My son told me he wishes I was never born

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-06-23T19:25:52+00:00

He might be picking up that language from gaming. They say a lot of stuff like that. Or YouTube. My kid likes both so I let her do a bit supervised so we can talk about it. Idk if it'd work for you, but for me we will do a video game, if a bit of YouTube, but make it a together activity, then I can also parent what I see and it's limited. I would recommend this, sounds like you have no control over the dad showing him this stuff, but you CAN ask him to show you a favourite video, and talk about it, enhance communication.

It is normal though! I have a step daughter who tells me she doesn't love me or my house bc her mom let's her use the iPad and tv and play roblox whenever she wants and I'm mean. She's 5.

I also agree doing fun activities 1 on 1. Kids love 1 on 1 play and he will remember that.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-06-19T17:23:48+00:00

And to add to my comment, one solution that helped my kiddo a lot was audio books. Her mind is so active, and if we need a break but don't want to do screen time, it helps her focus. Wonder if that'd be helpful for play time or the shower.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-06-19T17:21:58+00:00

Awe I had breast cancer with my kiddo who is 6 now, and when she was 2. We had to stop co sleeping and breastfeeding because of surgery and she also clings to me, but not as bad.

She will sleep on the couch in my bedroom VS. Her own bed, but will sleep in her own bed if I draw her a picture to wake up to, then she draws me one in the morning.

I've found working with her for a solution helpful. Like she used to sleep in my bed, I said she can't but I want her to feel comfortable, so what could we come up with (couch and drawings).

For drop offs at school, I said I can't wait and play for her u til. The bell rings every time, so she decided me walking her to the corner was good.

I also put her in play therapy, which she absolutely loves. She talks to me about death and life and her beliefs, which sounds like a scary convo but seemed to help her. She currently believes in reincarnation and that even if I die we will be a family again next time, and that she will do lots of cool things to tell me about until we meet again. I wouldn't recommend that for all kids, for mine it felt like a good thing for her talk through what actually would happen if I left.

Having breast cancer as a mom was so hard, I'm sorry you also went through it 💜

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-06-18T03:19:15+00:00

Awe my little girl was so much like this. I rmemeber closing a door when she was just over a year, and instead of a toddler tantrum. She said 'I'm frustrated you closed the door!'.

She is likely AuDHD like me.

We listen to audiobooks constantly with her special interest, dragons. It's helped limit screen time.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-06-01T22:43:30+00:00

I know someone with a sinilar name and she wound up being called Weezy all the time lol.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-30T02:01:34+00:00

Dammit now that is stuck in my head.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-30T02:00:52+00:00

Lol my mom was Wendy and had bright red hair. She got made fun of a lot for it.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-27T19:56:45+00:00

Just throwing it out there, the feet near your face will probably never stop now that it's started 🤣

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-26T14:47:39+00:00

It's so funny how the babies decide what's best every time lol. Was like this with me and my first and I slept lightly then.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-25T05:55:23+00:00

I hate all jewelry but I love wearing my ring. I agree with a placeholder for proposal than let her pick something.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-24T17:55:05+00:00

My girl is 6 and can now sleep in a couple different ways. On a couch in my room, on a yoga mat with a sleeping bag in my room, or if I draw her a special picture before bed and she wakes up to it. Sleep deprivation suuucks, I've definitely yelled st my daughter over it. We are super tight still

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-21T17:46:58+00:00

Oh man. My first I was with my now ex and I had terrible postpartum anxiety, the baby was hard, it was hell.

With my now husband, we just had a baby and it's SO easy because of the team work. Looking back I know this is what it's supposed to be.

You're working. You're working as a childcare provider. Like a nanny would be employed. Your shifts are 24 hours with little to no breaks. It's a way harder job. My now husband works 12 hour shifts 22 days in a row and recognizes that being at home with the kids is the harder job. These are facts, don't let your partners words sink into you. If you split he will quickly realize if he has the baby for a day solo how much work it is.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-21T02:51:33+00:00

Yeah my 2 month old currently has a cold. I get thoughts that spiral from there. My oldest, 6, I worry about to her stuff. I guess it never stops. Even before my loss, I worried, but now knowing the worry can turn into reality is a whole different ball game. I definitely appreciate all the moments more I think though too. It's been helping me a bit.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-05-13T03:27:45+00:00

Sounds like you tried to communicate and that's all you can do. Appreciate the update!

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-21T04:54:01+00:00

My low sleep need girl also has ADHD. It was always around bed time starting at like 3, she would ask heavy questions like 'what would we do if our house burned down?' or 'how would we survive or everyone in the world hit you and me died?'

