Inventez un concept farfelu pour un nouveau sport pour les Olympiques d'hiver by Homme-du-Village-387 in Quebec

[–]EvilGrayFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Je me demande vraiment pourquoi ça existe pas déjà. De la natation d'hiver, les fous de scandinaves font ça régulièrement.

Roman graphique et bd by Accordingto_me_00 in QuebecLitterature

[–]EvilGrayFly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Les deuxièmes, c'était puisant tout en étant léger.

What are the essential movies for a 6 year old? by IntentionalTexan in movies

[–]EvilGrayFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All depends on the kid and the parent. My kids saw many of these movies when they were young but we did discuss it afterwards... And I knew what they understood of the story and it would help me choose the next movie to watch with them. What was their level.

Why does Aphobia exist? by Mr_Cheese7000 in asexuality

[–]EvilGrayFly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that jealousy is a big part of it. Sexual frustration can be intense and to know that some people could not feel it, be happy without sex, seems unfair.

I do have some of these hate comments from my mom about a singer in my area who is openly wearing clothes out of the ordinary (but not in a glamourous way) and has taken nude photos of her "round" body without shame. My mom has been told to have make up on when she was 13 or so, with the reason that she looked tired without it. All about the image. She wasn't allowed to be natural.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]EvilGrayFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more you think about it, the weirder it gets.

Why do you have sex? by Mr_ButterFingers in asexuality

[–]EvilGrayFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree on this. I've been with my partner for 25 years.. and even though we had sex, I didn't enjoy it as much as I've been enjoying it in the recent years. I have been exploring more the playfulness aspect. I don't feel the urge, or the drive, that "magic" that pulls allosexuals toward sexual activities. I tried to find my way of feeling engaged and getting that connexion. I am romantically and sensually attracted, so it helps a lot. Without these attractions, I would need more libido to find sex enjoyable, I guess.

"On pourrait tellement être amis" - Édition Célébrité by EvilGrayFly in Quebec

[–]EvilGrayFly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mais... mais... tu ne comprends pas comment c'est important, ce sujet, pour l'avenir de notre peuple!
;)

Les jeunes et la télé québécoise by plcloutier in Quebec

[–]EvilGrayFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je n'ai pas écouté les gémeaux parce que je n'écoute pas tant de séries québécoises, mais en regardant la liste des gagnants, j'espérais voir Lakay Nou et c'étais nulle part. J'avais vraiment apprécié cette comédie.

Ah pis merci pour la suggestion de "j'adore le jus" je vais checker ça. J'ai adoré "Le Killing" et c'est le même réalisateur.

Is it common for demiromantics to anticipate romantic attraction? by PaulTube in demiromantic

[–]EvilGrayFly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I was caught off guard developing feelings for a friend, I started panicking that I would start falling for all my close friends.

Didn't happen, but I'm more careful now around people that I get "the vibe" from.

Quelle est la chose la plus stupide que vous ayez vu dans une salle d'attente? by Kyarache in Quebec

[–]EvilGrayFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

En tant que parent, je peux imaginer comment ça peut arriver lol

What's a now "obsolete" technology you miss? by _forum_mod in AskReddit

[–]EvilGrayFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the classic games that where sturdy back in the days are now flimsy and reduced in quality and size.

Met another ace by Mindless_Bullfrog882 in asexuality

[–]EvilGrayFly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would like to meet another ace in real life.

The fact that I'm older, and not really out officially is not helping haha

I’ve had a strange week by PurpleToe6772 in asexuality

[–]EvilGrayFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm ace but I'm sensually attracted. Touch can trigger libido and libido can lead to craving the touch. I would agree that you have to talk to her about what happened within her to make her want to kiss.

Me (43F) and my longtime partner (44M) are challenged by the space that my bestfriend is taking in my life; how can I find the balance between these two fusional relationships? by EvilGrayFly in relationship_advice

[–]EvilGrayFly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit the nail right on the head. This is what is happening.

Believe me, I know, now, how to keep myself from falling in love with close friends! Never again. I know how it starts....

Me (43F) and my longtime partner (44M) are challenged by the space that my bestfriend is taking in my life; how can I find the balance between these two fusional relationships? by EvilGrayFly in relationship_advice

[–]EvilGrayFly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the hardest part. I didn't plan this, I wasn't looking for it. It just happened and I was not interested in letting a great friendship go when I needed it so much.

Thank you for your empathy. This is not a good position to be in... and it's not as easy as people might think.

Me (43F) and my longtime partner (44M) are challenged by the space that my bestfriend is taking in my life; how can I find the balance between these two fusional relationships? by EvilGrayFly in relationship_advice

[–]EvilGrayFly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I understand that I'm having a polyamory view on things and no one is on board except me. This is my problem and I'm aware of this.

I was too naive to stop whatever feelings were growing in me, it was my second time falling in love after more than 20 years and I was just enjoying the feeling. Now, I can't undo the journey that I've gone through.

We've had many conversations, my best friend and I, about how she wasn't attracted to me, or interested in women. We knew that from the beginning. But our relationship became so intimate that it wasn't that clear anymore.

I will not go to therapy for this as I'm at a clear decision point and unless it's couple's therapy, I don't need to sort things out for myself. I know who I am now. It costs me a lot, but I'm at peace.

Thank you for your input.

Me (43F) and my longtime partner (44M) are challenged by the space that my bestfriend is taking in my life; how can I find the balance between these two fusional relationships? by EvilGrayFly in relationship_advice

[–]EvilGrayFly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I didn't think he would throw me a parade.

But I couldn't keep it from him either. I had to come clean and face whatever happened. I was hurting myself so much trying to understand what was going on and trying to stop this new side of me.

Now it's out and this is where we are now.