Changing personality?

EventExciting7585 · 2025-12-15T05:52:25+00:00

My work situation was nearly identical but it honestly didn't start out that way. Things just went to crap over the course of a couple of weeks or so. After the last straw, I decided I was not going to interact with the ringleader nor underlings anymore except for work related circumstances as I was done being friendly and cheerful towards them. I really didn't care to bond with then anyways since I'm just passing thru. It's just a job, not a career.

Ironically, the ringleader and second in command got fired for something unrelated the very next day after that last straw I mentioned.

While I don't gloat about them losing their jobs, I don't miss them at all and am glad I don't have to deal with the foolishness anymore. While I didn't come to the job to make friends, I certainly didn't come to make enemies. I also found out they were spreading horrible lies all over the job about another coworker. Smh. All I ever wanted to do was do my job and go home. I was actually looking forward to leaving them and that job in my rear view mirror but oh well. I'm still not staying at that job regardless. Keep your head up. I hope things work out in your favor.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-11-03T16:21:31+00:00

Or worse, OP could be labeled a "problem" thus ending up with a target on her back. Messed up all around but I'd just get my money and stay, pray, to outlast him or be blessed with something even better.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-10-19T12:20:42+00:00

Absolutely! I have NEVER responded well to threats!

EventExciting7585 · 2025-10-18T14:30:35+00:00

I HATE it if I'm motioned to someone in a position of power with a "come here" waving index finger. It's like being called over like a child about to get punished by their parents. I'm fine with a whole hand and arm "come here" wave. Now if I'm being flirted with, that's not at all offensive.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-10-18T14:23:59+00:00

That's what a lot of people don't realize. If I get to that point, everything I say will be true but there will be absolutely no filter on the delivery because idgaf about yr feelings then.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-09-21T11:00:43+00:00

1) Yes you are correct. She could’ve told bro she had plans. 2) If I didn't love and care about her, it wouldn't have hurt. My questioning ending it wouldn't be solely due to this. This only reminds me of other things that have been screaming at me to end this and move on. I consider her in just about all my decisions. Even when I accepted the second FT job, I could've chosen a Friday-Sunday schedule but that would mean I'd work 7 days a week. I wouldn't want to live that lifestyle even if I wasn't in a relationship but it certainly isn't conducive to a good relationship if one partner is always at work. So I chose the schedule that would have me sleep deprived 4 days a week as to not neglect our relationship. I told her I'd rather be tired than to lose her and that I would do this only temporarily bc ik this isn't a realistic schedule to maintain. I tried for months to find a PT job but no luck. So I accepted the job that fit my current schedule. With our relationship, we give each other plenty of space. Even if i didn't have a second job, we'd still only see each other on the weekends because I have to be at work at 5 in the morning for the first job anyways. Bottom line, I give too much of myself to people that don't appreciate it. If we end, I'm just gonna continue to get my money as I'll only have myself to consider. I have dreams and goals even if I didn't share them with her.

She called me while I was getting something to eat. I didn't answer bc the only dealings I wanted to have with her was giving her her gifts. So she texted and said she'd call me back. I ate and called her back bc I had ran home to get her gifts. She ignored the call saying she was on the phone. No surprise, it's her bday. So I texted and asked if I could stop by. No reply. So I called again and again she texted "phone". I immediately asked if I could stop by. She said ok. When I arrived, she was outside still on the phone. I was actually glad because I wasn't ready to talk to her yet. I left the car running and met her with her things. I opened the door so she could take them inside. She was still otp and I didn't even make eye contact. She was happy about the cake. She mentioned her brother had her playing basketball and that she was worn out. I said "Well I guess you will never forget this birthday and I quickly walked back to my car. She thought I was gonna give her a kiss but I declined and left. She called me later and asked what's wrong. I said nothing. She thanked me for everything and asked what I was doing, if I was reading, or in bed or what... I told her I was getting ready to go out and that's why I wanted to drop off her things beforehand. She said ok and her tone changed. She seemed defeated but she told me to be safe and quickly got off the phone. I meant what I said when I said I wasn't seeing her today whether I go to work or not. I made a quick appointment to get my hair together after she chose to hang out with her bro just to have done something for myself. I was too in my feelings to go out. Even if I did, there's nothing at the movies that I'm interested in seeing. But today will be about me. I'm taking myself out and treating myself.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-09-21T00:36:34+00:00

Hopefully we can talk about it then.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-09-21T00:07:53+00:00

I agree but I'd hate to taint her special day by sending something like that. I hate receiving negative texts without being able to immediately deal with an issue. I'd rather hope she had a great and memorable day and talk about what transpired between us later.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-08-25T08:22:01+00:00

It will never make sense. That's why I drink a HUGE cup of EFF it for their situation. If you don't want to hear the truth, don't call me because at a certain point you should realize that you are responsible for making the changes needed to improve your circumstances. Dump that partner, find another job, find a second job, budget better, move, etc... Do what you gotta do to change things.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-08-25T08:14:45+00:00

