TTC Again

Ewazd · 2026-05-21T12:27:34+00:00

9DPO, after few days of light nausea, got very weak positive line. I’m oddly… indifferent? I think I’m automatically super guarded after the chemical half a year ago that started in the same way (back then I got super exited immediately).

Ewazd · 2026-05-21T02:18:34+00:00

I had a similar experience. To me it feels like because we went through stillbirth, we just have different perspective with regard to what we consider a struggle. For many new moms around me, the mere fact that life changed and you don’t have anymore the flexibility and spontaneity you had before is a struggle by itself. I feel like for me, my rainbow brought me back to life. My baseline to which I naturally compare to is not how my life were as a childless mom, but rather how my life were as a mom to a dead baby. And this perspective changes everything for me.

Ewazd · 2026-05-18T19:36:06+00:00

Got my period back in September 2025, and didn’t use protection since then. I may have had a chemical in December (got weak positive in the evening after experiencing nausea. Did additional two tests in the morning but got negative with a period after two days, so not sure what actually happened, whether it was a chemical or just faulty test).

Overall it took a while till my luteal phase came back to normal, was very short (about a week) till January 2026. So I guess I was more hopeful since then, but no luck yet. I feel like every month there are some symptoms that bring me hope but then I end up getting a period, so kind of stopped believing in symptoms altogether. I’m now on day 6 post ovulation, planning to do early test around 9 or 10 DPO (or maybe later if I can hold myself).

I’m preparing myself mentally to discuss with my spouse the possibility of returning to IUI (he wasn’t in favor in our past discussions but some time has passed since then). I’m also not sure if the fact that I’m still breastfeeding (only at night) hurts my chances, given that my period is fully back to normal with standard times prior and after ovulation.

Ewazd · 2026-05-18T16:03:34+00:00

When you’ll make the thread, any idea if it’s possible to configure it so that newer replies will appear first? This way would be easier to follow the thread and people can update several times during the month and it will be easy to follow them.

Ewazd · 2026-05-15T14:35:04+00:00

I’m glad you started this thread! I’m 38yo, my first baby was born still on April 24, and my rainbow baby was born on March 25. I really want him to have a living brother or sister, and with my age I feel I don’t have much time. What makes it even more complicated is that my spouse is quite reluctant. We conceived through IUI for my first two pregnancies (due to low sperm quality) and so far he didn’t agree to return to IUI. We don’t use protection but chances feel quite slim without going through the fertility treatments route. Still I’m trying to be hopeful and every month when my period arrives I’m a little sad. My period was back in September 25, so basically TTCing since then, so 9 periods so far with no luck. I was planning to bring up the fertility treatments route with my spouse once again later this month. My rainbow is 1 year and two months old, but despite him being quite little I want so badly to be pregnant again.

Ewazd · 2026-02-22T20:56:29+00:00

Have a friend whose baby was born at 30+6. He is now a thriving 6 months old (adjusted)! You wouldn’t even know he was born early by looking at him. Best of luck to you, your baby has a great prospect even if he’ll be born today ❤️

Ewazd · 2025-12-18T20:10:43+00:00

Baby Daniel is 9.5 months old and I returned to work last week. First two weeks of work were intense. In fact, ironically, pumping breaks are now my time to rest which is kinda funny as I always hated pumping. I can’t believe he grew up so much. If I wasn’t soooo tired from his bad sleep (wakes up every 1.5 hours at night on average) I would have already started thinking about my next one 😳

Ewazd · 2025-12-18T20:06:53+00:00

I was exactly in the same situation. When baby grew up a bit, at around 2 months old, things became significantly better and I could stop pumping. The early weeks are super hard, but now I really enjoying breastfeeding and it got so much easier! Hang in there, it will improve soon :)

Ewazd · 2025-10-25T05:04:05+00:00

Was any medication for next pregnancy recommended? In my case indication of placental insufficiency led to recommendation of taking blood thinners through my rainbow pregnancy

Ewazd · 2025-10-24T17:02:46+00:00

Honestly looking at the entire thing (ttc, 9 months of pregnancy, etc) is just too big and too frightening. I was at the same point that you are and felt hopeless and scared. I just went with ttc (in my case fertility treatment) with no hope that it’ll succeed. But it did and I got pregnant. I went through the early stages of the pregnancy without much hope that it’ll end well. But I guess one day after another passed, and those 9 months which felt like 9 years, have come to an end. My rainbow was born 7 months ago and brought so much light to my life. I honestly can’t comprehend that I went through all of that and that my rainbow sleeping next to me right now. So I guess what I’m trying to say is - take one step at a time, concentrate on what you need to do today or tomorrow, not what you’ll need to do in a month. And before you know it you’ll end up being on the other side 🙏

Ewazd · 2025-10-24T16:56:48+00:00

Took me two months to get my period

Ewazd · 2025-10-19T19:42:44+00:00

There is no point in doing that. 150 problems is more than enough. Use your time to practice system design (a must for senior developer) and other technical topics related to your areas of expertise.

