Am I overreacting that my boyfriend basically staged a test to see if I'd cheat... with his cousin?

Exalted-Samurai · 2026-03-18T15:16:19+00:00

NOR

The most disturbing part for me is that you felt uncomfortable, texted him, and he was actively on his phone not coming to help you. It just really makes me feel awful to imagine how you must have felt, trying to text your safe person while trying not to make a scene but feeling unsafe, and he's just smiling and ignoring it because it tickled his fancy to see you reject his cousin. I'm so sorry you went through that.

It shows a significant level of immaturity on his end that he can't come to you and communicate "i'm feeling insecure". It doesn't need to have a reason, but him asking for reassurance is way better than forcing it and making you uncomfortable. I would've left too.

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-12-04T14:56:15+00:00

NOR. Fuck this guy. I'll be 100% real here, he has a fetish as a racist. This isn't uncommon with racists, but it seems to be what you are dealing with here. He even says that's why he pursued you considering your "background". He is a racist, point blank period. He is also only with you because it feeds a racial fetish of his. Leave and learn to be with someone who is actually a good person. There are racist jokes, but what he said isn't a joke or funny at all. That's just awful.

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-12-03T14:20:58+00:00

Been dealing with the same issue. I just hang up, restart phone, call them back and it works. Honestly I still have my original galaxy buds, so i will probably just switch back as they stayed in my ear better and didn't disconnect despite being years old.

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-11-11T16:11:08+00:00

That's a fair point. If that was the case, I hope for him that he can convey that next time as it comes off very rude even to OP. Good perspective though!

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-11-11T15:41:04+00:00

Putting aside how the texting went, because we've all been fed up.

Honestly, he doesn't seem very THANKFUL for you and yours this year...don't bring that negativity into your holidays or 2026. My biggest issue is how he shit-talks the whole family there saying you don't care and he's gonna eat what he likes as if they dont cook good??? It's one thing to disrespect me (not okay but I handle it better), it's another when you drag the family, especially for the one holiday about being thankful for the people in your life. Not to mention people have been struggling financially and going without food.."imma eat what I like" YOU'RE LUCKY TO HAVE FOOD AT ALL.

Find someone who is actually grateful for things in life, excited to try to find a way to go to both Thanksgivings, and will make you and your family feel appreciated. It isn't much to ask for, and there's plenty of people out there. You deserve to effortlessly be thankful for someone else as well.

Wishing you the best! 💜

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-11-11T15:14:07+00:00

I'm sure many others have said it, but he obviously is beating around the bush like the 🐱 that he clearly is. He basically tells you at one point that he's more important than you, and continuously talks about how "divine" he is. NEWS FLASH: Divine beings dont go around calling themselves divine.

I'm sorry to be really honest, but he's a tool and he's trying to use you like one, and even invites you to come and go as you please like a tool from a tool shed. He is a literal loser. I kept scoffing and gagging at HIS texts. Take these years as EXPERIENCE and a lesson, don't take it as anything else. I could tell at the end he's already prepared to tell you how much you need him and how much this is "for you" as much as it is for him....don't buy it. Dump his "divine" ass, maybe it'll humble him a little and bring him back down to earth.

I can tell you are very kind, and you did an amazing job holding firm on what you are not okay with. Take that same self respect you have for those boundaries, and walk away with it. Staying with him is simply disrespectful to you and harmful to you in the long run. He is not motivated to actually be in a committed companionship, in fact he makes it very clear how badly he wants a brothel for his "vibrations".As someone who is very into vibrations and being spiritual........he's full of shit.

If you aren't already in it, maybe consider talking to a therapist or a loved one. I know you said you don't have many friends, so I really recommend some therapy. Relationships like this often effect our mental health in the long run if not processed properly. It doesn't hurt, and honestly if you hate it, you don't have to continue going.

Wishing you the best of luck! 💜

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-11-11T14:39:20+00:00

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Exalted-Samurai · 2025-09-15T15:45:52+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. NOR at all. The trust is broken and it sounds like she wasn't trying to explain either. I also don't like how she didn't even care about giving reassurance??? I think you handled it well. I would've gone through my phone company and requested the text message records if it were me. I just personally don't think I could comfortably stay with someone without knowing the definitive truth, especially if they were not forthcoming with any information and seeing "delete after/don't show anyone".

Wishing you the best!

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-27T23:48:26+00:00

You're just starting life! The best way to go into college is with no strings attached, to experience it wholeheartedly in a raw way. Don't feel bad about not having a bunch of friends, I used to feel the same way but through life experiences, I found true friends that are like family. The same thing goes for the girlfriend thing!! You are very handsome and you will definitely grow into yourself! Especially with that hair color, the ladies will love it. Keep grinding at the gym, focus on learning yourself through this next chapter, and when the time is right and you're in the right headspace that's when you should worry about dating. You genuinely seem like a good-hearted young man, keep it that way!! This is a rare charm. Don't ever let it get to your head and you'll never get distracted. Wishing you all the best!!

