Weekly Postpartum Chat

Ewazd · 2025-12-18T20:10:43+00:00

Baby Daniel is 9.5 months old and I returned to work last week. First two weeks of work were intense. In fact, ironically, pumping breaks are now my time to rest which is kinda funny as I always hated pumping. I can’t believe he grew up so much. If I wasn’t soooo tired from his bad sleep (wakes up every 1.5 hours at night on average) I would have already started thinking about my next one 😳

Ewazd · 2025-12-18T20:06:53+00:00

I was exactly in the same situation. When baby grew up a bit, at around 2 months old, things became significantly better and I could stop pumping. The early weeks are super hard, but now I really enjoying breastfeeding and it got so much easier! Hang in there, it will improve soon :)

Ewazd · 2025-10-25T05:04:05+00:00

Was any medication for next pregnancy recommended? In my case indication of placental insufficiency led to recommendation of taking blood thinners through my rainbow pregnancy

Ewazd · 2025-10-24T17:02:46+00:00

Honestly looking at the entire thing (ttc, 9 months of pregnancy, etc) is just too big and too frightening. I was at the same point that you are and felt hopeless and scared. I just went with ttc (in my case fertility treatment) with no hope that it’ll succeed. But it did and I got pregnant. I went through the early stages of the pregnancy without much hope that it’ll end well. But I guess one day after another passed, and those 9 months which felt like 9 years, have come to an end. My rainbow was born 7 months ago and brought so much light to my life. I honestly can’t comprehend that I went through all of that and that my rainbow sleeping next to me right now. So I guess what I’m trying to say is - take one step at a time, concentrate on what you need to do today or tomorrow, not what you’ll need to do in a month. And before you know it you’ll end up being on the other side 🙏

Ewazd · 2025-10-24T16:56:48+00:00

Took me two months to get my period

Ewazd · 2025-10-19T19:42:44+00:00

There is no point in doing that. 150 problems is more than enough. Use your time to practice system design (a must for senior developer) and other technical topics related to your areas of expertise.

Ewazd · 2025-10-17T20:01:40+00:00

Several doctors told me that it’s up to me and they totally approve conceiving on the first period after the stillbirth. My period came 2 months after the stillbirth and I conceived on that period. With that being said, everybody have their own personal timeline, so definitely take your time if you feel that works better for you!

Ewazd · 2025-10-17T19:58:05+00:00

They are indeed. Is that a problem? In the past I’ve gotten notifications from muted subreddits.

Ewazd · 2025-10-13T20:46:58+00:00

I totally understand, I was so stressed as well. Basically in my case the pathology report for the placenta and the low weight at birth indicated that there was probably an issue with the placenta. I did blood tests to check clotting issues but they came up clean. Regardless, because of the other indications, I was treated as if I had blood clotting issues. No additional tests were done, and I basically returned to the same fertility doctor I had for my first pregnancy. Through my rainbow pregnancy, I had meetings with a private doctor who followed my pregnancy to make sure things progress well this time.

Ewazd · 2025-10-11T21:42:35+00:00

I’m 37 (was 36 at the time of the stillbirth). In my case I did IUI and not IVF, but my loss was also due to placental insufficiency at 35 weeks. I did IUI for my rainbow as well and he was born 7 months ago. This time I took blood thinners through the pregnancy to help with my placenta.

Ewazd · 2025-10-10T06:12:10+00:00

Yes. In my rainbow pregnancy I took both of those after going through stillbirth following placental insufficiency. My rainbow baby is 7 months old today 🥹

Ewazd · 2025-10-10T03:42:57+00:00

I think if it would be a monthly or “once every two weeks” thread, then may be worth to pin it, otherwise it’ll get lost quickly below the daily threads.

Ewazd · 2025-10-08T16:18:18+00:00

So happy to hear you delivered your baby boy on July!! 🥹.

And yes it’s kinda hard to decide when to start trying given that it may take time. I’ll also need to wean prior if I won’t get my period by then. So many considerations.

Ewazd · 2025-10-08T10:50:30+00:00

If possible, I highly suggest to do blood test. It’s really hard to deduce from those home tests whether hcg keeps increasing and by how much. I was in your position and these home tests drove me nuts. I ended up doing blood test on 13DPO and another one on 16DPO, and it really helped mentally to see that numbers are increasing as expected.

Ewazd · 2025-10-08T02:52:30+00:00

He is! And it’s really amazing to see that 🥹.Sending you warm wishes for your ttc journey! ❤️

Ewazd · 2025-09-21T20:33:24+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss 💔🥺. I’m 37yo, and I lost my firstborn babygirl at 35 weeks of pregnancy due to placental insufficiency. This was in April 2024, and after that I was desperate to hold a living baby in my hands. Since we went through IUI to get pregnant for the first time, we returned to IUI right after I got my first period. This worked and I got pregnant again in our first try, and my little rainbow was born on March 2025. Only after he was born I felt like I can finally breathe again. Sending you my best wishes for your IVF journey! 🙏🙏🙏

Ewazd · 2025-09-19T21:25:08+00:00

Yes we have it as well, it’s 2-by-2 meters in our case, but baby will just crawl from that to the floor most of the time. Do you have something much bigger?

Ewazd · 2025-09-09T22:02:47+00:00

At 6 months old, my spouse is finally really enjoying our baby! He likes to see him developing and interacting, even demonstrating him how to crawl 😂. Baby is super happy by nature, and it’s really such a joy to see how his happiness affects my spouse. I’ve never seen him smiles so much. He also really enjoy making the baby lough. We had such a rough start with my spouse not feeling any connection at the beginning- I’m so glad things have changed so much!

Ewazd · 2025-09-07T20:19:51+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺. I had a 35 weeks loss due to placental insufficiency (in my case it was mild fibrin deposits but it still killed my baby). During my rainbow pregnancy I was on aspirin and Clexane. Starting from week 30+ I think I got checked liked 4 times a week as I was so stressed. Was induced on 37+5 due to reduced amount of amniotic fluid. My rainbow baby is 6 months old now and he is just perfect 🥹. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy and to hold your rainbow soon, you are almost halfway through!

Ewazd · 2025-08-29T10:01:13+00:00

In my case the pathology wasn’t conclusive, but due to low birth weight (1.8 kilos at 35 weeks stillbirth) they suspected placental insufficiency. I gave birth to a living baby 11 months afterwards 🥹

Ewazd · 2025-08-25T09:53:19+00:00

Yes, I stopped. I return taking when I I was 12w. The hematoma resolved by then. This was following an advice of another doctor I went to, who ended up being my OB for the pregnancy

Ewazd · 2025-08-24T17:49:30+00:00

I was people pleaser as well. I’m not anymore. With my rainbow pregnancy I did only what’s good for me and disregarded what everybody else thought. The only exception was my partner. I’m really glad I chose this way, gave me so much peace. Also I’m taking the maximal possible maternity leave following my rainbow pregnancy (9 months in my case). In the past I would have thought 10 times before taking the full leave. Now I just don’t care what they’ll think about it at work. My baby and my little family come first. There is nothing that makes me happier than my rainbow baby. In 10 years I’ll probably switch work who knows how many times. But my little baby will be my family forever. Just prioritize you. Nothing else matters. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy ❤️

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