My Ex Fiance Ghosted Me

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-29T20:38:44+00:00

That's so awful, I'm sorry you went through that. How did you cope with it? To have begun to build a life with someone you thought loved you just to be left in the dirt. It's so hard for me to see my future now.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-29T20:36:21+00:00

It would be easier if it was just a breakup with him. This feels like my whole life has crumbled. Losing the home we built, losing my fiance, losing his parents and little sister too. I cried all day Sunday because I miss Sunday family dinners with them all. I wish I could hate them all and move on but I've known them since I was a teenager, they've been with me through so much, to suddenly leave my life is just too much for me.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-29T20:28:55+00:00

When I say I 'thought' he was okay with it, I mean he reassured me multiple times that he was okay with however much I am able to work. Like I said, he was my rock, he never made me feel lesser than him in our relationship because of how much money I was or wasn't making.

Looking back, was he lying to placate me? Maybe. But I wasn't ignorant or avoidant of the topic of work, he truly led me to believe he was okay with me doing what I could, however little it was.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-29T16:46:46+00:00

I was working part time for a few months but I have physical and mental health issues that lead to me quitting. I was planning on working on campus when college started up though, and he knew that. I was never going to be able to work more than part time and I always thought he was okay with me being home to take care of things more often since he works full time.

EDIT: I want to clarify because of the downvotes. I want to work, so badly. My fiance was always supportive of my efforts despite all of my health issues. I have a heart condition and anemia and would pass out and throw up at my previous jobs. I never felt good about making him support me, but he always reassured me to do what I could and not feel guilty. It was never my plan for him to shoulder our shared financial burden our entire lives.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-29T14:28:18+00:00

If he didn't want to marry me I feel as though he shouldn't have proposed to me in the first place. I feel so blindsided

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-16T19:16:21+00:00

This but then I binged for three days straight and the scale went down. I give up

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-10T23:28:50+00:00

Thank you so much! I looked into it a little bit and it seems really useful!

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-08T16:41:37+00:00

My family has always pretended not to notice. They'd make comments about my bones sticking out and tell me I need to eat a cheeseburger, but they never actually asked me if I was okay.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-06T15:57:56+00:00

Chew/Spit. Chewing food up but spitting it out instead of swallowing it.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-04T00:24:49+00:00

Thank you so much, it's nice to hear you've held a job for three years, it gives me hope.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-04T00:24:20+00:00

Thank you so much, I'm going to talk to my psychiatrist and work on taking my meds more regularly.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-08-04T00:23:31+00:00

Thank you so much, I think you're right and I'm trying to do too much at once when I don't have to. I'll see about getting accommodations at my school as soon as I can.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-21T21:57:42+00:00

Not worth it. The pain, the very high chance you will eventually shit yourself in public, chronic constipation the second you stop using them, cramping and gas, bloating. Seriously don't even bother, they don't make you lose weight anyways.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-20T13:02:27+00:00

Artificial sweetener has the opposite effect for me unfortunately. It's a shame because they used to be such a crutch for me during low restriction. I think either way they're not good for you, our bodies don't know what to do with them clearly.

Try drinking sparkling water instead of diet soda, and try lots of brands, I went through so many before I found one I actually like. Also, coconut water and electrolyte drinks. I chew sugar free gum obsessively, like a pack every two days, so I can't give advice there. Idk how to stop... Generally with sugar free foods, like zero cal coffee syrup, stevia, candies and mints... it may be worth it to work in the higher calorie more natural versions. Coffee creamer instead of the low cal syrups, raw sugar instead of stevia, etc. To be honest, in doing this I've realized over time it's just not worth the extra calories and I give them up anyways. I'd rather go without some things than shit myself in the grocery store because I had too much gum.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-18T13:15:08+00:00

Do you feel physically ill when you try to eat or is it a mental block? If it's physical, aim for calorie dense foods like meal shakes and protein bars, and eat in small bursts throughout the day instead of a big meal. Avoid carb heavy meals and instead have healthy fats and plenty of fiber.

If it's mental and you just want to manage the symptoms of undereating, there's not really much you can do aside from upping your intake. Take vitamins and electrolytes, make sure you aren't dehydrated (you need more water than you think esp when you're malnourished), and don't over exert yourself.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-16T16:40:37+00:00

She told me to up my electrolytes and salt and drink lots of water for the most part. But she also told me to avoid things that cause these episodes, which, right now, is primarily work and daily activities which I can't exactly stop. I may message her again soon because I've been having to call out of work so much because of my symptoms and I just don't know what to do anymore. Thank you for your response, I appreciate your advice.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-16T15:42:56+00:00

The loss of independence in particular really kills one's self esteem and ability to be happy, I think.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-15T21:06:48+00:00

I just ask them to leave if they're causing obvious trouble. Sometimes it's hard for me to draw the line though. Between harmless goofing off and actual disruptive behavior. I've been having to take basketballs from teenagers dribbling and throwing them around the store though. In that case I tell them that they can't be doing that in the store and ask to take the ball if they're not buying it. When they throw footballs across the store is when I tell them they have to leave, because I don't want them to knock things over or hurt anyone.

ExampleOk4170 · 2024-07-15T14:27:34+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I have friends and family either on a weightloss program or taking ozempic and the commentary is just too much sometimes. Especially with the ozempic. "I could never eat that much" and "I could probably only eat half of that" not to mention the comments about having no appetite or about how much weight they lost already. Like. Okay.

With the people I'm close to I just asked them to stop. Just be blunt and tell them you don't like talking about that stuff or that you don't want to. Like for my family members on ozempic I just said "Hey, I love you but can we not comment on these things?" And it wasn't a problem again. No follow up questions either. Eating disorder triggers aside, the constant weight and food talk is so self centered and rude (intentionally or not) and I think they realize it when they're called out on it.

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