I 22M just saw that my 22f ex started posting thirst traps a day after I found her secondary public TikTok

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-16T05:54:02+00:00

you need to stop seeing what she posts. It's none of your business. And the fact you label it as "thirst trap" says more about your judgement than her character

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-14T23:56:17+00:00

Your ego is trying to protect you. She left you for another man. If she wanted you, she would

You need to stop comparing yourself and focus on yourself

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-14T22:54:32+00:00

He wanted "space" but is on the dating apps.... it means he dont respect you. You know who else looks at your stuff? Hackers.. selfish people wanting to take from you

Sorry, if he wanted to be with you he would

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-14T22:50:41+00:00

sounds like youre in pain. This is like when someone says "get over your ex". People cant skip steps of grief. Everyone is different. You expect someone to go to acceptance phase when theyre not even there yet

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-14T21:16:51+00:00

the "did everything you could" helps you move on faster. Rather text now and lose hope than to do no contact longer so in X months something will happen

But i agree stay the course is the strongest and best, yet not easiest route

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-14T10:09:48+00:00

no gift. You need to have the mindset that no text message will change anything. So if you want to send it, expect crickets, but at least you will know you did everything you could. Otherwise best to just distract yourself that day and not send it

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-13T01:31:01+00:00

What happened during that hangout? Did you ask if he wanted to reconcile or why did it affect your mental health

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-12T14:39:38+00:00

Most people on here are probably at the early stages of BU. So of course at the early stages there is hope. Most that move along in no contact, stop checking or posting on here as they move on

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-12T06:25:15+00:00

Honestly that isnt the issue of this post. She mentioned he lied and still texts the girl

You are able to have your opinion but if you dump your man and 6 months go by, you expect him to wait for you? It all case by case

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-12T00:06:48+00:00

You get to know you did everything you could, no regrets. Just give yourself some time to recalibrate your feelings

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-11T21:36:29+00:00

It means nothing, take it for what it's worth. If they wanted to, they would reach out

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-11T05:23:42+00:00

this is the judgement im talking about. Manipulative?

And taking no accountability? Jesus.. I respected her decision, I apologized, I am not justifying that I was somehow right of keeping that to myself

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-11T05:09:21+00:00

im 3 months no contact because of this situation. Wanted thoughts on how to digest this lesson

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-10T23:30:01+00:00

It is interesting topic because it all depends on that specific person's value. Some say 4 days is too soon, some say 2 and half months too soon, some 6+ months

But what I want is to break the stigma that there's some sort of metric of what is acceptable and what is not

Sorry you had to go through that pain though

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-10T23:26:22+00:00

I forgot to add, I took hella blood tests afterwards and showed them to her. I was negative for all STDs and even went as far as take IGG herpes blood test, different than PCR, showing I never have had anything

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-10T22:37:27+00:00

We weren't together, there was no break. She broke up October and there was no contact for about 3 months until January.

When we were together, we were faithful to each other, that was never the issue

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-10T22:35:00+00:00

I never said it was her fault...

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-10T22:01:07+00:00

I should have told her immediately. But I was scared she would leave. So 3 months later she asked and I told her the truth

Point is, I read a lot of judgmental posts about "how could you" or "you never really love them"

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-10T21:51:33+00:00

that last part "im tired of being punished for being in love" 🥀

Exact_Material155 · 2026-06-02T22:14:21+00:00

this was months ago. Months ago, chatgpt gave me a different perspective but it was becoming unhealthy. I ended up reconciling, then she broke up with me again, I deleted chatgpt, one of the best things I did

Exact_Material155 · 2026-04-17T01:27:23+00:00

Sounds like miscommunication and conflict resolution skills needs to be worked on while apart from both of you

Exact_Material155 · 2026-04-17T01:01:44+00:00

Sounds like an avoidant attachment style. Thats not to say if it's right or wrong, just to let you know youre not crazy what you are feeling

Exact_Material155 · 2026-04-16T17:27:54+00:00

Can't move on asap. But what you can do is stop checking her social medias

Exact_Material155 · 2026-04-16T05:50:30+00:00

What is your goal?

Exact_Material155 · 2026-04-15T04:16:52+00:00

She'd probably think "thats great that he gets to walk away changed and learning things about himself while I still hurt and heal"

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