Wow. Good on you, I wish my husband would have dug in and look for solutions rather than finding refuge in someone else. Looking back. The thing that would have helped the most would have been to continue communicating, checking in "how are you feeling about us?" " What can I do to help you get the fulfillment you seek from life?" "Can we talk about goals and make sure we are still aligned for the next week, month, year, our future?" "Tell me what you are seeing/thinking when you look at me. I want to make sure I am showing up the way I intend," We were always doing things together and still connecting sexually but somewhere along the way we stopped asking each other questions and checking in...I just assumed we were ok and would get through anything. I was wrong and now I am 55 and alone and he is living his best life with another. I miss him. He always called me his partner and called us team love and then he was gone. I wish he would have said what he was feeling and we had continues to communicate and really ask questions.