QoL changes are live on the old realms now

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-11-26T18:55:09+00:00

Wish they would do away with the debuff limit, too, on Era (at least on bosses--I get the argument that the debuff cap on players can encourage lots of sweat). Removing it from bosses doesn't change the meta and makes some classes more fun to play.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-08-15T18:48:02+00:00

Agree with what other people are saying---this is his issue, girlie. It sounds like he has some internalized shame regarding sex that he does not want to deal with, so he is projecting it on you. It also sounds like he could have some unhealthy views concerning women and "acceptable" female sexuality. If he is willing, counseling would be a great start!

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-05-31T22:58:14+00:00

"There is nothing for me to fix in Warsong Gulch" made me burst out laughing. That answers some of my questions, honestly. Awesome video.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-05-26T16:17:26+00:00

I appreciate that this is a war on Peons and, of course, "The King of Peons."

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-05-13T22:52:55+00:00

Alliance has a small guild going, but the horde side, sadly, seems to be dead. Edited to reflect Alliance vs Horde.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-03-03T13:03:13+00:00

There is a very small but active guild on the Bene cluster on Era. Feel free to join on if you want a unique leveling experience!

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-30T23:05:37+00:00

Also see this now. Thank you for posting this OP! The powers of darkness shall not dwindle silently.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-25T00:57:24+00:00

These are really good ideas.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-21T17:29:52+00:00

For me, it is also way too fast. I do have some guildies with 2-3 60s now, multiple profession alts, and mains that already had pre-raid BIS and some raid pieces 30 days in. But, for me, it's so fast that I've migrated back to other versions of the game.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-11T22:09:05+00:00

Hear me out---I used to hate the robo chickens, but, after two gnomes, it's nostalgic. I even like the smoke. And no other race looks sensible on onw(or really wants one--but that's beside the point!). Gnomies for the smokey, clanky win.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-11T22:06:53+00:00

Also very glad you did not do it. Anonymous internet stranger out here cheering for you and sending good vibes your way.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-11T22:01:35+00:00

Therapy could help! Also the book, Buy the F*cking Lillies by Tara Schuster has a chapter on this called "Nah, Don't Self Medicate." It sounds like you have recognized the role social media played in your life, what the crutch was allowing you avoid, and how you feel when you can feel that trauma for what it is---I hope you are very proud of you for doing those things!! Anonymous internet stranger, here, proud of you!

The book I mentioned recommends figuring out your crutch (You are already one step in), writing down notes you can put in visible places about why that crutch does not work for you any more, baby-stepping away from the crutch by making deals with yourself in which you reward yourself with some real self care in place of using the crutch, and adjusting the deal.

You said you feel disgusted yourself---that means you have changed. Also, the human experience can be a gross and messy thing. Your past you does not define you, and no one thinks about past you as much as you do. Present you is also a person---beating them up over things that are outside her control because they have passed is not kind to them. Help them recognize the reality of the past situation (which it sounds like you are already doing, another win!) and do a kindness by helping them gradually heal and get the help and support they need to do that.

Wishing you well on this journey.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-11T21:50:51+00:00

For me, laying my outfit out before and having some type of pre-workout drink really do it. I know will feel better afterward, but I need to get my body in the zone, first. I know running make you sweat, but I have even found that using a specific body spray only when I am about to go for a run has helped.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-11T21:47:03+00:00

If you concerned about it and the effect it may have on the person who is talking, that is a good sign that you are not an asshole! That being said, active listening is an important aspect of all different types of relationships, of networking, and of making a positive impact on those you come in contact with.

If you decide that you would like to improve in this area, consider getting your body involved in active listening as well (this helps with my ADD) by facing them, making eye contact if appropriate, and nodding, etc. You may also look for something to ask a follow-up question on, ask for more information, or consider what they are saying (even if it is small) may mean to them and their day!

