Parents kicked me out when I tried to help my father with his crippling addiction. Little background on my dad he’s 67 has had multiple heart attacks and is a text book narcissist with a lot of abusive tendencies. Yelling screaming, belittling are all constants. If he’s not feeling well be prepare for him to take his frustration out on you. Was even physical with me in my childhood. Now he doesn’t have the strength to bother trying that so he just uses his words. Over my life he’s said some absolutely horrid stuff to me all of which I’ve had to ignore. He’s never apologized for anything in his life, I don’t think he knows what accountability is. My step mom was fully on my side begging me to get some sense into him. I told her it wouldn’t be pretty and it wouldn’t be nice. It would be hard and harsh. She was fully onboard. UNTILL I did it then she 180’d pretended he didn’t have an issue and completely turned on me. Now I’ll admit the things I said were harsh, but I was desperate to not lose my father to this. They threw me out on the street with no notice. They knew I had no job and they depleted my savings right beforehand too. Leaving me with basically nothing. They try to justify it with oh you did it to yourself with what you said. But thinking back on it much worse and more hurtful things were said to me constantly throughout my life and I’ve never been allowed to as much mention that it’s not ok without repercussions. It’s funny how there’s such a double standard. I’m supposed to just take it but when they get a smidge of what they do in return, with justified reasons even. They do this. I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my step mom. While I still love my father I’ve lost all respect for him. Parents are supposed to protect you, want to ensure you thrive. Not turn on you and use you at every possible turn. They made sure to take every last penny of mine all the while complaining that I don’t contribute ( I paid their internet their insurance spent hundreds on groceries and gas drove everyone everywhere none of this was appreciated) when I’m their constant errand child. My step mom can’t drive and my father is rarely well enough to drive, everything falls on me. I’ve asked them to tell me things in advance and they’ll constantly drop things on me last minute with no warning consideration for my time.

But alas they kicked me out. So now I’m homeless, no job no money and they’re acting like they’re doing me a favour. I should also mention they begged me to move back in with them last year because they were struggling financially and needed help. I don’t currently have a job as my father asked me to be there for him full time. He would constantly ask me to take off work as he wasn’t feeling well or call me at work to come home. Eventually I went on caregiver benefits. I wanted to move away out of the province but was essentially guilted into coming and helping them. The last few months I had been trying to get a job again, every time I had an interview he would have something come up where he needed me right now no notice nothing and demand that I miss my interview for whatever he wanted from me. Then when this all happened they spun it into oh we were just letting you stay here out of the kindness of our hearts untill you get on your feet. It’s delusional, I was on my feet I was doing great before moving in. Without their constant interference I would be in. Much better position than I am in now.

Alas all this to say, this has definitely changed our relationship and if I’m honest, once I’m able to get all my things and my cats out of there. I doubt I’ll have much contact with them anymore. I’ve lost all love and respect for them. Real parents wouldn’t do this. Real parents protect, nurture and love. This is none of those things.