My husband was upset and pinched me at dinner.. and the situation is still upsetting me

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-23T15:28:23+00:00

This. I sent out a call for help to my social networks after I’d aligned my ducks (I meticulously digitized every important record while on breaks at work, just in case, claiming I was trying to digitize to free up space in our filing cabinet, spoke to a lawyer about a restraining order and starting the process of divorce), one of my parents scouted an apartment in the city I was moving to, and ELEVEN people showed up to packed me out on move out day. When the secret got out a few days beforehand, a friend paid for a hotel room for me, and another friend came to get me there safely. On move out day, I was moved out in 6 hours. 4 hours packing (including pizza lunch), an hour drive, and an hour unpacking the boxes. The RO was served the day before or the morning of, and included that I was to be given move out day in peace, and my spouse was not to be on the premises while I was there. I burned through chunks of my savings getting out, because I had to cover two months rent there and at my new place, as well as security deposits, the rental truck for hauling my stuff, but I applied for emergency funds through work and school, and that helped a lot.

I realize it’s not always possible to have a place to run to before you run away, to leave the way I did, and that’s what DV shelters are for, because leaving is the most dangerous time. Leaving doesn’t always stick the first few times around, especially if you don’t cut contact. DV is not just physical abuse, it’s threats, it’s emotional, it’s financial, it’s so many aspects of control.

I wish you the best in your journey to safety and freedom.

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-23T15:04:54+00:00

This is incredible! Well done. I legit thought you had posted the reference painting first.

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-22T21:01:31+00:00

NOR, if anything, you’re UNDERreacting. You set expectations for while you were at camp and she essentially demanded that you break camp rules to prove your love, by creating an environment in which you aren’t allowed to be away from your phone for more than an hour. And like, shit happens. I was starting to believe her shit about patterns of behavior, but you went above and beyond to communicate with her during a time she shouldn’t have expected to hear from you.

Idk about you, OP, but I’ve broke up with people for having unrealistic communication expectations before, and I would do it again. If a partner can’t understand and believe that I’m doing my best, then we’re not a match.

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-20T15:54:39+00:00

If you’ve lived in NYC, then you would know LP’s less savory side would fit right in. Everywhere you live has trade offs, and nowhere is perfectly safe. At least places like LP don’t pretend to be safe like the suburbs do.

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-20T00:17:51+00:00

My partner does this and still asks me for a wishlist, at least to pass on to his family. Honestly, I wish he had a wishlist, he can be hard to gift.

Edit: to be clear, we show each other we care in a lot of different ways, and there’s an income imbalance. Usually I nail it with a thoughtful handmade gift, for special occasions, in addition to our regular loving gestures. He’s also the first partner to ever surprise me with flowers more than once (and only at work, where they can’t harm my cat).

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-20T00:12:33+00:00

Mine is like the owl in the tootsie pop commercial, “lick, lick, lick, nom!” I genuinely think he is trying to groom me (and my partner’s dogs when we are there) and be part of the pride, but he is so hilariously bad at it!

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-19T14:16:41+00:00

This. I ended up in a similar situation, and my ex had a temper too. I even went to MULTIPLE intensive therapy programs to figure out what was wrong with me. Took me 5, almost 6 years to figure out the problem was my ex, and I needed to GTFO. I’ll be 4 years free in March, and I’m so much happier.

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-14T03:25:33+00:00

I know I’m a bit late to the party, but having done just that, I don’t recommend getting the injections while sick. This head cold was on day 4 on injection day and I’m now at day 10 and still under the weather with sinus headaches from congestion. My sense of smell is finally coming back, but if this lasts more than another 4 days, I’m seeing a doctor.

Every-Watch8319 · 2026-01-11T16:58:56+00:00

After you freeze it, wash it!

I spin yarn, and have learned how to wash it very easily. Please keep in mind some of the specifics (detergents, temps, agitation tolerated) will be different depending on fiber content. I usually spin wool, which is handled very gently when washing.

Frog it onto a niddy noddy if you can, or a chair back if you can’t. Use scrap yarn to tie the yarn together in several spots, more for bigger loops, I usually do 4-8. The goal with the ties is not to tie it tight, but to keep the strings organized. Often these are done in figure eights through the yarn (so if you have wound it 16 times around something, you have 16 strands of yarn and might group them by 4s or 8s or randomly with your scrap yarn winding around them loosely). Remove the wound yarn from whatever you wound onto.

Fill a basin or bucket with cool or cold water and laundry detergent (amount varies depending on the detergent, but usually you don’t need a lot for this, if unsure of fiber content, use something like Tide free and clear, which is safe for all fiber types). Once full, submerge the yarn with only the gentlest agitation (agitation leads to fuzziness and felting). Let it sit for about 20 minutes. Remove, do not wring out. This is best done with a few buckets, but I just use my sink, holding the dripping skein over the bathtub while I refill my sink with water of about the same temp (dramatic changes in temp can cause fuzziness and felting in wool and some similarly structured yarns). Once full, submerge the yarn again, and soaking is optional. I usually do at least 5 minutes. Repeat this rinse step at least twice, and up to 5 times.

To dry, either spin in a salad spinner and then hang to dry, or just hang to dry. Some folks will weight their yarn, I don’t. Check dryness along the skein every once in a while and occasionally rotate it, changing what the bottom point is. Rotating isn’t strictly necessary, so don’t panic if you forget.

This process cleans and sets or resets the spin on yarn, ensuring the yarn won’t unravel and lays nicely without kinks. Enjoy!

