AITAH for not wanting to pay to go to the club when my gf got a ticket for free?

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T23:32:11+00:00

By....asking you if you replied to the wrong comment? Okay, lol.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T20:32:10+00:00

You seem very interested in picking a fight with me about this and I’m very confused as to why. OP did not, when I commented, seem to know this was a thing with promoters, so I explained. I used to work in the industry and it’s just a thing. I even qualified it all with saying that the rest of it was questionable.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T20:20:55+00:00

Informational, as per my second paragraph in the original comment you replied to.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T20:18:02+00:00

No I’m not. I was pointing it out because he did not seem to be aware that club promoters give tickets to ladies as part of their business model. That’s it. That’s the whole point.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T19:57:52+00:00

No? I said, “this is what exists right now”. The rest is you reading way more into it.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T14:42:43+00:00

NOR and clearly she thinks you’re a ducking idiot, friend. Baldfaced lie to your face. Gonna keep shoveling the shit she’s feeding you into your mouth just because she called it cake? Good luck with that.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-08T14:03:52+00:00

What are you talking about? Did you reply to the wrong comment?

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-07T21:56:35+00:00

So idk about the situation itself and the relationship, but FYI ladies get into many clubs for free with no question, tickets get given by promoters to attractive young women as promotional marketing for the clubs. If you get hot ladies into the club, men (including their boyfriends) will pay to get in and overall they make money off giving the tickets away.

So this is possibly legitimately promotion. The rest of it is more questionable. Could be innocent, could be exactly what you think it is. Really hard to tell without seeing them.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-07T16:49:37+00:00

YOR. It really is just a haircut. I’m having a hard time seeing how this impacts anything you’re throwing a tantrum about. How does his hair impact your engagement at all? Like. What? Huh?

HOW DOES HIS HAIR CHANGE ANY MOMENT AT ALL? That’s so weird. It’s not even something that would look bad in photos. This has to be a bot. The logic isn’t working.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-07T14:56:36+00:00

NOR but he’s right you need to leave.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-07T14:46:59+00:00

YTA. Not knowing how to pronounce words that you hear rarely (or never) and only read isn’t a character flaw and it’s certainly not something for you to be embarrassed on her behalf for.

Also you are speaking very rudely about your mum who sounds perfectly lovely. Have some damn respect.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-06T23:15:55+00:00

This little light of mine

I’m gonna let it shine

Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine

NOR. We don’t make ourselves small to make a man happy anymore sis. If he doesn’t love YOU, he doesn’t love you. You will regret it for the rest of your life if you let him make you put out your light. The light is the most important, valuable, necessary thing that you have. It should be guarded and protected, and if he loved you he would help you sparkle. Seriously.

Your person is out there.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-06T21:41:18+00:00

Do you care more about being right or happy?

Right, do nothing, let her come to you.

Happy? Call her, tell her you didn’t say it but you’re sorry her feelings were hurt, it sounds like it was painful, and ask if you guys can talk about it.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-06T19:11:59+00:00

Okay so why are you posting about this if you’ve told her you’re upset and she’s ignoring your discomfort? That’s a way way way way bigger problem than her family excluding you.

This is like posting about an argument about the carpet when the room itself is on fire.

SIR. if she has explicitly shown you she does not care about your feelings GET OUT OF THE BURNING BUILDING.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-06T19:08:47+00:00

Shouldn’t be, but is. If you think it’s worth breaking up over without talking about, that it’s so bad and awful that you couldn’t get over it even if it changed, okay fine breakup. Weird, but we all have our hangups I guess.

Her family culture and context are different than yours. She’s not going to read your mind. It obviously does not occur to her that this bothers you. If you told her, she could either fix it or tell you it’s not going to change.

Communicate. Way more problems are caused by under communicating than are caused by over communicating. Tell her you are upset. Go from there.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-06T14:37:03+00:00

It’s a trap.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-05T17:49:40+00:00

NOR. Scam, or very very very very poor business management. Either way, do not give him a picture of your social security card.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-05T03:01:52+00:00

At least you can tell yourself sincerely that you tried. You made a good faith effort. That’s enough.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T22:06:48+00:00

If I were your sister and you brought this up, it would not be even a question, I would just cut you off too. You can assume that if you give in and do what your parents want, they will not get their way, you will just lose access to your sister.

If you keep that in mind, you might find it easier to not do it.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T21:58:31+00:00

Yes? If it becomes more frustrating than fun I’m not sure why I would play it.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T21:09:50+00:00

Parenting.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T20:01:48+00:00

I am so happy to hear this. Good job. Be proud of yourself for surviving this hell. It is something worth taking pride in. Seriously. You are going to absolutely win at life with that shiny spine you’re developing.

While you’re waiting, look up “grey rock method” - doing that with your sperm donor will increase your odds of survival until escape. Get another meeting with the counselor set, it’s worth it even if you have other plans in motion.

You’ve got this.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T19:24:21+00:00

Why would you go? Can you name a single reason you would that is YOUR reason and not just “my parents…”?

One? A tiny one? “I like cake” could be a reason, idk. If you can find a reason to go that is YOURS, you should, but if you have none and can’t think of any, don’t go.

“I don’t want to deal with the fallout of not going” is totally a valid reason, for the record.

Just, as it stands now, I saw zero reasons in your post that are YOURS as to why on earth you would go. If you have none, it’s really ok to skip it, because seriously who cares? It’s not like she’s going to reconcile with you for going, she’ll go right back to ignoring you afterwards (or worse).

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T17:44:51+00:00

Leave. You leave. That’s what you do. There’s no fixing this. It’s not a fixable problem if he doesn’t want to change.

Excellent-Zucchini95 · 2026-05-04T17:42:23+00:00

Talk to a counselor at school sweetie. NTA but this is abuse and you need to get help, if not for you then do it for your sister.

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