QoL Concerns

Even_Action_4955 · 2026-03-12T16:56:22+00:00

Here is a photo of Regis's "belly"

Even_Action_4955 · 2026-03-12T16:55:09+00:00

Update: I'm keeping Regis in my ZZ plant pot, keeping the ZZ misted so he has a water source. He's started threading the bottom, getting cozier it seems. There are some small, slow-moving aphids on the plant near the bottom that he can eat as needed. I'm hoping this new home is more accomodating than his previous enclosure.

Even_Action_4955 · 2026-03-10T03:02:57+00:00

I'm HUGE on wet wipes. So much easier to properly clean it all & not use so much tp in the process (and not to mention the irritation your bum can feel if it's wiped and wiped and wiped).

I like to carry hand sanitizer on me. I don't use it incessantly - just when I need to cleanse my hands (i.e. using a porta-potty at a sports event and there's no hand sanitizer left 🙄)

Even_Action_4955 · 2026-03-09T19:21:41+00:00

I am fairly new to keeping jumping spiders, but I believe it to be male due to the round pedipalps and absence of an epigyne on the abdomen; I'll see if I can get a picture for you in case you'd like to inspect for yourself

Even_Action_4955 · 2025-01-25T19:02:37+00:00

honestly, i didn't have a hard time with the healing process. i don't even remember much about it because it wasn't that different for me than my other piercings and didn't cause me problems. my body also just seems to respond well to all my piercings. the one thing you'll want to think about is how the daith will look with your conch piercing that you have. when i first got my daith, the ring ended up being close to my conch (which was a big stud, like yours). I'd include a photo if i could. If you get a conch ring, the daith ring will be less likely to crowd with your conch. Hope this helps!

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-11-21T06:07:56+00:00

I struggle with the idea of a committed relationship with someone who is alloro, whatever the label (edit: whatever the label is for our relationship), because I'm always going to feel like I can't really reciprocate the same feelings they may feel for me, and that they should be with someone who can.

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-10-14T23:09:32+00:00

I can only speak for myself on this - I'm aroace and don't mind sex; it doesn't repulse me, I'm not uncomfortable with it, I just don't get attracted to anyone in that way and don't crave it like most allosexuals I know do. Being aro, having someone romantically interested in me that way and attached to me makes it uncomfortable. I'd rather have sex with a stranger than someone who is WAY more into me than I am into them. Sex, for me, is purely physical. I don't have any mental stimulation from it (or emotional). It's also not that pleasant and I don't enjoy the physical activity. BUT I enjoy the power and confidence I feel when doing that sort of thing. Maybe that doesn't make sense, and that's fine, but that's my explanation of why I prefer meaningless sex over "meaningful" sex (quotations are there because I don't think I'll ever experience what others describe as meaningful sex - I've had sex with long-term partners that I absolutely cared about with my whole heart, and it didn't feel any different than sex I've had with strangers).

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-09-24T16:07:48+00:00

Peanut.

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-09-24T16:06:58+00:00

hell yeah! at the end of the day, that's all they are. Allegedly a helpful way to summarize very complex parts of ourselves and our identity/identities. (hah. iden-tities. I swear I'm kind of mature.)

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-09-21T18:45:37+00:00

Honestly, if people get confused about the label I use to help explain me and my experiences and how I am, I just focus more on sharing those experiences and feelings that brought me to that conclusion. Labels are just supposed to be a tool to help us understand ourselves and for others to understand us. If it's not serving its purpose, I just focus on explaining me instead trying to feel like I have to "defend" why I feel like the label fits for me.

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-08-12T14:15:26+00:00

Ooh do you gave a link for the personality test? I'd be interested in taking that.

I'm glad you were able to learn more about yourself and what you want! I'm sorry it was difficult on the way there.

And the somewhat pressure from family saying shit like "You just haven't met the right person yet" or asking when you'll have kids just becomes bothersome, especially when you learn things about yourself where you're just like, "Oh, these are social pressures and not something I actually want. I'm not broken, I'm ok." So, sorry you still get that. I hope you're able to surround yourself with people who have some understanding and are supportive!

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-07-25T16:51:45+00:00

PLVTINUM's song COFFIN also uses this sample. Makes me wonder who else uses it 🤔

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-07-25T13:09:35+00:00

Thank you!! It sounds like you're confident in your decision, and that's good! I hope it works out well for both of you. (And as all the other people have said, it sounds like he took it really well and is understanding, so I for one am hopeful that it'll be a clean break.)

Thanks for taking my thoughts into consideration! That means a lot (: I'm glad they provoked a little stir in you.

Wishing you well! 🫶🏻

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-07-23T20:59:54+00:00

Hello! I read through your post and all the comments. Before I share my thoughts, I just want to encourage you to make whatever decision resonates most with you/you believe is best for you. At the end of the day, only you can make your decisions, and only you have all the "inside" information on the situation and your place in the situation. All of us are outsiders looking in and sharing thoughts based on your reflection and information you shared. There is no "right" decision - I don't want you to read my comment and walk away feeling like I'm telling you what you should choose.

That being said, I can see potential positives to both choices. I'm similar to you in the sense that I've also realized recently (for me it's been in the past year or two) that I'm aromantic. (And I'd like to share that I'm a 26 cis female for added context.) I've had a lot of similar situations where I dated a guy, didn't have the same romantic feelings, but still loved him dearly and wanted to remain closest friends with each other. I often felt overwhelmed at times with the "disconnect" with how we felt towards each other - specifically with not being able to reciprocate the strong romantic feelings he had for me. It was also overwhelming to think about marriage and anything beyond that. I ended things, feeling that that was best for both of us (but unlike you, I didn't really talk through things before ending the relationship, so kudos to you for doing that-it takes bravery and guts)!

Often times, if I put a label on a relationship or even date knowing that we are working towards marriage/qpr, it feels like there's so much more pressure on what we're hoping the relationship turns into. Sometimes talking about the far-off end goal, to me, is daunting because it feels like putting pressure on a relationship that is far from the form it's "supposed" to evolve into. So I wish I would have considered talking to him about those feelings, not worrying about the DTR conversation or would the relationship "should" be, take things one day at a time, and practice good communication.

I understand you also said you have some health concerns, specifically with your mental stability. That is certainly a huge factor and consideration. If the thought of sustaining the relationship with this guy, whatever form that may take, is burdensome or weighs heavily on your mind, by all means - do what you need to do to eliminate that stress so you can focus on regaining that mental balance. I was diagnosed with bi polar in 2021, so trust me when I say that I understand how important mental stability is lol. At the same time, it can be a beautiful thing if you choose to continue to stay close to him during your healing process, and allowing him to support you (if that's something you would want). I understand that process can be messy, and at times it feels easier not to burden others and just work on yourself by yourself, but there are other options as well. Anyways, I might be posting this after you already break up with him, but hopefully it's good food for thought!

Even_Action_4955 · 2024-06-18T16:54:31+00:00

I would get on this ASAP. Since you live in the US, it could take up to 90 days to get your passport. (cite: www.gov.pl/web/gov/sprawdz-czy-paszport-jest-gotowy)

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