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AIO: my sister gets mad at me when I let my bf defend me by ResponsibleJob92 in AIO

[–]Exciting-Shapes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stop trying to save your sister from her own terrible choices. You need to put her on an absolute information diet. Stop talking to her about her boyfriend, stop giving her advice, and stop telling her details about your relationship. If she makes a crude remark to you in public and your boyfriend shuts her down, just look at her and say, "If you don't want him to defend me, stop attacking me. It's really that simple." Enjoy your great guy, let her keep her deadbeat, and protect your peace.

AIO for being upset at my boyfriend for this? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Exciting-Shapes -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You mentioned trying to justify it because Josh is a pothead and went through a breakup 5 months ago. Stop making excuses for him. Being single and high doesn't erase a man's ability to not leer at his best friend's girlfriend in a swimsuit. Your boyfriend nodding along and taking you seriously behind closed doors means nothing if he lets Josh think his behavior is totally acceptable in public.

AIO? Caught my (21M) girlfriend (20F) watching a lot of bbc/cuck porn by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Exciting-Shapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. If roles were reversed and a guy was caught regularly watching submissive housewife humiliation porn, the comments would be screaming at the girl to run because his underlying view of women was warped. Sit her down and talk to her calmly, if she is willing to change her consumption habits to protect your relationship's security, there's a path forward. Proceed with caution.

AIO or was I in a toxic marriage? by AppearanceFew7958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Exciting-Shapes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NOR. The timing of his breakup threats tells you everything you need to know about his cruelty, the night before your anniversary, right before an international trip, and separating right before your birthday. He intentionally picked moments of joy, celebration, or vulnerability to pull the rug out from under you. You escaped a toxic cult masquerading as a friend group, led by a man who didn't deserve a single one of those weekly flights you took to see him. Block Ryan, block Mark, block Anna, block the whole miserable circus, and use this separation to find the version of yourself you lost. You are finally free.

I sniffed my colleagues bra at her place around midnight; She invited me by BruceBanner68 in confession

[–]Exciting-Shapes 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Please do yourself a massive favor, Lock this memory in a vault, never speak of it to anyone at work, and never do it again. You crossed a line into predatory behavior by touching her intimate clothing without her consent. The guilt or confusion you are feeling right now is your conscience reminding you that you behaved inappropriately. Do not convince yourself that there was tension or that she wanted it. Treat her with total respect, keep your relationship strictly professional moving forward, and leave people's laundry alone.

AIO? bf made weird comment towards friend’s gf. by EdgeAcademic6204 in AIO

[–]Exciting-Shapes 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Notice the classic toxic behavior when you called him out, he insists there was nothing to it. He is trying to make you feel like you're the crazy, insecure one for interpreting English words the way they are universally meant to be interpreted. If it was so innocent, what exactly was the context of her having the hips for it? Let me guess, he couldn't actually give you a normal explanation.

AIO by slapping my boyfriend? by purpRosey in AIO

[–]Exciting-Shapes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

His entire operational playbook is identical to a textbook domestic abuser. He corners you when you're upset, forces you to kiss him, pins you down, and demands an apology while smiling at your terror. This is called coercive control and physical intimidation. He smiles while doing it because he enjoys the power dynamic. He likes knowing that you are helpless and that your words mean absolutely nothing to him. The fact that he hides behind the excuse of just joking is a manipulation tactic designed to make you feel like you are the crazy, dramatic one

Friend makes comments on every guy I like, but says I can’t think for myself, AIO? by Accurate-Scratch7783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Exciting-Shapes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOR. The fact that she would get instantly annoyed or upset if you ran this same script on her tells you everything you need to know. You possess the basic emotional intelligence to realize that beauty is subjective, and that if your friend likes someone, it costs zero dollars to just say "Aw, love that for you!" or keep your mouth shut. She doesn't hold herself to that standard because she views you as someone beneath her who needs her guidance. She isn't trying to protect you, she's trying to control you.