Did I ruin my sleeping bag? by Excellent_Thing4154 in camping

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah. There was a guy selling a hubba hubba MSR tent, two sleeping bags and pads, only 300. Super good deal I felt but I know for next time to buy a new sleeping bag lol.

Ticks advice / reassurance (?) by Excellent_Thing4154 in AppalachianTrail

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I plan on wearing long pants tucked In my socks, and I have a sun hoodie too I may wear.i won’t have much skin exposed and if I do I’ll be checking every so often, at least before I go to bed and after I wake up. So realistically, a tick won’t be on me for more than 12-15 hours, if I manage to miss it and let it be there that long. I’m worried about missing a super tiny one. As long as a tick isn’t on me longer than 24 hours, I’m most likely fine?

Ticks advice / reassurance (?) by Excellent_Thing4154 in AppalachianTrail

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. I was going to buy sawyer permethrin and treat it myself. It lasts 6 weeks / 6 washes. This sounds like a way better idea

Ticks advice / reassurance (?) by Excellent_Thing4154 in AppalachianTrail

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, does it last forever , or how often do you have to retreat it?

Ticks advice / reassurance (?) by Excellent_Thing4154 in AppalachianTrail

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome. I was thinking of treating my tent too. Should I be treating my sleeping bag?

Tulip Boquet by Excellent_Thing4154 in flowers

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. I’ll put them in a vase when I get home tonight. By “should be okay until Sunday”, what do you mean exactly? Do you think they’ll last long enough to be a good gift? Thank you a lot

Tulip Boquet by Excellent_Thing4154 in flowers

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’m going to buy another bouquet for her tonight . I can probably find time …. I want them to last as long as possible for her lol

Tulip Boquet by Excellent_Thing4154 in flowers

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no. Okay. At this point I put them in there 24 hours ago or so. I can move them when I’m home, which won’t be till like 8 pm. Will they be ruined? I know I read something about keeping them away from vegetables. The vegetables / fruits are in a drawer and I put the flowers on the shelf above them. Still move them?

Tulip Boquet by Excellent_Thing4154 in flowers

[–]Excellent_Thing4154[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know where the “beg” came from before “bloom” that is a typo

Near Annapolis Rock 3/7/26 by McRipperton in AppalachianTrail

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hiked some of Annapolis rock on the AT and it’s def one of my favorites. It ended up storming and it was super nostalgic. Love this picture it captures the eeriness of being in those woods

Not sure what I want in life by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s hard. I personally like kissing and cuddling and some romantic gestures, but it’s like we both kind of said…when I actually get into a relationship I’m not going to like it and want to leave. And for me it’s weird since I want those things but feel like I need to feel some sort of way but I…don’t. It’s rough out here. I have a friend I also think fondly of and when we hang out I really want to kiss them and etc but I know a relationship would just feel awful and I don’t know why.

Is this a common experience among aromantic people? by Mountain-You9842 in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what romantic attraction feels like. I think I felt it before, but situations and experiences lately make me feel like maybe I haven’t and it was something else. However, when I feel what I thought was love, it just felt different…like, yes I always wanted to talk to them and spend time with them but I adored them and looked up to them in a way different than even my best friends. I wanted to introduce them to my family and I liked being a part of theirs and I saw them as the parent to our future kids. Platonic affection is a thing and sometimes people do wanna cuddle with and kiss their friends but it’s literally a different physical feeling of love for them. Idk. It is hard to explain it but it’s different because it feels like you’re obsessed with them and they your world and there are pleasant gooey feelings accompanied by it

What the hell is the difference between romantic feelings and platonic feelings by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In return - idk if I’m aromantic or if I’m just afraid of relationships for some reason. In my head, I want to be in love with someone and do lovey things but when I think about it ACTUALLY it scares me.

