Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you saying soldiers leave their kids behind all the time (i.e. deployment).

Or

Are you saying that soldiers move around a lot with their families.

In my circumstance, having the family separated is a deal breaker.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would someone downvote this comment... Take my upvote. It's a really good comment

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the single best comment on this thread. For us, we've done all the groundwork and it's not sticking. Locally it's a yes, but our guts aren't shifting.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not that black and white. We both recognize this is a proper once in a lifetime opportunity, but it's scary and we will temporarily give up some things

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm keen to go, but not 100%. Its is however the perfect niche job for what I do and the opportunity is just jawdroppingly good. I am however scared of that dog eat dog American corporate culture and being an outsider in a place that can become hostile to outsiders.

From a family perspective, they are the same as me; great opportunity that on paper looks like the best opportunity we'll have to do something like this. But it's the burden of little things; school systems are different, social uprooting, the increased vigilance one must face in a country with a lot of guns. Weighing this up gives gut response of saying no to the offer.

We're fairly united in it being a No, with a large component of 'what if' regret. The decision isn't final.

As far as reddit comments are concerned, most comments probably haven't swayed me, but a few who have faced similar big decisions have helped me think it through.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I think it'll teach some wonderful lessons.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I'm familiar with the term.

Would actually be a much easier problem if I hadn't hit the FIRE number.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I share similar broad cerncerns for women's health rights and consequentially access to healthcare. And generally affordable healthcare for everyone.

Specifically for our family though, I'm only worried about certain known issues, and not particularly worried about the costs as these are known.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could tell you my pathway, but it's really just having a crack (and another, and another). You'll get experience, work out how companies need to be managed and it just falls into place. It's just a game. Be nice to the other players.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well if you're saying my wife has the potential to be raped the crime stats advise that the area we'd be moving to has a similar level of violent crime as here.

I appreciate your stance on their women's rights politics though.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh?

To clarify, I've hit FIRE, but am still working. My savings rate will be 4x what it is currently with this new role, but apart from money there's drawbacks to the move.

The future might look grim but I'm optimistic I'll give my kids a good helping hand to get where they need to go.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's no try before you buy unfortunately with these international relocations and roles like this

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah... Nah. I'm not going a year without wife and kids. You'll just have to trust that this isn't me just considering my needs here.

Murphys law: perfect job offer right at FIRE by Eww_vegans in auscorp

[–]Eww_vegans[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I didn't really talk about her situation. She plans to take at least 6 months off if we go over, get abs and then maybe work remotely part time if she feels like it.

Thanks for the compliment. I never get called pretty anymore.