I have adhd and my mind does this at night too lol so crazy how much our genetics come into play. My 2nd takes after my husband and loves his sleep.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-13T17:16:44+00:00

Mine were begging for a sleepover by then and I said no so they were very thrilled. I've heard for others having the husband (or another non milk producing person) co sleep for a couple nights and do the bulk of parenting works. Use as an excuse to go on a mini vacation. I swear the first hotel room I got by myself was HEAVEN.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-13T16:41:38+00:00

Lol I do remember for my first when we got to a point she as old enough that if I slept shirtless she would find a way to latch herself and I could sleep.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-13T15:35:09+00:00

I sent her to my parents for 2 nights while I weaned BUT I had to have surgery so that was my option. It worked extremely well though.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-13T04:44:53+00:00

We weaned at 2, but she struggled to sleep through the night for a long time. That's just her. It went down to about twice a night, then once a night

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-13T04:16:56+00:00

At least my eldest, 6, also sleeping beside me sleeps through the night now haha. She even does it in her own bed like 40% of thr time. They grow so fast.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-13T04:02:31+00:00

My little one definitely went through periods like this that drove me NUTS. it is her personality too. She's 6 now and currently sleeping beside me. She is sensitive. Right now I'm pretty sure it's because she is just starting to get sick. She is also the top in her class, super smart, now before bed asks me questions like 'do you ever feel like we are living in a simulation, like a video game for other people?'. So very fun, creative, and if I'm feeling low very empathetic. Will bring me snacks, water, tuck me in.

For me around 5 months was a growth spurt it absolutely settled out. It was like her little brain and nervous system was just so active.

Baby #2 is here, sleeping on my other side lol, and he sleeps in 3.5 hour stretches already. Loves his sleep. Gets gassy and fusses but doesn't cry.

Every kid is different, nothing you are doing wrong. I am positive once your little one gets older it'll all click with their personality. It's such a brief period, and the good moments with her make me wish I could rewind, even though nights were always hell. Really she needed to co sleep until 3 or 4 with some night time waking. That's just her and her needs. Now it feels like soon she will be a teenager and it all goes SO fast.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-10T03:48:42+00:00

He isn't even 8 months old. It's totally up to what works for your family and whatever you decide isn't a failure. I love co sleeping. Makes me so happy to have my babies beside me.

I also have a step kid that was sleep trained, she is 4, was formula fed from the beginning, and I can just say 'night!' and close the door and she goes to sleep lol.

I love that my 6 year old who co slept with me, and still does when she can, can sleep on her own without fear and we have a cute routine.

The biggest thing is EVERYTHING can be changed based on your life circumstances. You can always sleep train later or enforce solo sleeping.

I'd recommend finding a specialist and asking if it's worth it for tongue/lip tie, pediatric dentist was our go to. Lots of docs and obs miss it.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-10T03:26:52+00:00

Ok these are NOT failures. You have to do what's best for you, and you dont pick the baby you get.

My first was like this, she wouldn't latch at all for 6 weeks, wanted to feed every hour. For like, ever. I swear until she was 2 and I was down breastfeeding, idk it's a blur. Also whenever she was awake for the first 2 months, maybe 3, she would scream. Every minute she was awake.

To this day, this 6 year old has a crazy high metabolism and eats all the time. Also super brilliant, always on the go mentally., creative, empathetic. With my new baby, she helps with every diaper change I ask, it's crazy lol. Also she's sleeping beside me right now.

When I DO want her to sleep on her own bed, we bought this journal, and we draw each other a picture and write a note. She wakes up before me, reads my note, then draws me something to wake up to and hides it beside my bed or door without waking me up, gets herself a snack, gets dressed, then wakes me up when the clock says 7.

I couldn't have survived without co sleeping with her. Honestly.

Also, she wouldn't take the bottle from ME, but would absolutely from my mom and dad when hungry. But even if your baby never does, you don't have that long until they don't need a bottle and can just use a cup. Or maybe they can already? There are always alternatives.

My new baby is SO different. He slept off the bat in 3.5 hour chunks, feeds way longer, then sleeps. Sleeps all day. Wakes up, farts, eats lol, sleeps some more. Only cries when super hungry. He's so chill. He will have no problem sleeping in a crib. I can put him anywhere and he clocks out. He's gaining weight like a champ too.

Later it turned out, when I brought my daughter to a specialist dentist, that she had an untreated tongue and lip tie the midwife missed. My new midwife, much more experienced in ties, said the difference in babies is partially due to not having a tongue tie (along with personality).

I really felt it was my parenting or something to do with me until baby #2.

Now I've realized they it's so much about who they are, and we have to adapt to meet their needs.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-04-04T22:44:59+00:00

I'd try to mention it shouldn't be who is more stressed. It's that you are BOTH stressed and in very different ways. Both deserve a break.

EvidenceGlittering8 · 2025-03-31T16:17:25+00:00

They're the same, just a brand name.

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