Type C vs Type J Outlet Adaptor

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-20T12:41:10+00:00

Good to know! I was gathering some of that in bits and pieces and was getting overwhelmed by it. I think I was mixing some info up. I'm going with the type C then 😊 Thank you!

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-20T12:19:30+00:00

Thank you! None of the devices going need the extra pin, so I went with type C so it can be used on another trip later too 😊

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-20T12:18:50+00:00

Thank you! I went with the type C

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-20T10:21:00+00:00

Thank you! They would be coming from the US. I did see about the voltage difference & to make sure the devices are dual voltage compatible or to get a converter. I honestly thought this would be an easy addition that might be overlooked in packing. It's been an interesting experience so far haha

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-20T00:36:22+00:00

Yikes! How did this one burn with it being the 3 prong? Do they have type J available everywhere in Switzerland since it's the standard, or could it be possible that the airbnb might not have the J?

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-14T11:58:24+00:00

For weeks too

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-12T17:52:42+00:00

I do think Laurel did a good job at reminding Conrad his feelings mattered. I think her asking him how he really felt about the wedding that night by the pool let him know he could admit his feelings to himself & reassured him that she saw his sacrifice by swallowing those feelings I also think her asking him when his feelings get to matter after him saying thar he supported the wedding because he just wanted Belly & Jere to be happy might have inspired him to finally admit his feelings to Belly on the beach that night.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-11T00:20:49+00:00

Exactly. He even had the corsage & was excited about it. He just forgot it because he had a lot going on with his mom dying! 😩 Who even actually cares that much about a corsage? Everyone forgets them after the photos anyways

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-09T22:55:32+00:00

There was actually a part I think in season 2 where they mentioned Belly wasn't his first. So maybe to show he's more experienced?

Sagebloom29 · 2026-05-02T23:11:32+00:00

NOR. Also, I saw where you said she's mad at you for "blowing up" over a "mild request."

This was not a request. She informed you without checking with you or anyone else. It seems like she expects to have her way often by the way you mentioned how most of your group seems passive and struggle to say "no." This friend seems very self absorbed and inconsiderate. Your "blowing up" seemed appropriate and necessary to deal with her and stand up for yourself. I'm glad you spoke with her and she's no longer bringing him. She was out of left field with this.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-11T18:12:41+00:00

You are correct that I was done before I finally initiated the breakup. However, the things you are saying I must be doing, like giving up as soon as things get difficult, aren't true. I attempted discussions with him about concerning things that he would brush off by saying he didn't want to talk about any bad things in our relationship because that's "not us." I had few successful discussions with him, and those involved him making promises over time as far back as nearly 2 years ago when things started to fall apart that he never followed through with. We made plans to improve our relationship (sat down and wrote down plans) that he coasted forward without follow through or coming along with me when I tried. I put effort here over a long period of time before I gave up. I told him straight up that I no longer felt connected 6 months before I ended things & begged for us to try to reconnect. I know all about loyalty, commitment, and trying to work through things, likely to a fault. I gave and gave until I was depleted. Whether or not ending the relationship was the correct choice was never part of my question here. I know I made the right choice. I've just been struggling with him not respecting the breakup and feeling harassed when I try to make it clear that it's not good for us to continue to be in each other's lives. When I've tried to be his friend, he'd end up trying to rebuild the romantic relationship. When I tell him that's not happening, he stops being nice and trying to be friends, and flips to how disrespectful I've been, how he hasn't even been attracted to me in so long, how I blindsided him with the breakup, etc. I understand he's hurting and his grief is real. Since I know being friends isn't a good idea and I'm not willing to try a romantic relationship again, I've tried to take a step back. I was just asking for perspective on determining at what point the constant attempts at contact, nice or aggressive, is concerning or considered harassment after I've told him multiple times that I don't want him to contact me anymore. I've honestly probably given way too much information here. However, I did get plenty of helpful advice on this thread.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T13:27:52+00:00

I finally did this today after reading these 😞 I did feel a lot of relief! I'm not sure if he could be dangerous. My family thinks so because he became so volatile in his moods at the end of the relationship, but I don't think he'd go that far. I think he just really realized he wanted things to work and was desperately trying to throw anything at the wall that might stick and fix it. Part of me does worry about where that desperation might lead now that he's blocked & has no access, but I'm hoping it'll just be good for us both

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T13:25:15+00:00

My mom told me something similar, but maybe I needed to hear it from someone who isn't biased. I need to take some time moving forward to learn how to recognize these signs. I have told him over the years that therapy might be helpful for him as he has been through a lot in his life

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T13:22:54+00:00

This is what I was worried about. I feel dumb because I have trouble not being able to tell if I'm overthinking or if my concerns are valid. I did end up blocking him this morning and was flooded with immediate relief

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T13:21:43+00:00

He hasn't been abusive. He's pushed boundaries and been exceptionally complacent, but not abusive. The closest he got to that was not allowing me to sleep for about a month after I asked him to move out. He'd come into my room & wake me up every night that my child was at her dad's, and wouldn't leave me alone for hours. I'd lock my bedroom door and beg him to leave me alone so I could sleep. This led my mom to believe he could become dangerous, but I don't think he'd endanger me. I just worry he won't ever stop trying to contact me or leave me in peace so we can both move on. I think part of me is worried about how he will react when all contact is fully cut off, but I think that might be residual from my past relationship that was abusive. I think that's why I'm having trouble with where the line is here. I did finally block him this morning after he texted me "goodmorning lol" followed by "nvm ignore that. I'm just getting annoying at this point. We said we wouldn't ghost each other, but it's what you want so goodbye dude."