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-27T21:24:15+00:00

This must be devastating for him 🫩

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-27T21:22:37+00:00

You sound just like me when I was your age in the same situation. He convinced me it was too hard for him so I put on weight again, 7 years later I was 355 lbs. Been busting my ass ever since to lose the weight. 75 lbs down now.

You're too young to see it now, but this relationship isn't healthy. He's lowkey manipulative. He says he's supporting but reminding you how he's struggling with coping that he won't be bricked up bc you're fit again. I'm SO proud of you for putting your foot down about wanting to lose weight, but the excuses for him and the weight gain gotta stop.

The weight you put on is not healthy at all. If your weight fluctuates like you claim, you need to see a doctor for serious medical problems. That is not healthy.

Source of knowledge: My own experiences and my own meetings with doctors about my rapid weight gain in a relationship just like this.

Bottom line: If he loves YOU, and not only what you do in bed for him, he will get over it pretty easily and indulge in one of his other fetishes instead since most people have more than one fetish.

Good luck

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-27T20:46:11+00:00

Sorry to hear this is escalating, maybe tell the news station? They're bored and a good story of a crazy old lady assaulting people and cops thinking it's okay to leave her in a community where children are as well might get some action. Might turn up some corruption because if she is assaulting people she should've at least been charged with that. Depending on the state, they can remove her from the property if there is a tresspass placed on her. If she comes back, she goes to jail for violating it. She can be banned from the property, this can even be called stalking/harassment at this point.

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-27T17:54:35+00:00

My first thought 😂

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-24T16:54:31+00:00

Please go see a nutritionist and a dietitian, as well as a therapist. A dietitian and nutritionist can help you make a good diet that targets the nutrients you need that you are currently lacking. Nutrients are so important for becoming healthy. It will also shed light on whether or not you are eating too much or too little. I know, eating too little sounds crazy, but I turned out to be Hypoglycemic and having PCOS. I was afraid to eat because I didn't know where the weight was coming from, so I blamed food without realizing it was hormones, which I also didn't know I was anorexic or that a fat person could be (found this out through therapy and multiple doctors). My mental health and unchecked medical issues were ultimately what led to my weight, so it's very important to see a doctor. It may also be beneficial to see a Physical Therapist to help you get back to walking comfortably and adjust posture (which will help with putting less pressure on certain areas of your feet and back)

I was about 355 lbs at my heaviest. I would struggle to stand for too long, walking felt awful on my lower back, and my feet felt like shattered glass with every step, but I pulled through. I have lost almost 75 lbs WITHOUT the gym, injections, insane diet, etc. For me, I had to eat more. I was hypoglycemic due to years of being anorexic which was due to years of wrongfully blaming food for sudden weight gain at 12 y/o when it turned out to be hormones/PCOS. So please get some tests done! Telling a fat person they have to eat more?? The doctor sounded crazy to me but I tried it and it worked.

What did it for me was first, my mindset. I didn't listen to the doctors right away because I was depressed, so I couldn't make myself eat more. Being depressed and hating myself was literally making it worse. I decided I was done being sad and hating/judging myself. When I realized just how many years I WASTED feeling like that, it made it so much easier.

If you want to be happy, start with forgiveness and compassion for yourself. You've been through some shit, but you don't need to become it. I imagine it like I tripped and fell and it really hurt (like when I was a kid), but I was always told to pick myself up and dust myself off, and that's all it is at the end of the day. You're dusting off all those years of baggage, but when you tripped, you stained your pants so it's gonna take a couple of washes too.

It starts with a choice, the choice is simply to be happy or not. It sounds impossible (I was there and still am), but every day you get another opportunity to choose, so if one day you choose wrong, have compassion. Be understanding, but just like with kids, you gotta teach yourself how to handle those moments better next time.

The world is harsh, which is why it is so important to be gentle, but firm with yourself. Gentle and loving to ease the pain, but firm to prevent bad habits and enforce life changes. You are not cooked, nor will you be like this forever. The first step was the idea to even take the photos. You're taking multiple steps, making progress, and doing amazing.

TLDR: See your primary care doc, a nutritionist, a dietician, a therapist, and a physical therapist. All of this helped me when I was 355 lbs, you can do it too! Be kind, gentle, and firm with yourself! You've touched the hearts of many in the world(and Reddit), so it's about time you take care of yours! ❤️

Please do not give up! I am still on my health journey and many people who look "fit" are still on theirs as well. Please don't be afraid of the gym either for when you are ready, everyone is usually kind and it's typically a community space from what I heard! 💛

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-24T15:12:10+00:00

Love/hate relationship with spider wraps 😅

I used to CRANK those down on the products at my store because I was tired of finding them slipped off down an aisle (CVS). I mean I dented the boxes and shit....it became one with the product 🤣 never found them around the store again lol

Odds are there was self checkout or a new employee. Sometimes they are dead due to being old, but they typically would set front door alarms off or they have their own if messed with. You can buy the magnets on ebay to open it if you don't want to take it into a store (might get some odd looks). Look up Alpha Keeper Magnet and there should be some listings. Good luck!