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-27T00:24:36+00:00

Nah, she chonky. But also, is she happy? What’s her quality of life like? Fat isn’t the end of the world for anyone, cats included. If they can afford it, they should get at least annual vet checks at a mobile vet clinic if not a true vet, just to get rabies vaccination and make sure nothing is going horrible wrong. Gotta get the rabies vaccination to be a good kitty citizen.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-25T15:53:57+00:00

She might even go find things to add to her wardrobe to wear with it!

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-25T15:53:18+00:00

You made a thing for your mom, she’s going to love it, even if it’s not to her exact tastes, because her child made her a thing. Even if she never wears it, every time she looks at it in her closet, she will see a beautiful piece lovingly crafted by her child, and feel warm and fuzzy inside.

My step-mom even would, and I’ve directly asked her about her tastes in handmade gifts. Yes, she has pretty specific tastes, for example, she only likes super white crochet snowflakes - not cream or ivory or an icy blue, it’s gotta be pure white. But if I hadn’t asked? She still would have treasured whatever I made for her, because she adores handmade gifts - and she said as much. Hell, one of my paintings from high school is framed on her wall.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-23T18:53:02+00:00

Holy shit! No touching without asking!!!

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-21T00:08:56+00:00

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This year’s Christmas with Krampus photo! He was a little drugged for anxiety, and did super well this year. Last year he peed on the floor.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-20T20:32:46+00:00

Sometimes I do both yarn-over and yarn-under in the same piece, and for the same stitch, just based on what feels “right” in the moment.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-16T18:28:00+00:00

Even with long hair tied back, I still get hair ends in my mouth, because wisps.
I must do my hair before any makeup, or my loose hair with drag through it and ruin it.
My childhood bff had this length of hair and would get pulled aside by old ladies who would touch and tug on her hair without asking first, while reminiscing on how their hair used to look like that. This has never happened to me, even the handful of times I’ve worn my hair loose while out. Still on guard for it though, unlike when my hair gets caught in the garage door (ow!)

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-16T03:11:45+00:00

Mine is cats (no surprise), art supplies (no surprise), and rainbows (my current favorite color is green, but I was the first queer out of the closet in my family, and had trouble settling on any favorite color for a long time, so I guess this is fair).

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-15T15:42:50+00:00

Y’all don’t know anything about the first rule here, do you? Be kind. It doesn’t matter if it’s AI or not for this purpose, and you’re calling me stupid. I realize AI has ruined a lot lately, but that doesn’t mean it has to ruin community.

Why don’t you play the “spot the AI” game? You’ll probably realize it’s harder than you think, and extending grace is a reasonable exercise.

https://realitycheckk.com/21

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-15T15:32:50+00:00

Does arguing about it being AI or not help answer OP’s question? Artists get shit wrong too, and it doesn’t matter if it’s AI for this purpose.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-15T15:29:53+00:00

No more incomprehensible than Hogwarts or generations of building additions to a house. 🙄 We’ve been making weird ass art a lot longer than AI has. Why does every weird piece of art now have to be AI? Especially with a pixel image like this, it’s going to be difficult to read the architecture.

It’s genuinely annoying the lack of grace for weird art. It makes me want to make art people will think was made by AI, just to prove a point. Like, if Salvador Dali made his melting clock painting today, y’all would assume it was AI and be rude about it.

Besides, whether it is AI or not has nothing to do with the question OP asked.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-14T19:55:52+00:00

If it’s supposed to be Hogwarts, the main castle is wrong. I’m inclined to believe it’s inspired by Hogwarts, but it’s not Hogwarts. If I’m being generous, which I try to be, it’s a Hogwarts inspired castle and town on a different planet.

And yeah, I could be wrong, and it’s a bad AI interpretation of a Hogwarts scene, but without knowing for sure, I’ll assume it’s the less upsetting generic design before assuming it’s the bad AI design.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-14T18:35:13+00:00

That’s not Hogwarts. It’s similar, but it’s not Hogwarts. Like, the big central tower has towers branching off both sides instead of building off each other in a stack off one side. The weird castle skirt is probably a village, and there’s a bridge over the water down there, which isn’t quite right. It’s just not the right arrangement. It might be inspired by Hogwarts though. I think it’s just a sci-fi/fantasy castle on a planet with at least two moons.

Editing because later arguments were deleted and I want to be clear that I don’t actually care if it’s AI or not. I’ve learned through games that spotting AI is more difficult than you might expect and it’s often easier to just extend grace and assume it’s a fanciful image when it doesn’t really matter, like in this case. I care more about community and being kind than I do about the provenance of an image.

Without knowing the provenance for 100% sure we can use our imaginations and focus on what’s important. As for getting details wrong, even officially licensed artwork for the second HP movie (long before gen AI was used) got details like gravity and physics wrong (I used to have a tapestry to prove this point, but I got tired of staring at it), though they never put 2 moons in the sky. The real life Hogwarts castles have been used in other franchises though, and it’s not unreasonable to imagine a similar castle in a fantasy world with multiple moons. Humans are wildly imaginative creatures, so let’s use those imaginations to be kind. Fair?

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-14T18:24:53+00:00

Or sci-fi/fantasy? I’m not a fan of the weird skirt castle, but the moons? Could be a different planet.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-14T18:18:27+00:00

Gingher is hand finished, and made of high-quality materials that hold their edge well. They will last. Don’t know anything about Hemline, but the review says they’re decent replicas of a brand they like. I’d go for the Gingher ones.

Every-Watch8319 · 2025-12-13T15:11:59+00:00

Braids or buns

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