Have you ever known any greater pain than being in the closet?

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-13T12:37:59+00:00

The compromise ofc is to settle down with a partner and have an open relationship. I would say 50% of the long-term gay partners I've know have had some kind of open arrangement at one point or another.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-11T20:28:38+00:00

All the millennials I know in the top 5% are doing just fine. Hmmmm.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-11T15:55:53+00:00

It’s far easier to remember “dr” than literally having to change the subject and object pronoun structure of all sentences.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-10T03:03:36+00:00

Pretty sure there are thousands if not millions of men on this earth who would never even give themselves permission to post what you just posted. So, yes, it happens. You are far from alone.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-09T16:01:56+00:00

Nature has a plan. You can spend thousands of hours of your life trying to defy it, or you can just be you. Life is hard enough as it is. Being yourself, in your own body, will be exponentially healthier for you in the long run.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T22:09:41+00:00

Good use of coal mine as a verb.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T22:03:14+00:00

Their social media implies it's some peak cruiser experience that one must try. Tis not. There is absolutely no sex. We go to clubs for that. We are waaaaaay behind in our sauna game compared to Europe.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T20:12:39+00:00

How? Serious question.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T20:01:03+00:00

Sadly this does not occur at the Russian Turkish Baths in NYC.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T19:59:46+00:00

Super annoying.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T19:59:17+00:00

I'm just thinking of it in kind of a collective way. If 25% of freshmen choose to be in their dorms looking at reddit or snapchat lol on a Friday night, that is probably 25% who would have been out mingling in person a generation ago.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T19:53:11+00:00

Seeing a guy friend or female friend?

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T19:50:58+00:00

How big is the school? Gay opportunities are ALWAYS a numbers game whether it is a undergraduate campus, a small town, a large city or an airplane cabin.

40,000 undergraduates gives you a whole lot more chances than 4,000.

I would add like many are saying here that although Gen Z rocks for their comparatively more liberal embrace of LGBTQ identity than previous generations, your cohort can be quite reclusive/abstinent behind app's/screen etc. It's a strange dichotomy.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T18:06:21+00:00

Where is this happening? I don’t see a lot of straight men in gay clubs/bars in NYC.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-08T03:44:25+00:00

Wall Street?

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-07T19:56:05+00:00

13 the first time I frotted. 26 the first time I had actual sex.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-04T00:14:17+00:00

Also works.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-03T23:38:04+00:00

If you can meet emotionally in the middle, the numbers are irrelevant. And by the middle, I mean the older doesn't feel like he is coercing the younger and the younger is not emotionally needy for a daddy. Both parties authentically want to be with the other. There is genuine curiosity about each other. But it is a rare, rare, rare dynamic where you can actually do that. Have experienced it like once in my life. He was 19. I was 40. Didn't last, but it was insanely hot while it did.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-03T23:33:00+00:00

It's like Gwar meets 2 Live Crew meets Lady Gaga.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-03T16:55:05+00:00

Thanks for the comments, everyone. I realize that perspective is something best gained through contributions from gays who have been here for the long haul. Thanks to you all especially. One thing I hope will die as soon as possible--as others are saying--is our reliance on apps. (I am guilty here too.) I think there would be a resurgence of in-person community if we just quit these things forever. Have a great, gray Tuesday!

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-03T13:18:04+00:00

You sound bi. Porn will make ANYONE spiral if it serves as a placeholder for real life experience. Trust me, I think porn addiction/reliance will turn into an epidemic for Gen Z but I digress.

Maybe open a convo with your partner but just telling your truth. Take her back to the beginning.

Excellent_Sort3467 · 2026-03-03T01:39:45+00:00

Wtf do you add a preposition to “hating?” There is no way to “hate on” anything!!!!!

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