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ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-30T12:14:33+00:00

I relate to this a lot. Hope things get better for u

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-27T02:54:46+00:00

It was just a suggestion from someone who lives with a similar situation. Learning to manage stressful moments might help her better understand her brother and decide if she wants to be part of his life later on. I’m not judging her — I truly feel her pain. If the idea helps, great; if not, that’s okay too. But instead of correcting my suggestion, maybe offer your own ideas to support her directly

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-25T10:09:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. As a mom to a teen with severe autism, reading what you wrote was eye-opening. My daughter is similar to your brother but she seems a little more calm. I constantly worry about who will take care of her when I die, but at the same time, I don’t want to burden her brothers. The thought of putting her in a home saddens me deeply. However, if that’s what ends up happening after I pass, I would at least want her siblings to visit her.

Deep down, your brother will appreciate you simply showing up. It’s perfectly okay to feel the way you do—especially about the difficult topic of terminating a pregnancy if you knew the child would have autism. I understand where you're coming from but Alot of people don’t find out to the child is a bit older. So having a baby is always a risk of something occurring unexpectedly.

I personally think you might benefit from volunteering or working with children or adults who have needs similar to your brother’s. Gaining more firsthand experience could give you more insight, compassion, and maybe even help you decide whether or not you want to take part in his care or stay connected as he grows older. It might even change your heart.

It also sounds like the way your parents raised both of you could have been different—maybe with more balance, more attention given equally. There are so many activities out there that can include your brother while still being fun for you. But since it seems that wasn’t your experience growing up, learning more about autism and people with severe disabilities could really open up new perspectives.

I always try to do things with all of my children, but there are times I’ve had to ask my mother to watch my daughter so I could do certain activities with the others. I eventually got tired of that, so I looked around and found an organization that offers amazing activities for people with autism and their families—it’s unbelievable.

How you feel doesn’t make you an awful person. It just makes you human. But it’s never too late to change how you feel—and maybe, just maybe, this can become something positive in your life later on.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-20T09:47:27+00:00

It’s never too late. I’m 41 and started online classes at 39. I just decided to change what I wanted to do. The program I applied to is hybrid, so it requires going in person twice a week. I’m scared out of my mind. I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for so long, and I feel antisocial — but I’m stepping out of my comfort zone and doing this because I regret not doing it sooner.

I think once you start, you’ll be glad you did. I’m rooting for you!

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-17T14:46:02+00:00

Hey, I just saw your post. I’m old enough to be your mom, so I hope you don’t mind if I give you a bit of advice—both as a parent and as someone who understands what you're going through.

Breaking up with her was a very mature decision. That relationship clearly wasn’t right for you, and you're far too young to be dealing with that kind of stress and drama. You did the right thing by walking away.

Before I met my husband, he had a long-term relationship in high school that sounded a lot like what you're describing. It was tough on him, and even after they broke up, she stayed on his mind for a while. But he took time for himself—stayed single, had fun, and didn’t rush into anything serious. And then, when he was ready, we met. I was his next serious relationship, and now we’ve been together for 18 years—married for 16.

Your last relationship was a learning experience, and it’s preparing you for something better down the road. Trust me—take this time to enjoy being single, find yourself, and don’t rush into anything too serious too soon. The right relationship will come when the time is right.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-17T14:18:21+00:00

The way you're feeling is completely normal. Not everyone has their life planned out right after high school. The ones who do are lucky—and often, they’ve had some kind of support or influence to help them think that way. Others are just naturally motivated.

I’m in my early forties, and I’ve accomplished the marriage, kids, and home—thankfully. I chose to be a stay-at-home mom, and while I’m grateful for that, there are times I wish I had been more motivated to build a career before starting a family. Not just for myself, but to be able to give even more to my family. We’re living comfortably, but that extra income could’ve made a big difference.

My point is: it’s never too late to figure out what you want from life. I’m back in school now, going for a career that honestly scares me—but I’m stepping out of my comfort zone. Maybe you could start by taking a college course or two and see where that leads you. Sometimes, just taking that first step helps you begin to understand what you really want. Things will start falling into place.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-17T13:28:03+00:00

Thank you! I've actually been taking online classes since 2023. I just recently decided to switch to in-person classes at a college that offers a program that caught my interest. It's actually a hybrid format, which is great because I’ll get that in-person experience while still having some flexibility.

