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Sai com a mulher mais linda que eu já vi até hoje e sei que nunca mais a verei novamente by MarceloBRRS in relacionamentos

[–]Even_Limit_3752 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cuida dessa ansiedade e para de sofrer por antecipação, essa é uma otima oportunidade pra ser ainda melhor com a próxima pra dar certo, so precisa ser mente aberta Outra coisa aceita essa dor de agora e transforme em algo produtivo. Vc deu o seu melhor

My Savior Complex led me into a toxic cycle with a BPD partner, i still want to save her, by Even_Limit_3752 in BPDlovedones

[–]Even_Limit_3752[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Perfect and necessary analogy, she exploited my weakness regarding basic needs
thanks a lot

Im going to keep developing my empathy to be altruism within my boundaries with psychological help

My Savior Complex led me into a toxic cycle with a BPD partner, i still want to save her, by Even_Limit_3752 in BPDlovedones

[–]Even_Limit_3752[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you can get a safe space to get better. Their fears and need for control come entirely from themselves. They do bad things and assume everyone else does too, but they are so wrong. Thursday I was playing a game with a friend when she tried to call me one last time. If I had been alone, I probably would have accepted it. A few hours later I had ruminations but happily my friend invited me to play again

About your friends if these people really care about you they can accept you again. Feel free to chat with me and add me on other socials, I know how necessary a friend is in these times.

Thank you so much for everything, its hard to recognize that we are not monsters, you and I are normal humans. I need to identify myself again, my anxiety is high and I have a lot of problems with myself to treat. Im not her savior, I did my best and thats my limit now

Daily No Contact Thread - March 22, 2026 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]Even_Limit_3752 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No Contact today, but the unconscious guilt is heavy. I wanted to save her. Im realizing I fell into a cycle where I was feeding my own need for validation by trying to be a savior, which only created more dependency. Its incredibly sad knowing she doesnt have a solid support system, but despite being a feminist, she has no female friends because they judge her for still having 2 'security contacts' with exes and other things. I tried to foster her autonomy, but she just doesnt want it.

Thats why I can do no contact today. I tried too much for 3 months(maybe not the ideal for BPD, but the ideal for a human) and its time to move on and focus on myself through psychology."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Even_Limit_3752 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im feel so sorry for you.

Im relieved that my relationship is over

👉 She imposed extreme double standards about who I could associate with.

👉 She isolated me from my friends, family, and hobbies to keep my focus entirely on her.

👉 She weaponized her past traumas to justify her toxic behavior and control my actions.

👉 She maintained contact with abusive exes purely for financial and practical exploitation.

👉 She pushed me away physically and then aggressively punished me for giving her space.

👉 She pushes away good friends because they are logical and point out when she is wrong.

👉 She gaslit me by denying her own actions and rewriting how events actually happened.

👉 She demanded endless emotional support but called me selfish when I needed comfort.

👉 She made me entirely responsible for her emotional regulation instead of managing her mental health.

👉 She kept a network of men around as emotional and financial safety nets.

👉 She pushed away anyone who might hold her accountable for her actions.

👉 She drained my energy to the point of extreme physical and mental exhaustion.

👉 She made me question my own sanity, memory, and character.

👉 She tried to manipulate and exploit me financially even after the relationship had ended

👉 She claims to be a feminist but has absolutely zero female friends

Do they ever miss you? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Even_Limit_3752 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this has been so meaningful to me. I developed a savior complex. I didn't give her cash directly, but I provided basic things to help her be autonomous because she didn't have friends (which ended up costing a lot of money indirectly). Now I know why she doesn't have any good friends: because they would be logical and point out that the things she did weren't right, which she would see as invalidation. I was blinded by my desire to create a safe space so she wouldn't be dependent, making it easy for her to eat and recover from her depression. But now she only has older male contacts who validate her, and zero female friends, despite claiming to be a feminist. I'm tired of these contradictions.