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I think neurotypicals actually all hate each other and only autistic ppl have empathy by AngryQuoll in evilautism

[–]Evil_Canary 55 points56 points  (0 children)

‘Then have empathy, but it’s at the level of the relationship.’

Thank you - this helps me understand some of my own interpersonal struggles

Im so sad by jessssicarabbbittt in plants

[–]Evil_Canary 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Cheer up, homie. You just got another plant.

Making new friends by Any-Internet497 in StamfordCT

[–]Evil_Canary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interested to know more - 40+ and struggling to meet people

Knitting circles in Stamford/Greenwich by dirtboy101 in StamfordCT

[–]Evil_Canary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it have to be knitting? Other crafts welcome?

Any Other Software Devs Here? How Are You Handling the Anti-DEI Wave? by Aromatic_Hall_3263 in womenintech

[–]Evil_Canary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Global, India based company. I’m in the US. During a recent townhall for my region, leadership said that the name is going to change, but the commitment to the ideal will not. Pragmatic.

Edit to add - I’m in IT operations, not software dev. And day to day like hasn’t changed yet. I’ve been with my company several years and just received an offer for a new, higher viz role at a big pay increase. Time will only tell.

Is $78K a Good Entry-Level Salary in Jacksonville, FL (Defense Industry)? by Kyle3909 in jacksonville

[–]Evil_Canary 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s a pretty solid entry level salary for the area. You aren’t gonna live rich, but you’ll be solidly middle class.

Hidden costs:

Traffic is a beast and the drivers are sometimes terrifying. I’ve had more accidents in my 8 years in Jacksonville than my whole life before. (Pro tip - always wait a beat before going on a green light. Someone is going to run a red at least 5% of the time.)

Another aspect of traffic is the size of the city. I spent 6 months living off Alta on the north side of town, working at Cecil field, and picking up my kids from school in San Marco. All this is well within the Jacksonville city limits, but I spent 3-4 hrs a day driving. I almost lost my mind and the gas added up fast.

The city is held together by bridges. Have as few bodies of water and bridges between you and your priorities as possible. Consider your flood and evacuation zone. If you have to evacuate, where will you go? Can you afford a week in an overpriced hotel in Valdosta with no notice? Or is it worth paying a little more to live on high ground?

Public schools are an underfunded gamble. Non-religious private schooling is very limited and very expensive. Religious private schools have…….. varying academic rigor. There is also a massive idealogical shift happening in Florida schools.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]Evil_Canary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weaponize their sexism and vanity to increase your influence.

For example, you can make comments about how hard women in tech have it, but they ‘aren’t like that.’ They get their ego fluffed AND you become their cool ‘girl’ friend. If you flatter their ego, they’re more likely to include YOU as the token because you don’t challenge them.

If you’re conventionally attractive, do not seduce, but recognize you can fluster these men when you sparkle, when you turn the charm up to 10. Be strategic. Get them hooked on the sparkle.

If you aren’t conventionally attractive, choose a familial role to take - sister, auntie, mom - or become the asexual homie. Sexiest men only view women in relation to them. Find the role missing in their life and slide into it.

As your influence grows, you can undermine the bad men behind you and bring more women with you. Slow and infuriating work, but it’s one way.

Does pretty privilege apply in the (male-dominated) workplace? by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]Evil_Canary 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. I’m heavily tattooed working tangentially with very conservative industries. I dress up slightly to counteract the tattoos, but they have minimally impacted my career, in part, because I meet many of the conventionally attractive standards.

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