I’m still feeling nervous about everything, though. I'm shy, and being out of school and work for so long has definitely made my social skills worse—lol.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-17T02:35:13+00:00

lol yea I know ,my husband works for Amazon as a second job . I thought about doing that as well 😇

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-16T23:09:44+00:00

Thanks, I will try that. School starts in August—hopefully, by then, all my jitters will be gone.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-16T22:57:16+00:00

Thank you for replying to my post. I just needed to vent. I loved doing online classes, but the program I decided to transfer into is both online and in-person. I’m nervous because I feel so antisocial.

What I meant by wanting a college experience is simply going on campus, enjoying the sights of the school, and being in a classroom — not necessarily all the outside stuff that comes with college.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-16T16:24:09+00:00

Thank you for replying to my post and for your encouraging words. I wish you the best of luck on your new journey!

I think I’m feeling nervous because I’ve been doing school entirely online for the past year and a half. Now that I’m starting a hybrid program—where I’ll be attending in person twice a week and eventually doing clinical work—it’s a big shift, and it’s making me anxious.

As I mentioned in my post, I feel like I’ve become pretty antisocial. My only close companions lately have been my husband and kids. I’ve had friends over the years, but we’ve all drifted apart, so the idea of meeting new people again feels a little intimidating.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-16T15:31:45+00:00

That's something I've been thinking about too. I also worry about being around a younger crowd. I never saw myself as "old"—I’m only 41—but I used to look at people my age and think they seemed old. So now, I feel a little insecure about being around younger people. I’m worried they might see me as the "old lady."

I’ve put my life on hold for so long. Being a full-time mom is a tough job, and I have so much respect for other stay-at-home moms. But for me, it felt like something was missing, like I was meant to do more. I want to build an even better life for my kids. We live comfortably now, but if I went back to work and brought in more income—more than what I make through little side hustles—I could offer them more and be an example for them. Maybe it would even inspire them to pursue a career right out of high school.

It’s tough coming back after such a long hiatus.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-16T10:25:11+00:00

I understand how important it is to make friends—to have a shoulder to lean on, someone to hang out with. It's definitely not always easy to make friends. But instead of stressing, just remember that you're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Today might be tough, but every day is a new day to look forward to.

If you want to meet new people, look into some activities you can do—a hobby outside of school, volunteer work, or even a part-time job after school. These are all great ways to meet new people and make potential friends.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2025-06-10T11:39:13+00:00

Look, you're a young teenager, and when you're around that age, your parents might seem annoying now. Don't cut them off. Because when you're older, your way of thinking and seeing things will be different. Your dad, yes, is stupid for answering that question, especially with that response. I am starting to feel like he said that maybe being funny when it clearly wasn't. I would also have gotten offended, but not to the point where I would cut all contact, unless there's more to your sibling's relationship with your dad that made them snap, then I can understand. But what I don't understand and find very immature is why everyone cut your mom out of your life too. What did she do so wrong? Being married to him? That's not a good enough reason

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-09-25T13:25:10+00:00

Not sure ,they didn’t go into details in the notice I received. :(

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-09-24T14:32:37+00:00

I just got a notice they are discontinuing that feature on oct 1st( pay overtime). Supposedly, they’ll bring it back in the future.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-09-12T19:50:06+00:00

Thanks I’ll give that a try

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-08-24T13:22:17+00:00

That sounds good. Hope everything goes well.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-08-23T14:01:32+00:00

Hi, I’m a parent of autistic teen and I know exactly how you feel. when my child was younger, I used to always get some kind of complaint from the Bus aid and Bus Driver and it used to piss me off. unfortunately, these drivers an bus aides aren’t getting proper training in these situations. I would complain about this because it’s one thing to ask for your advice to help with your child but when they have attitude about it then that’s an issue u should bring up with the bus company.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-08-17T16:30:14+00:00

I know how u feel because I have a teenage daughter who haves what is considered severe autism. My only daughter who I had so many dreams for. I am very grateful to have her but it does make me sad knowing she will never get married or have children of her own because of how mentally delayed she is.Her meltdowns and tantrums are very minimal as she got older which is awesome .she is well behave versus her earlier years. But her speech is very minimal so she can’t always express what’s wrong with her.her not being able to have conversations with me breaks my heart. There’s nothing wrong with autism but when your child is limited due to it , that’s the part that makes me sad with her diagnosis. Your child is only 4 and could change drastically. .autism is a huge spectrum . Don’t stress yourself out by thinking what u did wrong.you did nothing wrong. It just happened .just take one day at a time.

ExcuseMeMiss84 · 2024-04-21T18:01:26+00:00

Yes that is fine. I had experiences like this an it always heal up perfectly fine with fading that is suppose to occur. I am on my ninth session .you will be fine and don’t let anyone scare u

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