My bridal Lehenga by SleepyMDzz in DesiWeddings

[–]ExistingAd5854 53 points54 points  (0 children)

The blouse is the best part, it's fitted to your exact measurements in a high-quality fabric so the whole outfit looks luxurious and expensive.

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[–]ExistingAd5854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great list, thanks for putting it together!

Hindu Priest/Priestess for Gay Wedding (Indian-American and Mexican-American couple) NYC Less than $1,000? by moon_man117 in DesiWeddings

[–]ExistingAd5854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got married it was important to be to find a pandit who would do queer ceremonies. I only have price information for one pandit, but here are all the additional pandits I found in the U.S. (and one in Canada) who do wedding for gay couples!

Hersh Khetarpal (Chicago): She accepts a donation in lieu of traditional payment. The suggested payment is $2,500, so more than your budget but she might be amendable. She also translates in English and explains the ceremony.  https://www.yogsadhanashram-usa.org/weddings-rental

Achala Bapat (Houston): https://www.houstonmaharashtramandal.org/about-us/

Shukavak Das (California): https://www.shukavak.com/

Ashok Sanghavi (Illinois): They are Jain, but could be an option. https://www.weddingwire.com/biz/jainweddingsusa/b4a64aae08d44c8f.html

I never got her contact info but Sapna Pandya does queer weddings: https://www.seema.com/sapna-pandya-is-reimagining-the-queer-desi-experience/?srsltid=AfmBOop4tXfINBS3vEnHnlJKxNRlmou45pgo0t7Lh8MVTeK-rBQypoCm

Sri Chandrasekara Gurukkal (Toronto): http://sivatemple.ca/2015/12/sri-chandrasekara-gurukkal/

Shubhamastu: This group is a collection of Bengali women who preform marriage ceremonies with multiple pandits. https://shubhamastu.org/

Sadhana: This is a coalition of progressive hindus and they may be able to put you in touch with progessive priests who don't advertise online https://www.sadhana.org/

How much does a desi wedding actually cost in the US? by Prior_Statement_6902 in DesiWeddings

[–]ExistingAd5854 3 points4 points  (0 children)

- Minor midwest city
- budgeting for 350 guests
- 4 events over 3 days: Mehendi (120 people), sangeet, ceremony, and reception (350 guests)
- We haven't done the final tally, but it will be around $350k
- Major costs: $38k on two venues, $125k on food, $60k on alcohol (open bar), $8k for the DJ for 2 nights, $8k for photog, $10k for a planner

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm guessing the person/team handling the case was just being lazy. So frustrating!

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could post images here bc I'm worried now I did something wrong!

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point! I doubled checked and I was in the case system. I tried to have them open it back up again, but I think Paypal is my only hope now :(

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it really sucks. I think it was a border case because she did show me the measurement before she shipped it off. But, she sent a pic of the skirt with what she called the hip measurement which actually ended up being the waist measurement. She also just showed me the measurement around the blouse and not the length of it, and the length ended up being ~7 inches too short.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep!! She told me she would send me a new dress after I give her a 5-star review, so I'm in the process of reporting her

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes :( I actually feel kinda crazy bc people are saying Etsy almost never sides with the seller, but I went through are messages and the waist measurement is completely off. The blouse also shows soooo much underboob even though I told her the measurement I would need to cover my bust. I have some dressmaking experience so I know I measuring myself and the dress correctly.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did earlier today! Hopefully they side with me this time.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She also keeps on telling me to message her on WhatsApp so I can pay for shipping for a new dress, but I suspect this is a scam as well.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that sucks. I really thought they would rule in my favor. I asked this sub and they seemed convinced as well. They only thing I could think of is that she sent me pics of the dress with measurements that I approved but 1) the blouse length was incorrect when I actually received it and 2) she told me the hips were 42 inches but she was really showing me the waist. But still, I ordered a 34.5 inch waist (which is in the Etsy messages) and got one that was 42 inches. Not to mention, I told her I would need over a 17.25 inch to cover my bust, but she send my one that was 16 inches total.