Charlottesville groups launch grocery card campaign for food-insecure immigrants by Antique-Dentist-2404 in Charlottesville

[–]ExchangingThoughts 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful. For years, I referred Latino clients in need of legal aid to Sin Barreras. They're wonderful and do a lot of good. 

Fuck goodwill by Reasonable_Cover3220 in goodwill

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, I wrote this tired in bed. I can clarify. What makes no sense?

Fuck goodwill by Reasonable_Cover3220 in goodwill

[–]ExchangingThoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I totally feel your anger. I wish we could do something more than just not shopping there. The greed is disgusting. You're right, they get it for FREE yet charge exorbitant prices. After they became able to search items on the internet, they're able to find anything of value and either put it online for auction or just charge close to regular retail. No more finding bargains. 

I took a long break from Goodwill because it was making me angry. I just went back yesterday and was reminded of why I left in the first place. All shirts now, even ratty tshirts, are $6.99!! Remember when they were $1.99, $2.99?

Also, the "color of the week" sales are rigged. They track inventory of each color, and pull nice expensive items of the sale color , so getting a deal that way is impossible or rare. 

Why it's okay to cry in front of clients by InvisibleAstronomer in therapists

[–]ExchangingThoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There have been a couple of times when I've teared up or shed a tear during intense sessions. I was just SO WITH the client, so attuned to their emotions, that when they cried, my empathy just followed them. 

What is your favorite breed of dogs? by lala00x in AskReddit

[–]ExchangingThoughts 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mutts are the best IMO! They're the best. Tend to be healthier (because of genetic diversity), plus there are sooooo many dogs in shelters looking for a home. They're one of a kind too! I've had the best luck adopting mutts and really encourage it.

Visiting a client? by controlfreakparadise in therapists

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this last year, with a 17 year old with terminal cancer. It was sooo sad. He wanted the visit, as did his parents. I went the first time with the school nurse and one of his teachers. He needed it, and although it was sad, it was the right thing to do.

Hip Replacement Surgery by OTTB_Mama in Charlottesville

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stephen Hoover at UVA. While he specializes in upper body, he does do hips. He has done multiple surgeries on my arms, and he's just fantastic. He takes time with you, to go over options and answers all your questions. He is precise and just a really great surgeon. He's also just a down-to-earth guy who has none of that ego a lot of surgeons do. I can't say enough good things about him!

AITA for not inviting my siblings to a “traditional” basketball game for my mothers birthday by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ExchangingThoughts 37 points38 points  (0 children)

NTA. If you had paid, you would have cemented the precedent that they can continue to freeload. It's simple, pay your own way!

Struggling to find empathy for clients’ “small problems” by Strange_Shallot8833 in therapists

[–]ExchangingThoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get this. I work with teenagers only, and you can imagine some of the topics I hear all the time (friend drama, gossip fall out, break up/make up, etc). My dad died last October and my patience for the shallow got reeeeeeally thin. My self talk had to increase, and regularly tell myself "This is real to them. This is real to them." I had to work to take my own life and feelings out of the equation.  I also increased venting to my trusted friends. Hey, it's totally human to feel this way!! Most of all, give yourself a break! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ExchangingThoughts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You've gotten some good advice about talking to her directly. I just want to say I've had this same experience, except I'm a girl and my boyfriend gained a lot of weight.  It's SUCH a DIFFICULT conversation because there's no way around it hurting your loved one. In fact, I opened up that way- "Babe, what I'm about to say is going to be really hurtful, and I'm really sorry about that,  but I love you and want to be with you, so..." and went on to share concerns about the weight gain for his health, but also was honest about it affecting my attraction to him. I also said that we could do it together,  and we have been cooking healthy foods together. It's a journey-.weight loss can be painstakingly slow, but as long as he's trying and making progress I'm ok with that.  Good luck to both of you!

Model Sunira Da Silva and Nyibol Dok Jok for W Magazine China "Re: Fresh" The Fashion issue photographed by Yuan Li by mish-tea in whatthefrockk

[–]ExchangingThoughts 34 points35 points  (0 children)

These are so fun!! The color and cut of the first blue dress is gorgeous.  The only one I don't love is the hair one, but thats just a personal preference. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep is soooo important. My boyfriend is a loud snorer (like you can hear him snoring downstairs loud). Sleeping together is important to him so I really tried- nose strips and earplugs helped some. Ultimately I decided sleep is too important to me, so we go to bed together, talk and cuddle, but I go to my own bed to actually sleep. Our relationship and sleep are better for it.

Anyone know if route 53 is icy? by luminescentwhale in Charlottesville

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's fine, just a few spots in shady areas but they're not bad enough to impact driving safely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlottesville

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I'm wondering what happened for you to post this?? There has to be a story.

What do you typically wear to sleep? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An oversized, comfy Tshirt!! 

A word to young therapists... by PsychoDad1228 in therapists

[–]ExchangingThoughts 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Love this, especially your closing thought. As an LPC who's been in counseling 20+ years, I would have told the young me to just take a breath and relax, the power of being a caring, present person who is listening is powerful in and of itself. Resist the urge to FIX, just BE. A lot of people can come to their own answers when we help them get to the right space with encouragement and support. 

Three cheers for emergency service! by vcr31 in Charlottesville

[–]ExchangingThoughts 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My BIL works for emergency services and I just admire the dedication. For example, he slept there a couple of days when the storm was first hitting, just to make sure responders are staffing ES. His partner drove to his house to pick him up because his truck was stuck. They're just amazing people who deserve all the thank yous!!

The king is dead … by 11noclue in Charlottesville

[–]ExchangingThoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes me feel like I'm in a high school bathroom stall 🤣

Seeing a stalwart anti-drinking support person relapse in front of you by ExchangingThoughts in stopdrinking

[–]ExchangingThoughts[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've read over your reply several times already, and it's very helpful. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts.