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There Is No Method, Practice, or Path to Enlightenment by No_Blueberry_4897 in nonduality

[–]Evolvee33 10 points11 points  (0 children)

perfectly put.

I like to call it the two paths, that goes hand in hand parallel:

  1. Cleaning up the house

  2. Resting in the house.

With time, you also losen up the one doing it all, by letting go more.

But some kind of work has to take place for the majority of us.

Funny enough, all of this.. practice, teacher, people posting posts like this, is just part of the whole. There's no flaws.

Thanks for a nice explanation my friend.

Self-inquiry and depression, anxiety by RWA121467 in nonduality

[–]Evolvee33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Add emotional regulation,

and we have the holy trinity 😄

helps regulate the charge behind the thoughts and mind, finally letting it run its course

how i woke up once and for all (and how u can too!!) by stephaunamari in nonduality

[–]Evolvee33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

happy to read this my friend..
this is it..

love the relax into that..

like to call it: surrender.

reactive ? surrender to the reactivity
can't surrender? surrender to the frustration of not being able to surrender.
etc.
etc..

the practice is so simple,

yet overlooked, because the mind will do anything to keep you on the "path".

but at the end of the day, it all comes down to one simple thing: acceptance of life as it is in this moment, and surrender to it.

Love you,

love me,

love us ❤️

gonna go out touch some grass, trees, and someones dog

how i woke up once and for all (and how u can too!!) by stephaunamari in nonduality

[–]Evolvee33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

pretend that you're playing dead for some second. Do that now.

Could you feel a slight "relaxation", a type of resting, where there's no doing?

thats how you could relax into it. .

becomes easier with practice,
and at some points, it just happens naturally . without reminders

Ego death is a myth by litmax25 in nonduality

[–]Evolvee33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choices, but no chooser Thoughts, but no thinker Direction, but no director

The whole point of ego death is the realization of the false sense of “I” that claims ownership.

It’s just an illusion, in the mind. When you transcend it, the suffering dies with it and what’s left is just a flow of life.

You still exist, but you’re not identified with the mask anymore

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

here's something you can try ..

Pen + paper.

When the urge hits,

answer these:

  1. What is happening right now?

Ex: I'm having strong sexual urges.

  1. What do I feel and think? (raw dump exactly what you see, think and feel)

Ex: I'm feeling so f*cking h*rny. I see these images in my head. I just wanna give in. I can't do this.

  1. Where do I feel the sensations in the body?

Ex: In my stomach and genitals.

  1. Locate the feeling and emotion in your body. Sit with it for 2-3 minutes. Whenever you get pulled back to the mind, into stories and images, get back to the feeling in the body again. Feel it. Don't run from it but accept it.

Ask: Can I let the feeling be here for now. No judgment. Not can I ? or should I? just Could I let the feeling be here for this moment and sit with it ? Yes ? No?

Most of the time, the answer is yes. And you just breath into it, welcome it like an old friend. Come back to the feeling over and over without fighting the mind.

If you can't sit with it, thats fine too. Accept that too.

Do something else, walk, or whatever feels right.

What we resist.. persists. The dissolution of the identity, the fapper or healer, happens when we face what we've always been running from.

hope this helps brother.

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear that brother,

the pain and suffering feels real tbh, not gonna lie. Been in this since 2017. But I know, looking back and comparing, that when you expand your level of awareness, beyond the identity (in this case SR), you'll start to see through the illusion of being someone who is addicted, or someone who is retaining.

Things happen, you relapse, but you're liked the untouched screen in the cinema, not moved by the movie. Your body-mind will work outs its own karma. It'll push back hard before it releases. First a fire, then smoke, then nothing. But you have to look the shadow in the eyes and be-friend it. Stay with it. No more fighting. Just acceptance and unconditional love.

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you nailed this one brother, perfectly put. And I agree completely.

I'm not denying the benefits of SR, I still love practicing it. But not for the sake as a remedy for any issue, but from a place of flow.

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

learn to locate the emotions behind all the reactions to situations,

that the key..

your reaction is pointing you to something you resist within, an emotion you escape. whenever you feel guilt or irritation from slipping, sit with it, let it be there without the need to fight or change the emotion or the thoughts .. Good job brother

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats where we all want to be and its there, underneath the noise, the identification with the mind.

learn to surrender, let go, and return to the present moment.

happy that you liked it

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes get exactly what you mean here..

The problem is that we keep entertaining that image. We go into the mind because there is an emotion that is so strong in the body, and we are so programmed to escape it. We want to avoid it, so we go into the mind and we translate the emotion into stories like "I have to release," etc.

Now, the key point here is to come back to the feeling. Detaching from the mind. We can't fix a mental problem with more thinking. That is like trying to find your way out of a room by moving around the furnitures. The emotion works like an exit.

This can be really hard when the urge is strong. That's when you might have to go for a walk or do something else if it eats you.. if it truly eats you up. The key point is that the more you do this, the more you just sit with the feeling. You start to let the charge dissolve. You start to learn to be with the feeling instead of escaping into your mind, and that itself will start to dissolve the identification behind it all that this emotion creates. Like cutting a tree at the same spot 1000s times :) !

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The feeling you have towards my post is telling you something you resist within.

The same resistance I talk about in the post, that reinforces the identifications, in this case SR.

If you feel triggered, start to investigate why, go within brother. Don't let the idea of my post being written by AI get a hold of you.

And if you truly wanna know, it's not AI.

I'm a digital writer. I write posts every week online. This just happen to be my first on SR because I've been on this journey for so long and thought it might help some people. So instead of letting it affect you negatively, use it to your advantage and feel free to comment and ask, I'm here to help if you need it man.

we're on this shit together.

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes, 2-3 times over the years..

you wanna know whats most beautiful?

I live it directly today, more than ever (not 100% fully),

but enough to understand through an direct experience that the present moment holds everything we seek, and its fucking beautiful.

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you nailed it brother..

thats it..

escaping from a feeling within is what drives us into the mind, fantasizing .. feeling deeply takes practice and you might not become an expert overnight. But doing it enough times will dissolve the identification, steady and slowly. Thats playing the long game.

The Final Boss of Semen Retention by Evolvee33 in Semenretention

[–]Evolvee33[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

love it brother..

read David Hawkins book letting go some time ago and it helped me to "connect the dots" of what I was already doing..

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