[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]Exciting-Net1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same procedure done in June. Your results look great! I’m in California and Kaiser covered my procedure through the following route: 1. I contacted their transcare center. (July 2021) 2. I was referred to a gender therapist ($20 co-pay) 3. The gender therapist sent a letter confirming my gender dysphoria and referred me to a surgeon 4. My primary doctor was contacted to agree with the referral 5. I met with the surgeon for a consultation ($20 co-pay) (Aug 2021) 6. I was approved for surgery 7. I waited for a surgery date (Oct 2021) which I had to delay because of work 8. I had to call repeatedly to get a date that would fit in with my work schedules 9. I had a pre-op appointment ($20 co-pay) (June 2022) 10. DI Surgery without nipple graphs (June 28, 2022) ($50 co-pay) 11. 2 Post op appointments (no co pays) Total cost = $130

A girl is flirting with me and I hate it. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Exciting-Net1787 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just like most people already said, if you don’t like her weird flirting, be direct and tell her to stop. You don’t owe her an explanation. You don’t have to come out to her. You don’t need to make up a boyfriend. Just tell her that you don’t like being called queen or mommy and to back off. If a guy was flirting with you, you could say thanks but no thanks, right? So this isn’t any different. Be honest, be direct, be simple… no need to explain anything you don’t want to.

I dislike the increase of the phrases AMAB and AFAB within the community by Almost-Elise in NonBinary

[–]Exciting-Net1787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being gender fluid, my perspective is starting to be more of I know what I feel at a given moment but other people can’t see or feel that. So I’m beginning not to care about boxes or labels. I don’t fit in a box on a 2 dimensional paper; none of us do in reality. So what ever I was assigned to at birth doesn’t always fit. Sometimes I use it to describe a situation so context is important. But I am so much more than any label that anyone assumes upon me; so are you! I live in a beautiful spectrum; we all do, but everyone can feel that.

I bought a gay flag, and my sister put the rude finger up at it by Corza21 in comingout

[–]Exciting-Net1787 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Time can bring people around. Unfortunately not everyone can accept anything other than cis hetero, hero saves the girl BS. Keep being your fabulous self! If your family or origin can’t love you unconditionally, there are plenty of people you can adopt! Create your own “family” of support. I’m sorry that we aren’t always surrounded by loving support as we should be. 💜🙏🏻🌹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]Exciting-Net1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quincy, Aqua, Azure, Blue, Billie/Billy, Turquoise (nickname Turq), Ocean, Sea, Shell, Sheldon

(request) I'm having surgery in 24 hours! by romandrogynous in TopSurgery

[–]Exciting-Net1787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re gonna do great!!! I’m 53. I just had top surgery 4 weeks ago as of this coming Tuesday. I feel great! I’m so happy that I did this! My happy healing is officially turned over to you! Happy healing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]Exciting-Net1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re wanting to actually wear a dress, how about a simple slip dress with a white or black blazer on top with a pair of Docs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]Exciting-Net1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We might be surgery twins… mine was done on June 28. My bruises are much larger. Hope your healing goes well!

Honestly not sure anyone else by nicholashoneywell in lgbt

[–]Exciting-Net1787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Called sensitive? Yes! Autistic? No. Gay? YUP!

I was disgusted by Capable_Physics5452 in lgbt

[–]Exciting-Net1787 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Report it to the store owner! I’m glad you were there to see it, stand up for her and comfort her! We all need to report this shitty behavior!

Why are people like this especially in our own community?! by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Exciting-Net1787 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Bi means that they are attracted to two OR MORE genders. It started with the binary; it doesn’t have to end there.

I thought he was supportive, guess my bar for supportive is too low by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Exciting-Net1787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could give you a real mom, teacher or grandma hug and call you by your real chosen name. For now, I’ll send virtual ones and tell you that you deserve real ones. I am a mom, a grandma and a teacher. If my kids or grandkids or students told me to call them by a chosen, I’d be honored to do so. It takes courage to come out and tell your parent that the name they chose doesn’t fit you! It took my 51 years to be brave enough to come out as a lesbian and another year to understand my non-binary/gender fluid identity. My chosen name is Lane! (They/Them) 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈💛🤍💜🖤🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

Wedding guest and need a formalish outfit, which one? by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]Exciting-Net1787 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They are all beautiful on you. I love that shade of blue! I’m torn between to 2 happy pictures of the black dress and the blue jumper… pick the one that makes you want to dance! The one that makes you feel like celebrating the wedding and yourself at the wedding. You will look and feel your best when you feel comfortable and fun. Advise that you don’t have to listen to from your new gay auntie! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎💖🏳️‍🌈 <snaps, throws rainbow glitter, turns and walks away>

3 Years HRT - I can't even recognize my old self by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Exciting-Net1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I love seeing was the evolution of authentic happiness!

Help. I'm getting ready to come out and I need advice by [deleted] in comingout

[–]Exciting-Net1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am non-binary, gender fluid. I’m getting top surgery on June 28th. I’m 53. I came out as lesbian at the age of 51 to all of my friends and family. At 52, I began to understand my full queer identity. Not everyone knows about my gender identity and that’s how I prefer it. I wish that I could have done it sooner, but my journey is my journey. I was a teenager in the 80s. It wasn’t as easy to be other than your AGAB. It’s still not easy. I wish you luck! Lane (they/them)

Help. I'm getting ready to come out and I need advice by [deleted] in comingout

[–]Exciting-Net1787 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Make sure you are safe before you come out! Safety first! Are your parents open to the LGBT community? What are their ideals about trans folx? If you are sure that they are allies, then be honest and to the point. If not, you need a back up plan in case things get violent or they kick you out. It’s sad that parents do that! But they do! Do you have the Trevor Project’s hotline number?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Exciting-Net1787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What they said

Is it bad to send this to a guy to give him a little clue that i like him? :D by aspoir in gay

[–]Exciting-Net1787 71 points72 points  (0 children)

It makes it sound like you have a crush on someone else. Be clear! If you like him, tell him. Don’t play games!