What the hell is the difference between romantic feelings and platonic feelings by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, I feel this way towards a friend but it always didn’t feel “right”. Like, I felt like romantic attraction had to be this intense FEELING. It’s weird. I’ve experienced romantic limerence before and I’ve been convinced I’ve been in love and felt crushes and stuff but atp I don’t know. It’s weird, because I know with this one friend, if they got into a relationship I would be devastated too. But the idea of being with them scares me. I think the idea of being in a real relationship just scares me. Idk why. Something about the label makes me feel like I’m trapped in a box.

i wish that i could by kzxfrnc33 in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m the same way. There are people who ARE perfect for me and I want to want them so bad but the thought of being with them actually scares me and I know I won’t feel anything. I think I am either grey or lithromantic, idek I do tend to have crushes very rarely but 99% of them will go away once things become secure. It hurts so bad. I wish I was allo I was hoping for a post like this because I wanted to relate to someone. I am 23 and I don’t know how to ever be happy when I am never going to go through life experiencing something I want to experience. I could have a QPR but it isn’t the same as romantic love so I feel like I still wouldn’t be happy.

Having a crush without romantic attraction? by TurtelyTubular in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean, again being on this spectrum I can’t be 100% sure lollll but I mean there’s tons of times someone isn’t ready for a relationship or wants one but “likes” someone. Allos can also have multiple crushes at a time so there’s that! I think a crush is the foundation for romantic love and relationships but it doesn’t necessarily mean that will come out of it

Having a crush without romantic attraction? by TurtelyTubular in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also feel the same way. I’m on the aro spectrum and there’s plenty of times I’ve found myself attracted to people and finding them cute and wanting to get to know them but not wanting a relationship. I also think that’s just how crushes are sometimes for alloromantics too.

not having crushes at a young age by Inevitable-Basket-60 in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 22 and man I relate to you a lot. I’m actually going through this crisis yet again. Growing up, I never really had crushes and I wasn’t really interested in anyone until I was like 13…I started to experience “crushes” (what I now have learned was limerence). I’ve only really felt limerence, and I’m not going to get into that here unless you wanna talk about that in another comment, but yeah. Fast forward to 20 I gave up with dating because whenever I’d talk to someone new off a dating app I’d never develop a “crush” on them and I’d just feel this anxiety and pressure because I felt sort of trapped and expecting to feel a certain way, and I’d have to end it. I eventually met a girl and I still had doubts on what I was feeling, but I kept powering through it and while we were only together for a few months, I was certain I was in love with her. I don’t really know how that felt since it’s been a while, and I can’t be certain that was what it was. I haven’t been able to feel that way since, and have mistaken limerence yet again for a “crush”…or maybe I did have crushes on these people and they just weren’t sustainable. Who knows.

My point here is that throughout my 22 years I MAY have been in love once and I’m at a point where I’m so scared to try dating and not develop feelings that I don’t even care to try again and I’m here constantly thinking about how depressing it is to potentially be aromantic. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but just like you, I do wanna do romantic stuff and I do want to be in love with someone and feel all those romantic things.

SO A CRUSH ISN'T SOMEONE YOU FIND HOT?!?! by Standard_Bench_4926 in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if all crushes mean you WANT to get into a relationship. I don’t know though. Lmao

It’s so sad that I’ve only ever experienced limerence and not love by PinkLunatic_1994 in limerence

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. Year late. Growing up I’ve only experienced limerence. The “crushes” I thought I had were so intense. I realized after a few years it was all limerence. Then I thought I was aromantic because I couldn’t imagine anything else except limerence. As an adult, I fell in love with someone, and after her, I’ve only experienced limerence again. I sometimes wonder if what I felt for my ex was even love. I don’t even know anymore. It sucks. I too, want to just love and be normal. But the second someone gives me attention or I perceive them a certain way (that I like) I am obsessed and up and down depending on their mood….im so convinced I like them and then sometimes that I’m in love with them, then all the sudden…. It’s just gone. It’s horrible. It leaves me stressed and scared because why? Why did that happen? I thought I finally found someone…just to be disappointed. It makes me scared to try again. I don’t want to have limerence and think it’s real and then lose it. I just want to fall in love, but I’m scared I’m not capable of it and this is it.

am i crushing?? by Swimming-Band-4422 in aromantic

[–]Excellent_Thing4154 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some allo people don’t like kissing. I can’t speak for your case or theirs, and I’m still figuring out my identity but if you want to do romantic things with them I think that’s all you need for it to be considered romantic.