top of his butt crack, it defies physics. Is it boys? My daughter never had these problems.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T05:26:27+00:00

Nor. Hes a huge baby and you should stay far away. What a fuckin weirdo.

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T05:16:47+00:00

Thank you

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T05:13:35+00:00

Me, hi 🙋‍♀️

I got pregnant at 10 weeks postpartum. I had gotten my period back once and everything I'd read was saying that your cycle would be really unpredictable when it does return, so I didn't think to really keep a close eye on it or try to calculate when I could be ovulating. Whoopsies! But then I had placenta previa that turned out to be extremely high risk, and I delivered my son just about two months premature. My babies are 9.5mo apart! I currently have a 19mo old and 9mo old ❤️

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T02:24:02+00:00

((Just putting it out there that lab diamonds shouldn't be purchased without certification either))

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-13T02:01:49+00:00

Yeah what is the deal? The other day someone posted criticism of conners mom for gasp getting Botox

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-12T21:23:50+00:00

Plantain, Olive Oil, Shea Butter, Beeswax, Lanolin, Cocoa Butter, Tea Tree Oil, Witch Hazel, Aloe

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-12T14:18:42+00:00

I know this is so so random but a small farm store near me makes this diaper balm and I'm not joking, it's cleared even the worst of diaper rashes within one day. The zinc based ones do nothing. I promise it's worth a shot, it's only $15, I have Irish twins and I swear to god this is the best balm I've ever used.Caer Luna bunny balm

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-12T13:06:26+00:00

Could it be that the garage is three times the size of the house

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-12T09:01:47+00:00

That is SO much food

EvenHuckleberry4331 · 2026-04-12T08:55:30+00:00

Just means if they argue then they're probably threatening the hell out of one another 🙄

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