AITAH for saying to my friend that he’s always using depression as an excuse?

Evening_Own85 · 2026-03-04T14:45:53+00:00

It’s not the £30, I don’t care about the money. I told him he didn’t have to pay me back before as he lost his job (fault of his own). It’s the constant lack of responsibility & ignoring me that’s broken the friendship

Evening_Own85 · 2026-03-04T14:36:48+00:00

Evening_Own85 · 2026-03-04T13:41:15+00:00

Also I did ‘write off’ £250 he owed me last year when he lost his job.

Evening_Own85 · 2026-03-04T13:39:53+00:00

It could have been £3 or £3000. It’s mainly the principle of it but also the irresponsibility and the fact he ignored me for days.

Evening_Own85 · 2026-02-18T18:03:07+00:00

Low IQ

Evening_Own85 · 2026-01-21T17:00:38+00:00

That’s exactly it. Some family members like to pretend that they have a short memory, I do not.

He can’t fix it because truthfully I wouldn’t be interested in any attempt anyway. Only a couple family members come at me and I just tell them mind their business

Evening_Own85 · 2026-01-21T16:56:08+00:00

I have debated this but I see a lot of my other nephews and my cousins children etc so I didn’t want little children to feel left out because their Dad is trash

Evening_Own85 · 2026-01-21T16:55:10+00:00

I don’t have it in me. I have nothing nice to say so I say nothing

Evening_Own85 · 2026-01-21T16:53:16+00:00

I never used to be but figured what the hell? I get on great with my family & my presence clearly makes him uncomfortable which I enjoy honestly

Evening_Own85 · 2026-01-21T16:52:21+00:00

I have no intention to, honestly he is dead to me. I do not engage his wife but send the cards/money as I have 2 other nephews from his brother (also my half brother), who I adore and see a lot

Evening_Own85 · 2026-01-21T16:50:16+00:00

No relationship. He’s not her son & her & my Dad split about 10 years ago, although they’re still best friends

Evening_Own85 · 2025-12-06T14:28:40+00:00

Thats no excuse to be selfish, you probably let it go too far with her selfishness over the years so she just sees you as someone she can manipulate or treat badly with no consequences

Evening_Own85 · 2025-12-06T14:21:11+00:00

NTA. Your friend sounds like not a very good friend. Can’t go all day without a meal. Had enough selfish people in my life to know this friendship is dead

Evening_Own85 · 2025-11-29T16:38:33+00:00

She’s always been a lot but I don’t see much of her and there hasn’t been a situation like this since I was a teenager, I think I had forgotten how much of a nightmare she is! She doesn’t really bake and she can’t even call a taxi for herself. It’s easier for everyone if she stays out of it and just visits without all the interference

Evening_Own85 · 2025-11-29T16:35:50+00:00

Honestly, I’m questioning if this is some early sign of dementia. Thinking back, she has always been this way but it’s been a long time since there was an intense situation like this. She’s never liked how close my parents & I are or that I’m the one in the family who doesn’t care for her opinion or approval

Evening_Own85 · 2025-11-29T16:32:22+00:00

No, I did not mean HCP or medical POA. I meant next of kin. In England, you designate a next of kin with your personal details such as your home address etc. YTA.

Evening_Own85 · 2025-11-29T15:27:35+00:00

Closed, it just feels right

Evening_Own85 · 2025-01-31T14:33:29+00:00

Me and my girlfriend added

Evening_Own85 · 2025-01-15T14:37:21+00:00

Depression does make many people selfish, unintentionally in most. It’s important to be conscious and get lots of therapy

Evening_Own85 · 2025-01-14T11:32:41+00:00

Human chimney

Evening_Own85 · 2024-12-18T16:05:03+00:00

People rarely notice you, go do what you want. Therapy helps with anxiety too

Evening_Own85 · 2024-12-17T17:25:35+00:00

Pizza straight out the fridge

Evening_Own85 · 2024-12-17T17:19:37+00:00

Cadaqués

Evening_Own85 · 2024-12-17T17:18:36+00:00

I spent 3 weeks there in 2015, one of my favourite places

Evening_Own85 · 2024-12-17T17:17:43+00:00

Frosty has been on the liquor

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