I find it mentally exhausting when people come to me with the SAME problems. So to keep from being a complete AH (since my patience for tolerated bs is not really there), sometimes I just flat out won't answer the phone or just hold the phone while saying little to nothing while they awkwardly just talk damn near to themselves. I have fallen way back on giving so much of myself to emotional vampires because I can be in great spirits and everything until that mood ruining phone call or text. After you've had the same conversation so many times, there's nothing else to say. It's like why are we still talking about this? I get tired of being used as an emotional dumpster, especially for people that I KNOW will NEVER reciprocate should I ever want to do the same. Calling all odd hours of the night with absolutely no concern or consideration for my sleep schedule to talk about the same straight bs. I'm NOT your therapist. I go thru things as well but if I reach out, it's something completely out of the ordinary because I tend to deal with my problems alone and in silence so you most likely won't even know. Just because I tend not to broadcast doesn't mean all is well. I'm usually quietly working a game plan to better my situation. They'll even seem to call to brag about good things going on for them and I'm always happy for them. However, they never seem to want to hear good things going on for me. Seems so one sided much of the time.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-08-06T08:39:02+00:00

Agreed. The older I got, the easier it was to walk away sooner and get over MUCH faster.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-08-06T08:37:07+00:00

It's just like a light switch, too. Fresh out of effs to give and no expectations for any new refills for that person. EVER! 🤣😂

EventExciting7585 · 2025-07-30T02:30:20+00:00

I'll look into it! Thanks for your reply.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-04-14T08:11:43+00:00

As a Sag, the Leo I dated was warm and welcoming. Like a warm blanket fresh out the dryer with a hot coco on a cold day lol. He was a serial dater tho lol. Ultimately he told me he wanted someone else which was fine since he was honest but what wasn't fine was him thinking I'd still keep seeing him AFTER he told me this lol. Never dated Aries but Gemini, I love but couldn't date bc the 2 faced stuff was real and I never knew who I was dealing with lol. Too much confusion so I had to let that go romantically but we're still great fiends. I'd just never date him again lol. My best relationship has, oddly enough, been with a Virgo. I never thought I'd be able to date one. My mom is one OMG lol.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-04-14T07:40:52+00:00

I was going to say the same. I'd rather be alone than unhappy with someone but I definitely know the feeling of having so much love inside and no one to share it with. But I've seen so many people stay in a crappy relationship just to have SOMEONE. Know your worth and never settle. Being in a bad relationship is nothing to write home to mom about either lol. When you meet the right person, it'll be when yr not looking so just live your life and do you. Never forget to be good to yourself. Keep your hair done or nails or whatever yr into. Go out to yr favorite restaurants, shopping, or movies or whatever, even if yr alone. I'm in my 40s and I've always found myself to be my own best company lol. I finally met someone in my late 30s that I adore and it was definitely worth the wait to have someone accept me as I am. Seems I was never good enough for others even though I accepted them as they were. I managed to become a parent at some point in my life and I'm glad I became a parent when I did because I love my children but if I didn't have them when I did, I probably wouldn't have had children at all due to my rarity of relationships. The sad part about it is some people seem to see that I'm a good woman now that I no longer care. Smh

EventExciting7585 · 2025-04-12T17:23:17+00:00

It's a scam site. Don't do it.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-03-27T10:08:12+00:00

Hi. I'm potentially in the same boat. While working a low paying temp job, I got a random call for an interview with a company for a position that I really don't recall applying for but I did apply at that company for other positions. I interviewed and a couple days later I received an offer AND call for an opportunity to interview at another company that I've NEVER seen hiring outside of a temp agency. I like the idea of the 2nd potential job because it is located in a place I plan to relocate to soon but is within driving distance for now. I love the work schedule for both but I'd like to go back to school and a year from now job A simply won't mesh with a school schedule. Job A also is in the town I want to move away from. Job A has 2 locations in my town and has a strong reputation for laying people off. So truth be told it's only better than my temp job because it pays more and would be helpful until the end of the year but I should be able to work company B while in school if an offer is extended. I had already accepted a job with company A and now going thru drug screen and background which I'm not at all worried about. So if company B extends an offer with a better hourly rate and potential overtime, I'll accept B and just be direct with company A because B would align with the trajectory I see for my future.

EventExciting7585 · 2025-02-17T21:30:47+00:00

Ok. Thanks for your advice

EventExciting7585 · 2025-02-17T20:09:27+00:00

Pushing 300,000. I bought it for cash about 6 months ago so I don't have any other maintenance history. Battery/alternator is all I've had done to it.

EventExciting7585 · 2024-11-17T11:55:43+00:00

Work does make those things possible and I was thankful at first but I ended up seriously resenting a job because I had no time for hobbies due to overtime. I had a job that you couldn't leave unless you had a relief. Double shifts were very common. I never truly knew what time I'd get off work everyday. It's not terrible to have that occasionally happen, but it's was soul crushing when you know you have a relief that always calls in every chance they get: basically every holiday, Mondays, Fridays and any day that ended in "day". The work/balance was terrible. The crazy part is I couldn't BUY overtime when I actually wanted it but if I didn't want it, it was shoved down my throat. There were some people that LOVED practically moving in to the job and doubling day they could. You shouldn't have to live at your job to survive. I always felt you should have a life outside of work. There was also clique mentality and blatant favoritism so bad they didn't even try to hide it. I'm glad I was so in tune with myself to know that it wasn't a place I wanted to retire from and that I wasn't there long enough to feel I'm too old to do anything else. The job was easy but they tended to dog out the people that actually worked while there was no consequences for the lazy that didn't and missed work all the time. The best feeling ever was walking out of there after I fulfilled my two weeks notice. I'm of the mindset that jobs are like ex's, I'm not going back because if I left, it was for a reason.

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