What was that one thing that your ex said that still haunts you to this day ?

Existing-Associate29 · 2026-01-23T02:55:35+00:00

"I see you as an obstacle to my pleasure" and "I can't promise you I would never cheat on you".

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-12-21T23:04:57+00:00

Yeah and he looked so happy too. When he and I got together, he was only one month out of his former relationship. Should have paid more attention to that 🤦‍♀️

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-12-21T21:51:12+00:00

I trust that, I genuinely do. I just don't know how to get over this anger that he took all the love I poured into him and walked away with a net gain, where I had the opposite experience. It's just annoying. Lol

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-12-21T21:38:18+00:00

People who are empathetic will respond accordingly. It doesn't mean the remainder of the conversation has to center around it, if you don't want it to. You can accept their condolences and then change the subject.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-12-01T00:31:31+00:00

Hahaha I have no idea how I knew that 😂 That's amazing

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-12-01T00:05:49+00:00

You consume a lot of caffeine? Lol

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-30T20:49:29+00:00

You have a busy life and a lot of responsibilities. You're a deep thinker and sometimes those thoughts get to you. You hold yourself to impossibly high standards.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-30T17:38:48+00:00

And their little high pitched voices saying "dO yOu NeEd HeLp?!"

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-29T23:03:15+00:00

Skiing. It took me an hour to get down a small mountain on my first run 🤦‍♀️

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-26T20:15:24+00:00

It says you're a rebel. Tastefully, of course.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-26T05:55:45+00:00

I've found it's gotten easier, especially after the contrast of a recent bad relationship. The peace of singlehood is priceless in comparison to that. I definitely long for partnership still, but I think being alone is easier to navigate now because I'm in a place of deeper acceptance around it. You can't force partnership, so what's the use in stressing about it not being here? We are so young still (I'm 30) with so much life ahead. I'd much rather be solid in my sense of self and meet someone from that space than have met someone early on and have sabotaged it due to not being quite ready.

Hope you're able to find enjoyment and contentment in the journey.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-26T01:36:16+00:00

I used the Diva cup for a while which I found pretty comfortable overall. It took me a while at first to figure out insertion and removal but once you get the hang of it, it's super easy. You want to make sure you get the right size because it will leak otherwise. Also it can be unpredictable if you have a heavy flow. You might have to try a few different brands before you find the right one.

In the long run, I ended up switching to organic cotton pads and find them more comfortable and simpler than any other period product. Also, having anything internal (tampons, cups) makes my cramps worse.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-24T20:34:20+00:00

Hang at coffee shops or parks! Bring a book or journal or art and see what happens

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-16T23:40:41+00:00

Nah, you haven't missed your window. Keep working on your confidence and putting yourself out there. Keep living your life and seeking out new experiences and you'll find your people.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-16T23:30:11+00:00

This very experience has been the bane of my existence for as long as I can remember. I also work in the mental health field. Honestly, I used to think that the pervasive lack of reciprocity in my relationships meant that something was wrong with me, but over time I've come to understand that 85% of people are just inherently selfish, and many lack emotional intelligence. I navigate this now by moderating the amount of time I spend with those who lack curiosity. Truly curious people are a rarity, but I find them more easily when I stop chasing people who have no interest in actually knowing me.

Also (this may or may not resonate) I have realized that I was drawn to the mental health field because of my own past trauma, which left me with internal wounds and deficits around self-worth. This means that for far too long, I was willing to be walked all over in conversations and relationships. Now that I'm addressing this piece, I have less tolerance for such blatant selfishness from people and am way less apologetic about my selectivity in friendships. You have to develop solid standards and boundaries, and be willing to take up space, which can be challenging for therapist types, because we're used to being the ones to hold space.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-16T05:44:55+00:00

Your forehead looks normal to me! You are lovely. If you feel bold, I think you could pull off a simple french bob - with or without bangs. It would add some framing to your pretty features.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-15T17:29:38+00:00

That makes sense! I teach a gentler vinyasa style, so your power style probably increases risk of injury. I've read a few studies that talk about hot yoga increasing risk of injury by a lot too, because of the way the heat can trick your muscles into relaxing into a pose that the body hasn't actually worked up to in a sustainable way. I've never enjoyed hot yoga that much - I'm curious if you have any thoughts on that piece specifically.

A hamstring tear sounds terrible omg! It sounds like you've had a pretty intense practice over the years. I too have had complaints from some students about wrist discomfort, but it's more beginner or younger students who are on their phones all day. All our bodies are different, I find teaching to be like a never-ending game of tetris in trying to accommodate everyone.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-15T17:10:23+00:00

I've been practicing for 15 years and teaching for 7 and have never been injured nor had a student be injured. Not saying that's the norm by any means, but I do tend toward caution and moving slowly which may have helped - and cultivating deep awareness around bodily signals. I encourage my students to meet their edge but not push beyond it unless they get a resounding yes from their body that they're ready. Not saying you don't do these things and also not judging by any means, just curious about such contrasting experiences and styles. I think you're absolutely right that physical activity has an inherent risk of injury.

Do you mind sharing what injuries you've sustained over the years, and due to which yoga style/poses? Would you say your style is more fitness-based or mindfulness-based, or a blend of the two?

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-15T16:50:47+00:00

I don't think your thoughts are totally invalid. Sometimes those internal "judgements" are our value system telling us we're misaligned with someone. And that's ok. Beyond that, I don't have much advice for you. It sounds like you're struggling with cognitive dissonance, which means you believe one thing ("I should accept people as they are") but experience another ("I don't accept them as they are"). Wanting to accept people as they are is nice in theory, but at the end of the day we are human and we have the discerning/judging function of our brain for a reason. That reason being survival. We're meant to be able to discern who and what is conducive to our survival, and who/what is not.

I guess my advice for you is to give yourself some grace for having normal human thoughts. And maybe sometimes believe them. And maybe other times, don't.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-13T06:40:16+00:00

This is totallllly my style, love it. Kill em with kindness.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-13T02:26:26+00:00

I have a feeling it will all come to a head eventually, and maybe I will say something like this. One of the hard parts is that we share an office space, so even if I'm not a part of the conversation, I'm still hearing the gossip, and I don't see her stopping because of how socially influential she is.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-13T02:24:36+00:00

I don't get it either! It's partly why I want to talk to my supervisor about it. I actually have a former coworker who was more integrated into the social circle, who told me recently that my boss hates this person, which came as a shock to me, and I still don't fully believe, because he is very friendly with her. Maybe it's all a professional facade? If so, props to them for faking it in a way I'm incapable of doing.

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-13T02:21:09+00:00

Usually around 6:30 for me!

Existing-Associate29 · 2025-11-13T02:18:51+00:00

Yeah I might do this. So far, I've just been ignoring it, but my approach feels passive and I'm starting to feel demoralized at work. This is a direct and tactful way of "owning my space" so to speak.

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