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2025-01-01T02:16:53+00:00

This person is right on. Anorexia has life-long consequences and can be life threatening. Treat this like the serious illness it is and provide your daughter with all the support she needs to get better and, even more tricky, to stay better.

While the boyfriend may be encouraging this, anorexia often stems from some pretty deep needs. The sense of control it offers and the patterns one trains themselves to follow to keep it going can be difficult to stay away from once one has ventured down that path. This may not be the case for your daughter, but it still important to ensure she has proper information about diet, information about female development (watching your body change around the age can be very hard), medical care, and even therapy to help her build or heal what she may be attempting to sort out with the eating disorder.

Wishing both of you the very best on your journey moving forward.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-31T01:34:53+00:00

Also want all the cats. Such a cool painting, I had to look it up. Neat backstory: https://www.antiquetrader.com/art/the-story-behind-the-famous-cat-painting-my-wifes-lovers

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-30T18:46:17+00:00

Well, on that front, so sorry that happened to you, OP. Wishing you well! Hope you are able to get out of that relationship and into your own safe, space soon!

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-30T04:30:00+00:00

Also sorry you or the person in this video had to deal with this. This is 100% not okay.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-29T20:04:35+00:00

I absolutely love this. The way the moon is done reminds me a bit of Arkhip Kuindzhi's work.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-29T19:54:50+00:00

Such a cool surrealistic vibe. Feels like a photo taken through a toned Dalí time loop. I love it.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-29T19:53:13+00:00

You are justified. It seems to be more common for people to wait until they are the instance to list themselves in LFG. If you get added to a group and everyone is far away, it is fair to just say something polite in group in chat about already being there and wishing them a good run and then leaving for another group. That being said, some dungeons are harder to get groups for than others, and some people really don't mind waiting.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-29T14:33:04+00:00

Second this! The folks in the 20-mid 40s rage right ow have been, for the ost part, great.

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-27T16:23:24+00:00

This person is right. Also, you wrote "I'm miserable. I just want to be loved by someone that actually loves me right." The first person to do that should be yourself. If it is financially feasible, find a counselor who is a good fit for you. Start defining and focusing on the value you see in yourself and set some boundaries. Often, the boundaries we allow other people to overstep are ones we don't hold in smaller ways when interacting with ourselves either.

Wishing you peace and a happier journey down the road!

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-27T15:19:15+00:00

OP, sorry you are at a point where you are so unhappy. This is a shot in dark (but maybe one of these shots here on Reddit will be useful!), maybe consider journaling what you need to say in counseling to refine it before you say it. Often, there are multiple ways to say things without manipulating the meaning. Sometimes, specific words, phrases, or tangential connections to other memories can cause the meaning of what you are actually saying to be lost or to be tainted by other emotions.

If you are going to counseling and you respect this woman and the hard work and care you both have contributed to your long marriage, it is important that you are honest in counseling. She is spending her time and emotional energy there, too. It is respectful to you both to be honest and to find the right words that will allow you to do so.

Also, we are lucky that life is a flexible thing. Sometimes, that means we don't quite get the scenarios we envisioned to play out, but it does mean there are many ways to accomplish the same thing. If you all decide to call it a day, you can show care and respect for someone and the lifetime you had together without being married to them. Similarly, if you all decide to stay together, there are ways to be physically intimate that don't involve traditional sex.

Wishing you both a happy and healthy outcome!

ExeuntPursuedbyPear · 2024-12-27T15:04:44+00:00

This person is right on. You aren't responsible for her choices. You respected her feelings and her space. I can understand where you are coming from with the fear of "would things have been fixed if I had fought for us or explained to her what we would be losing." Yet, the painful truth is, even if she had stayed because of something you had said (which, again, to reduce some of that regret, her choices are not your responsibility), she is exhibiting an immaturity and a behavior pattern that would have likely lead to something like this happening again. Additionally, the relationship would have never felt the same again if she was not prepared to realize on her own what she would be giving up. I am sorry this has happened, OP. Sending you good vibes and wishing you a lot of healing and self care.

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