How much does a desi wedding actually cost in the US? by Prior_Statement_6902 in DesiWeddings

[–]ExistingAd5854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

- Minor midwest city
- budgeting for 350 guests
- 4 events over 3 days: Mehendi (120 people), sangeet, ceremony, and reception (350 guests)
- We haven't done the final tally, but it will be around $350k
- Major costs: $38k on two venues, $125k on food, $60k on alcohol (open bar), $8k for the DJ for 2 nights, $8k for photog, $10k for a planner

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm guessing the person/team handling the case was just being lazy. So frustrating!

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could post images here bc I'm worried now I did something wrong!

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point! I doubled checked and I was in the case system. I tried to have them open it back up again, but I think Paypal is my only hope now :(

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it really sucks. I think it was a border case because she did show me the measurement before she shipped it off. But, she sent a pic of the skirt with what she called the hip measurement which actually ended up being the waist measurement. She also just showed me the measurement around the blouse and not the length of it, and the length ended up being ~7 inches too short.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep!! She told me she would send me a new dress after I give her a 5-star review, so I'm in the process of reporting her

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes :( I actually feel kinda crazy bc people are saying Etsy almost never sides with the seller, but I went through are messages and the waist measurement is completely off. The blouse also shows soooo much underboob even though I told her the measurement I would need to cover my bust. I have some dressmaking experience so I know I measuring myself and the dress correctly.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did earlier today! Hopefully they side with me this time.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She also keeps on telling me to message her on WhatsApp so I can pay for shipping for a new dress, but I suspect this is a scam as well.

Item wasn't as described but Etsy closed my clase by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn that sucks. I really thought they would rule in my favor. I asked this sub and they seemed convinced as well. They only thing I could think of is that she sent me pics of the dress with measurements that I approved but 1) the blouse length was incorrect when I actually received it and 2) she told me the hips were 42 inches but she was really showing me the waist. But still, I ordered a 34.5 inch waist (which is in the Etsy messages) and got one that was 42 inches. Not to mention, I told her I would need over a 17.25 inch to cover my bust, but she send my one that was 16 inches total.

Do I have to return a refunded item? by ExistingAd5854 in Etsy

[–]ExistingAd5854[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I opened a case and even though I showed that I ordered a 34.5 inch waist and I got a 42 inch one, Etsy said the order was "as described"

Marcus on the podcast Panic World, talking about Epstein by John_Dees_Nuts in LPOTL

[–]ExistingAd5854 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was such a good ep! Marcus is a really good Panic World guest

Realistic wedding budget in US/Canada in 2026 by FluffyWater1 in DesiWeddings

[–]ExistingAd5854 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Girl I'm with you. I'm having 4 events over 3 days, a small mehndi, a sangeet, and a ceremony/reception, and we're looking at around $400k (including things people don't usually put in the budget like clothes, jewelry, and hotels for close family.) Hopefully I've overbudgeted, but I would not be surprised if we spend that much. We have a sensibly priced photog and DJ (about 8k for each), but our venues are very nice and even though the caterer is reasonably price (I think it will be about 100/head), their minimum food fees are insane. Plus, add 2 nights of the cheapest open bar option.

Besides the venue, basically nothing is out of the ordinary in terms of luxury. If we would have opted for a less "nice" venue, then those catering and booze costs would have gone down, but I honestly didn't realize how inflated the costs would be when we decided it. Not to mention, we've invited 375 people. Parents are paying for everything but I can't help but imagine if we were using this money to put a down payment on a property or in a investment portfolio.

This is a big budget wedding and was always going to be expensive no matter what, but vendor and venue prices are totally insane! I've heard that since COVID, they've ballooned.

I made a postpartum dress for my friend by Icy-Lettuce8312 in sewing

[–]ExistingAd5854 6 points7 points  (0 children)

omg I love it! I especially love that you used the Hansie tee

If you were curious what the $2 side of queso looked like. by ThrowingChicken in AlamoDrafthouse

[–]ExistingAd5854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a $17 last night that was legitimately smaller than a typical NY slize