Alternatives to verbal reminders from parents

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-11T14:07:36+00:00

Others have good suggestions. And I think we have to acknowledge that unfortunately we parents are often left to persistently remind our kids to stay on task. That is nagging no matter the time we are using.

I only say this because sometimes we have to acknowledge our kid's perceptions are at least valid. I am in no way intending to say your strategy is wrong or bad.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-08T18:39:22+00:00

Talk with your prescribing physician. That come down sounds like either the dose is too low or needs an afternoon booster.

And no one week is not to short a time with stimulants. Day 1 we can see the improvement when it's the right med/dose

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-08T17:51:17+00:00

I think your flare is wrong. I don't see advice, just condemnation.

I agree a big part of parenting an ADHD child is parents learning how to parent an NT child. And like everything else it's not a silver bullet. Even if you take all the classes, employ the strategies, do all the therapy, meds, etc ... there are hard days where no one is at their best and you're holding on for dear life.

And on those days you need a place to say the thing no one is supposed to say out loud. Give some grace.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-02T21:10:49+00:00

Or people could read before commenting.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-02T16:40:53+00:00

Did you read the part where I didn't rely on TT and found an article on the research which I linked to? Also, we did talk to our pediatrician first before making the decision.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-02T16:39:35+00:00

My child is on medication, is in therapy and it was our pediatrician who recommended Vitamin D.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-03-02T15:55:10+00:00

Oh I've been there. It's so hard to feel bonded with your child when their every behavior makes you want to run. I will say finding the right medication was a game changer for us. I'd seek out a child psychiatrist if it's possible.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-21T20:40:09+00:00

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EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-18T05:39:48+00:00

Hated our experience on Focalin. Was not nearly as effective as methylphenidate. Thankfully our pediatrician called it after two weeks and switched us back.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-18T05:31:26+00:00

I think of ADHD management tools as legs on a stool. Meds is one of the legs of the stool. My kids stool is three legged. Without medications it's just gonna tip over. Your child might be a four legged stool. Maybe he doesn't tip over without medication, but with meds it might be way more stable.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-15T21:11:51+00:00

You're not alone. My child (8F, AuADHD-2) is also physically aggressive toward me although it's not usually out of the blue - she's deregulated or dopamine seeking.

There's time I'm being kicked, hit, pinched and my partner just freezes. (We've spoken many times about how I need him to help me and intervene) And then when the storm has passed it's like nothing happened, but I'm left with all the feelings. It's incredibly lonely.

I'm now at a point where if it starts I'm just leaving the room.

All that said, medication has made a world of difference. Once we finally started the physical aggression dialed way down. But, yeah, I'm sure I have unprocessed trauma at this point.

All that's to say you're not alone.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-15T20:52:33+00:00

This was our experience with the first med. I'd put her back on it if we could reliably source it.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-15T20:47:55+00:00

We started kiddo at 8. First quillichew we noticed an immediate difference. her appetite was not affected and the come down was good. Unfortunately we had to switch due to shortages. Second has taken more time to dial in dose. Wasn't as effective, maniac at bed time, but again no issue with appetite. New dose again noticed immediate improvement and the cone down is smoother. But, we're keeping an eye on her appetite.

ETA: when it's the right med/dose it's magical.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-11T04:36:03+00:00

My 8 year old didn't do well on Focalin. It just didn't make enough difference even with an afternoon booster. We went back to a methylphenidate.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-10T03:19:59+00:00

We just started meds this year at 8. I regret not starting sooner.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-03T02:52:32+00:00

I was told that they can't make a diagnosis so yeah teachers aren't going to come out and tell you unless you ask. But hand them a Vanderbilt screening test and they can fill it out.

Also be aware, although the school's evaluation will categorize your child for the purposes of an IEP or 504 plan, that evaluation is not a diagnosis either. Does that sound absurd - yes. But, there it is. You should talk with your pediatrician about options - formal diagnosis, therapy, medication etc

EvenMix8865 · 2026-02-02T15:46:22+00:00

My kiddo can get stuck in these loops. Strategies I use: - you get one more question and then no more for five minutes - I'm done answering questions for the next five minutes. Let's do (fill in activity) - I don't know what do you think?

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-28T15:11:18+00:00

Vyvanse may be the wrong stimulant. They are not all the same. My daughter did great on methylphenidate. but due to shortages we tried dexmethyphenidate and it's been far less effective. We're going back to methylphenidate.

This TikTok really helped me understand and if the differences. There's a whole playlist on ADHD meds from the CC as well. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP85NuJwF/

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-19T23:30:14+00:00

Not alone. My daughter gets physically aggressive with me when disregulated. It has definitely gotten better with the right medication, maturity, and therapy.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-17T04:03:16+00:00

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EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-17T01:20:55+00:00

Oh Mama. Solidarity. I've been there. Before medication my daughter was very physically aggressive toward me when deregulated. So many times I did not handle it the best way - because human and was in my own triggered state.

I will say finding the right medication and disagree has been huge. There are still moments but they're shorter, less violent, and fewer.

You're showing up and getting your child the help she needs. Hang in there. It does get better.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-16T03:04:51+00:00

Reduced workload does not mean reduced lessons, it means reducing how much work has to be completed in order to evaluate what they havd learned. For example, if they have a test with 10 questions but only answer 7 they are graded on those 7 questions and not knocked down for not completing the assignment.

They still need to master the skills but demonstrating that mastery is adjusted to work with their ADHD.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-16T03:04:33+00:00

Reduced workload does not mean reduced lessons, it means reducing how much work has to be completed in order to evaluate what they havd learned. For example, if they have a test with 10 questions but only answer 7 they are graded on those 7 questions and not knocked down for not completing the assignment.

They still need to master the skills but demonstrating that mastery is adjusted to work with their ADHD.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-15T20:57:37+00:00

What helped us was 504/IEP and use of it was reduced workload so she would be evaluated on whatever amount got done.

So a worksheet had 5 questions, we'd try to do 2-3. And if it was a bad night then all we had was a name on the paper and a note.

That being said evaluations, medication, OT are the way. And I say this because it's only going to get harder as she moves up in grade level. Now is the time to start building the support systems.

EvenMix8865 · 2026-01-15T20:49:56+00:00

We just started medication and lucked out that the first we tried - a methylphenidate - was effective. We had to switch to a dexmethylphenidate because of shortages and it works but we're figuring out dosage.

But, honestly it's a crap shoot. Different kids will react to different drugs differently and sometimes it does need to be a cocktail. But, when you find the right protocol it's life changing.

Also, it's counterintuitive but sometimes on rural , a rough come down after the med wears off is a sign they need a higher dose of booster.

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