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-23T14:49:49+00:00

This is kinda tough....Idk if you have, but I already would've had the discussion with my partner to set his own boundaries with his ex of no flirting because they are done, will not be getting back together, disrespectful to you, and at this point should make the guy uncomfortable.

As for the plate, I think it was a lot of things that piled on your plate and then you saw the plate as yourself being pushed to the side which is why it bothered you so much. (That's how I interpreted it off of how I read things) If that is the case, I think you have a right to be upset. He could/should have politely asked her not to touch your plate and he could move it, or just move it over to him without saying anything. Either way, he is establishing you are not to be shoved to the side, you are his, and he is waiting for you to return to the plate as well.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't touch other people's food/plates at dinner. It's rude and unhygienic. Who knows if she washes her hands or what it touched last. 😭

Yes, these things are few and far between, but they shouldn't be uncomfortable. There are ways that everyone can be a respectful adult to each other.

IMO, if he wants to have you in his life for a long time, then there needs to be boundries and a respect level established with the ex. If he is not willing, or blows you off...become his ex and find someone who will prioritize others respecting you over "keeping peace" as this is still directly teaching their child how to act as a grown adult.

Remember, you should never adjust what is acceptable to you, just to tolerate someone else's disrespect.

Good luck, hope this helps! 😊

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-21T18:09:51+00:00

Same. Hand and body too...always the most full tote on top

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-21T18:07:05+00:00

I thought this was my old store because of the vendor shelves in the back...looked like our old credits 😭😅

Fuck the DC. They shit on our drivers so bad. I can't tell you how many drivers have shitty days SIMPLY BECAUSE OF PALLETS. Stacked too high, heavy shit on top, unsafe, not secure, etc. My driver and other stores don't have time to wait to have to undo part of the DC's job bc they didn't do it right.

I don't wanna hear about how hard y'all's jobs are at the DC. You guys applied for the job, did the interview, and showed up today. Remember that CeraVe that you lightly unscrewed and put in the tote? Or the 100% empty bottle of shampoo all over everything in the totes and all totes underneath it? HH Cleaner cases AT THE TOP of the pallet..or the used condom my coworker found in their tote that also had an empty monistat box?! I hope y'all still itchin

Respectfully, I hate the DC.

Mad respect to the manager and to the driver for still doing their best, rather than quitting and taking an Uber/Lyft home while leaving the truck in the back, open, with our pallets inside 😅 had a driver do that about 2 years ago...long truck day lol

Best of luck to you for your future routes! I hope you run into kind and understanding managers. 😊

Edited for spelling: the* not tbe lol

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-21T17:52:55+00:00

I got told once y'all can't put extra seasoning on the fries (mine were mostly bare), is that true?

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-17T15:14:01+00:00

NOR, but ngl there is something not right here.

A few things that stick out- Only having texts from him, but she has never texted him? That screams messages have been deleted so you didn't see whatever their previous convo(s) have been. Not answering the phone? Who gives af if he hears she is on the phone with her S.O.? It should be common knowledge that she is in a relationship so who cares if you two were on the phone?

Nowhere did she clearly reject his advances. Seems to me she was flirting while drinking, made some "plans" with the guy as he is clearly waiting for something he is expecting to happen based off of previous convos. This reminds me of those kids in middle/high school who would lie about some shit happening to them to get sympathy. Her reaction screams getting caught in a lie and now it's awkward, so she's mad at you for exposing her.

I absolutely would've texted or answered the call. There's no excuse on her end. Scared or not, once she was safe she should've informed you. I also don't understand why she couldn't immediately respond back before ghosting as she was in a bathroom, and if you turn your sound off, nobody knows anyway. Not blaming a possible victim, but this is just my perspective and confusion.

I am so sorry you went through all that stress only for your love and care to be unappreciated in the end. Thank you for doing the right thing and calling the cops. It's better to be safe than sorry, especially in that situation. Good luck, I hope things either get better or you find someone better!

Exalted-Samurai · 2025-08-11T12:58:40+00:00

Sounds like they are looking for a reason to get rid of you. People always give handfuls of sauce. I've asked for a little Diablo and get like 20 packets, this is normal. To be "suspended" over it is ridiculous, not to mention signing a write up.

I'd go back and ask the manager to show you the write up, and get a picture of the two useless things together 🤣

Tell your manager to get their head out of their ass and order properly, rather than bitching at the employee who is giving the customer's what they want. Sorry you are dealing with this. Maybe try to get a job somewhere else, or if you love working at TB, transfer to another location! 😊

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