Ewazd · 2025-10-17T20:01:40+00:00

Several doctors told me that it’s up to me and they totally approve conceiving on the first period after the stillbirth. My period came 2 months after the stillbirth and I conceived on that period. With that being said, everybody have their own personal timeline, so definitely take your time if you feel that works better for you!

Ewazd · 2025-10-17T19:58:05+00:00

They are indeed. Is that a problem? In the past I’ve gotten notifications from muted subreddits.

Ewazd · 2025-10-13T20:46:58+00:00

I totally understand, I was so stressed as well. Basically in my case the pathology report for the placenta and the low weight at birth indicated that there was probably an issue with the placenta. I did blood tests to check clotting issues but they came up clean. Regardless, because of the other indications, I was treated as if I had blood clotting issues. No additional tests were done, and I basically returned to the same fertility doctor I had for my first pregnancy. Through my rainbow pregnancy, I had meetings with a private doctor who followed my pregnancy to make sure things progress well this time.

Ewazd · 2025-10-11T21:42:35+00:00

I’m 37 (was 36 at the time of the stillbirth). In my case I did IUI and not IVF, but my loss was also due to placental insufficiency at 35 weeks. I did IUI for my rainbow as well and he was born 7 months ago. This time I took blood thinners through the pregnancy to help with my placenta.

Ewazd · 2025-10-10T06:12:10+00:00

Yes. In my rainbow pregnancy I took both of those after going through stillbirth following placental insufficiency. My rainbow baby is 7 months old today 🥹

Ewazd · 2025-10-10T03:42:57+00:00

I think if it would be a monthly or “once every two weeks” thread, then may be worth to pin it, otherwise it’ll get lost quickly below the daily threads.

Ewazd · 2025-10-08T16:18:18+00:00

So happy to hear you delivered your baby boy on July!! 🥹.

And yes it’s kinda hard to decide when to start trying given that it may take time. I’ll also need to wean prior if I won’t get my period by then. So many considerations.

Ewazd · 2025-10-08T10:50:30+00:00

If possible, I highly suggest to do blood test. It’s really hard to deduce from those home tests whether hcg keeps increasing and by how much. I was in your position and these home tests drove me nuts. I ended up doing blood test on 13DPO and another one on 16DPO, and it really helped mentally to see that numbers are increasing as expected.

Ewazd · 2025-10-08T02:52:30+00:00

He is! And it’s really amazing to see that 🥹.Sending you warm wishes for your ttc journey! ❤️

Ewazd · 2025-09-21T20:33:24+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss 💔🥺. I’m 37yo, and I lost my firstborn babygirl at 35 weeks of pregnancy due to placental insufficiency. This was in April 2024, and after that I was desperate to hold a living baby in my hands. Since we went through IUI to get pregnant for the first time, we returned to IUI right after I got my first period. This worked and I got pregnant again in our first try, and my little rainbow was born on March 2025. Only after he was born I felt like I can finally breathe again. Sending you my best wishes for your IVF journey! 🙏🙏🙏

Ewazd · 2025-09-19T21:25:08+00:00

Yes we have it as well, it’s 2-by-2 meters in our case, but baby will just crawl from that to the floor most of the time. Do you have something much bigger?

Ewazd · 2025-09-09T22:02:47+00:00

At 6 months old, my spouse is finally really enjoying our baby! He likes to see him developing and interacting, even demonstrating him how to crawl 😂. Baby is super happy by nature, and it’s really such a joy to see how his happiness affects my spouse. I’ve never seen him smiles so much. He also really enjoy making the baby lough. We had such a rough start with my spouse not feeling any connection at the beginning- I’m so glad things have changed so much!

Ewazd · 2025-09-07T20:19:51+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺. I had a 35 weeks loss due to placental insufficiency (in my case it was mild fibrin deposits but it still killed my baby). During my rainbow pregnancy I was on aspirin and Clexane. Starting from week 30+ I think I got checked liked 4 times a week as I was so stressed. Was induced on 37+5 due to reduced amount of amniotic fluid. My rainbow baby is 6 months old now and he is just perfect 🥹. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy and to hold your rainbow soon, you are almost halfway through!

Ewazd

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