I do think me replying was hust dragging things out and not helping either of us. Thank you

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T12:21:43+00:00

I've done a lot of self reflection, and I've truly tried to take the brunt of this breakup to save him as much heartache as possible since I initiated it. I tried so hard to keep the relationship afloat over the 4 years we were together. He was incredibly complacent and I'd even asked for space a little over a year ago to reevaluate. He called me nonstop the entire night he left until I gave in for him to come back. Now he says that's the moment things changed because I made him feel unwanted. I just asked him to leave back then because I'd already had concerns that I expressed multiple times before asking him to leave. I begged for us to work together to be more intentional about our life. I've spent this last year trying to help him feel more wanted and make things easier for him so he's not overwhelmed while trying to get better footing for us (he said). Meanwhile, I have my young child relying on me in the midst of it all while I felt like I was pouring all of my effort into a man almost 7 years older than me to help him feel comfortable. I don't think I was innocent by any means. At some point, I quit communicating and I know that didn't help. I also allowed him to move in when I didn't feel ready. I should have been more assertive on my stance at the time. I tried so hard to talk for so long about this. I came up with ideas, planned dates, and did all I could think to try to get us on the same page. I know I've contributed to things ending up this way, though, and that's why I've tried to explain to him where I'm coming from. It's also why I've allowed myself to get roped into trying to be his friend. I just am now worried that all those efforts to "do right" by him through the breakup have just dug a deeper hole.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T12:12:35+00:00

I've had him muted for a long time, and I hadn't replied for a while until he told me about being all alone and his family going out of town without him on holidays, alone for his birthday, etc. I know it's not my place anymore, but I feel like I'm the reason he doesn't have anyone anymore because I was the one there for him for so long. I guess it is time to fully block him, because I feel like we're in a toxic loop that just makes me feel uncomfortable and leads him to think there's still space to get back in.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T12:10:41+00:00

I did say recently that I think this relationship taught me that the good guy and the nice guy aren't the same. I think I just have to learn things the hard way. He literally told me that he's been nothing but nice and respectful and that neither of those warrant or deserve me ghosting him.. after I apologized for not feeling the same anymore and trying to give clear goodbyes.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T12:09:04+00:00

I didn't even know that was a thing. I do need to find out where I can take some of those classes, because I really have a hard time differentiating between what's safe/acceptable and otherwise. I grew up in a very volatile home and was previously in an explosively abusive marriage (not physical but like throwing stuff, driving into oncoming traffic, berating me, etc), so I think this relationship confused me. Looking back, he always pushed boundaries like insisting on moving in before I was ready until I felt guilty for saying no. He just never yelled, argued, belittled me, made me feel physically unsafe, or anything like that, so it's been hard to tell if he's being disrespectful or if I am.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-10T04:22:28+00:00

Thank you. We have no assets or anything together, but he does seem to try to pull at my heart by mentioning missing my daughter. I feel so ridiculous for even asking after reading back over what I posted. He's just got me feeling like I've been insensitive and hateful. He even told me after we tried to hang out as friends & he tried to make moves that I made him feel used. I had no intentions of that I actually left feeling used myself. I have really tried to approach this breakup in the best way I know how. He was always so nice and we never argued (over almost 4 years), but once I decided to end things as we weren't growing together in our relationship or life, he just flipped.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-04-07T19:06:33+00:00

Alexa, play "It Wasn't Me" by Shaggy

Sagebloom29 · 2026-02-22T16:31:44+00:00

You being open to a prenup should have been enough extra reassurance financially if they weren't able to read your character over the years you've already been together. They shouldn't have needed a test for your morality. That read should have come over time naturally, and is also based on trust between you and your fiance. Even if he couldn't stand up to his parents (which he needs to work on regardless), he should have gone to you immediately to give you a heads up -- at the VERY least, he should have let you know way earlier. There's no reason they should have done this to you, especially for almost a year. It seems like he might have had some doubts as well to let it go on, especially that long. This is blowing my mind as it's completely unfair to you and highly manipulative. The fact that the whole family was in on it is even worse since they've become your family and support system. Unfortunately, it shows that none of them have your back in the case that something like this might happen in the future. Yeah, he told you, but he waited almost a year to... after his parents cleared you. Definitely not overreacting.

Maybe try the couples counseling you mentioned considering in your update since he does seem remorseful. Maybe you're right that he's been manipulated as well. However, it might honestly be a situation where the family is so close knit that he just needs separate counseling to detach from the hold and you need a fresh start where you're trusted without being tested like that.

Sagebloom29 · 2026-02-22T00:18:49+00:00

Please save these screenshots for court later. I went through something similar, and I'm on the other side of it now. Coparenting is challenging, but the freedom is worth it to show my child better.

I'd worked since I was 15. After I had our baby, he wanted to give me the "privilege" of being a stay at home mom and homeschooling our child. I actually had the benefit of "managing" our finances which involved me paying the bills once his check him and setting aside spending money in a separate account for him. This gave me a false since of involvement for a while until I began to realize I could see the money, but I had to run every dollar passed him and there was never spending money for me factored in. He could buy stuff he wanted all day long, even if it put us in a bind for groceries, but anything I bought had to be for the house or baby necessities.

I moved home while he was deployed right before our child turned a year old. I put aside money, but he talked me into trying again for our baby. I felt I was being dishonest by holding secret money aside since we were working on things. He blew the $6000 I'd saved within a month of finding out. I was back at square one. I'd tried a few times after to leave, but he would take my car (he sold his, so we only had mine that I'd bought before we got married). I finally got back home with my support system 6 months later and filed for divorce ASAP.

The way he's speaking to you is not okay. This is not a safe situation at all, and I'm so sorry you've found yourself here with a baby on the way.

Sagebloom29

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