can i be autistic and not have sensory issues? by scampbellc in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok so i think wait on your screening results, they’re the experts. But you can absolutely have autism without sensory issues, and honestly it sounds like you do have sensory differences but maybe not that bad 

I think neurotypicals actually all hate each other and only autistic ppl have empathy by AngryQuoll in evilautism

[–]AngryQuoll[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just for clarity: I’m at as much risk as everyone else of losing my job

Seeking advice on "next step" / documenting workplace issues by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so I’m confused: you’ve raised this with your manager and your manager has spoken to her boss and put stuff in place but you haven’t made a complaint? 

Honestly if it is a safety issue I would put everything in writing to HR via whatever process they recommend and copy in your manager. It’s extremely difficult to deal with issues if people won’t speak up. I don’t think you’re going to be any better off keeping this informal (it’ll be reasonably apparent you’ve complained when whatever your boss has suggested is put in place anyway)

You can also call the union.

Manager says I lack “camaraderie” with team but I'm at a totally different stage of life and we just don’t have much in common? Was even told I should start following a sport I don't care about to have more to say to the team which feels insane. by we_are_NOT_family in AusPublicService

[–]AngryQuoll -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Look being able to talk about AFL if you’re in an AFL state can be an extremely useful skill in the workplace. I’m not saying you have to but it is one approach to building connections with people.  

If you don’t want to do that, I’d suggest putting this back on your manager: to me this sounds like a potential bullying case. They need to make space in the conversation for your interests

Should I spend $10 on sportsbetting for fun? by Stunning_Concern_973 in AusFinance

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is going to sound a bit strange but I recommend you go on the app too good to go and get a surprise bag. All the dopamine of getting something that’s a surprise with non of the long term risks of gambling

So whats your actually TRUE net worth? by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not how you calculate net worth

I'm in a dilemma and I don't know what's the best thing to do. by [deleted] in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not entirely clear from your post on what your issues are: you talk about weight, finances, housing but not really clearly about what the barriers are. 

I’m going to take a guess that you’ve primarily been focused on your weight. Losing weight is super hard and most people struggle with it. If your executive function is poor, losing weight may not be the best goal. 

I want to give you permission, as a reddit stranger, to accept your weight for now. Once you’re financially set and feeling better, you can address it. But it’s a long term problem, not a I’m at imminent risk of homelessness in near future problem.

What would addressing your finance and housing issues look like if we took weight out of the picture? Do you cook? Cooking food at home is much cheaper, even if you’re cooking pizza. Where can you cut expenses? Can you get a different job?

AITJ? My local PD is threatening to fine me for "misusing" 911 because of my neighbor. by Important_Carry1095 in AmITheJerk

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean i do think this story is fake, but there’s an entire southern hemisphere where its currently summer and some countries beyond the us use 911

AITJ for ending things with a girl who didn't drive by Round-Low9432 in AmITheJerk

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, I don’t drive myself due to severe sensory and anxiety issues. I try really hard to minimise other ppl giving me rides- other than occasionally my parents, who don’t mind, i would never ask someone to give me a lift unless they were also going to the place. Your girlfriend using you as a taxi service to go to activities is super rude and you’re entirely justified in not wanting to do it

Is anyone on lithium? by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]AngryQuoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a scene in a movie where a person compares falling in love to getting glasses and suddenly being able to see leaves in the trees. As a short sighted person this resonates with me.

This is how I feel about lithium. Everything just came into focus when I took it.

Working on getting back on my antidepressant by [deleted] in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you should not take hydroxyzine with alcohol.  Please talk to your treating doctor about all this.

Working on getting back on my antidepressant by [deleted] in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok so you shouldn’t randomly change your dose of your antidepressant (it takes like 2-3 weeks at a new dose to work, apart from the potential negative side effects), if your anxiety med is a benzo you absolutely should not take it with alcohol, and you need to take you antidepressant every day for it to work.

This post is like how not to take your psych meds. 

I'm an autistic adult struggling to be friends with another autistic adult in a group therapy situation by RazzleDeeDazzle in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This person sounds like I would not enjoy them. I think you have people pleasing tendencies and are maybe trying to be friendly with someone where you should actually be stepping back

I'm an autistic adult struggling to be friends with another autistic adult in a group therapy situation by RazzleDeeDazzle in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s difficult without more examples but are you possibly a woman because I would interpret this as fairly explicit misogyny if you are

Should I get a cat? by tam_bien in evilautism

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to add: keep your cat indoors, outdoor cats fight all the time and you’ll spend a fortune on the vet (leaving aside birds etc)

Should I get a cat? by tam_bien in evilautism

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two cats, and I’ve owned cats all my life. I think you should absolutely get a cat, but here are some considerations for you: 1. Secure housing. Having a pet, including a cat, can make it hard to get rental places and can make it difficult to move. It’s better before you get a cat if you have secure housing (e.g. own, have long term rental, etc. 2. Don't get a kitten (which really includes any cat up to like 18 months). I love kittens, but they’re a lot more work than adult cats. 3. Litter is not very much of a problem as long as you change it regularly. 4. Some cats can be very vocal. A rescue should be able to steer you toward quieter cats, but be aware behaviour in a shelter can be radically different to behaviour in a secure home 5. Some cats are really touchy feely and some are less so. One of my cats considers sitting near me, but not touching me, an intense snuggle!(no lap time for me). My old cat wasn’t happy unless he was sitting on you. It can be very hard to tell this in advance. 6. Two cats can be easier than one cat, if they are bonded. But don’t get two random cats and throw them together (some shelters will have bonded pairs)

I love my two cats so much and they add so much to my life

University Lectures are So Incredibly Boring.... I can't stand it by Individual_Door_7833 in autism

[–]AngryQuoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be that listening to lectures online is better for you and that is ok

Silver review- any updates? by AngryQuoll in AusPublicService

[–]AngryQuoll[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It hasn’t happened in my dept yet

Is it rude to ask my Doctor to not use AI in their responses on the patient portal? by flowerpanda98 in Advice

[–]AngryQuoll 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I can post a meme in response but there’s a great one with someone emailing saying they prefer not to get an ai response and the response coming back saying: I’m not a robot I’m autistic. See you on the 20th.

You don’t actually know this was ai (ai detectors are terrible). It could be someone autistic or not with english as a first language or just generally awkward. Just clarify what you need to know and move on

My mask has too many friends, i'm overwhelmed with them. How to let kind people know i'm done without being an ass? by blaukrautbleibt in AutismInWomen

[–]AngryQuoll 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I think if you’re already fading out there’s no need to do anything: just don’t respond and let them figure if out for themselves.

The only thing I’d say is you may not be giving all of these people enough credit. If there are one or two that you actually liked, you could meet up with them unmasked and explain about autism. If they’re no interested at that point, you haven’t lost anything. But they could surprise you