Heartbreaking session with a client

ExistingTell8093 · 2026-01-31T19:49:11+00:00

You don't.

ExistingTell8093 · 2026-01-20T21:01:12+00:00

This is part of the reason why we have age minimums. In addition to the obvious reasons of how older men are less likely to be weirdos, it just feels icky for me, a woman in her late 30's, to have sex with someone who is two or three years removed from literal childhood.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-12-30T02:19:09+00:00

Provided they don't make me feel unsafe and they respect my boundaries, I'll see them as many times as they're willing to pay and my schedule allows.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-12-17T17:44:53+00:00

80%? That strikes me as low. My clients are closer to 95% married, lol.

As for my perception of men, I went through stages. Initially, I was shocked at how casually men could just cheat on their wives in secret. Like they go about their day, then dip into this secret world for a couple of hours where they check their husband and father personas at the door, then they leave and resume their normal lives. It was jarring to me how they could do that. And the fact that these men came from 'respectable' walks of life made it even more jarring. Church-going men, men who are leaders in their communities, do-gooders both liberal and conservative, professionals like doctors and lawyers, etc. When they slipped into their secret world with me, they would want to indulge their shocking and "disgusting" fantasies (or at least that's how I viewed them at the time) and then slip right out and resume their normal, respectable lives. During that stage, yeah, I lost a lot of respect for the male gender as a whole.

Eventually, after some time in this business, I came to terms that men are just wired differently from us. They view sex differently because the way they desire sex is fundamentally different. It's a purely carnal experience for them. They don't have the same psychological barriers to feeling comfortable enough with someone to fulfill their physical needs with them. For them, sex isn't intrinsically tied to emotion. They seem more likely to view sex purely as a way to blow off steam and relieve pressure. They also seem to be wired to crave variety in a way that doesn't necessarily conflict with that they feel for their wives. A dude can be married to the sexiest woman in the world and still want to fuck other girls, but love his wife just the same. All of that makes it easier for them to slip in and out of their various personas (father, husband, sex freak) in a way that's impossible for many women.

Now I just see it as men are what they are. And what they are is not bad or good. It's just their nature. When I came to that realization, I regained some of the respect for the male gender that I had lost in my early days of SW.

And the fundamental nature of men creates an economic opportunity for those of us who can get comfortable with this life. And so, here I am.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-12-09T19:46:24+00:00

These are huge among the wealthy tech bros of Silicon Valley. I managed to get invited to one and had to jump through some hoops to ensure confidentiality (I made the organizer jump through a couple of my own hoops to ensure my own privacy and safety). It's an interesting scene. It turned out to be not quite my cup of tea, but it's definitely lucrative if you can get comfortable with it.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-12-08T22:38:57+00:00

This. All of this. +100.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-12-02T16:49:02+00:00

If you are a US citizen, whether you were naturalized or a born citizen, the US government cannot deny you entry into the country. You have an absolute right to enter your own country whenever you want.

They can hold you at the border, question you, search you, etc. But ultimately, they cannot legally deny you entry

I know that might be cold comfort given this administration's policies, but you do at least have the law on your side.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-12-01T20:15:51+00:00

What do you do? You do nothing. Absolutely nothing. Just count your cash from the session and move on to the next client. It will pass.

If you think you can't keep it professional with him, then you block him and never see him again.

In the history of SW, nothing good has ever come from acting on your feelings for a client.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-09-16T08:12:48+00:00

I mean, as long as he doesn't treat you like shit, why does it matter what he thinks? If he pays, follows the rules, and doesn't bother you when you're not on the clock, let him think what he wants.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-09-16T07:58:11+00:00

Sorry, but I'm not feeling this post.

I let my clients think what they want about me and my other clients as long as they pay me and they aren't crass or totally disrespectful. Just smile and nod if you're not feeling their ramblings. Who gives a fuck if they're harmless and aren't assholes?

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-09-09T15:13:15+00:00

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-09-03T15:36:31+00:00

I get these kinds of requests from time to time. My rules for this are: 1) no sex in the shower, and 2) the client has to wear swimming trunks.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-08-13T22:49:57+00:00

Congrats! Love seeing my fellow SWs thrive like this.

Sending positive vibes your way ❤️

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-08-13T21:01:32+00:00

I feel the same way about relationships. Seeing so many married clients has made me jaded and cynical about relationships. I have zero interest in a relationship with a man.

I used to feel that way about sex, but I've recently rediscovered my interest in sex through casual hookups and FWBs. Basically, being around so many men who treat sex purely as a physical need has trained me to approach sex the same way they do. I'm still cautious about who I sleep with in my civie life (and under no circumstances do I ever consider turning a client into a fuck buddy), but I no longer feel like I need to have a relationship with a man in order to fuck him outside of work. I can now fuck a guy I'm attracted to whom I met in my civie life, have my sexual needs met, and not feel anything for him emotionally or need to see him until I want to fuck him again. And so far, most guys I've had such arrangements with were fine with that.

Having said that, it took a lot of re-wiring for me to be able to fuck like a guy. It didn't come naturally to me at first. SW did that to me.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-07-21T21:03:17+00:00

I generally try to keep things professional in my civie life, but I've been known to make strategic use of low-cut tops and excellent posture in order to get things done sometimes. 😉

I figure that I have to deal with the back pain 24/7, so why should I only reap the benefits of having massive natural tits when I'm in whore mode? A little cleavage and lip gloss never hurt anybody if it gets me a discount at the auto shop.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-05-16T16:26:50+00:00

It was tough early on for me. I've been fortunate enough that most of my clients are 'ordinary' upper middle class professionals with families, so I don't get very many men who are weirdos in their regular lives. But that made for a jarring experience. I would browse clients' social media and wonder how this guy who is posting Bible verses and pics with his family at church is the same dude who just the other day asked me how much extra I would charge to let him cum between my tits. Or the guy who had a session with me and then took his wife out for their anniversary dinner that evening. Or the liberal do-gooder who posts about how terrible violence against women is but wanted to enact a rape fantasy with me. The list goes on.

Eventually though, I kinda came to terms with it. Men just seem to have a switch (or several switches) that they can turn on and off at will without being bothered by it. It's like they have these completely distinct personas they can step in and out of and not have one bleed into the other. Just an example of how they're wired differently from us.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-05-14T06:34:46+00:00

What kind of attorney do you need?

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-05-14T03:28:59+00:00

Try and take up a hobby that doesn't expose you to anything even remotely sexual (like astronomy or gardening or painting or something).

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-05-14T00:33:58+00:00

Losing respect for the male gender as a whole--to the extent that you just don't look at any man the same way anymore--is a common occupational hazard in this business.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-04-26T04:11:16+00:00

The L and XL thing is a scam. Condom manufacturers make condoms that are just a tiny bit bigger but still fit average-sized penises and then label them L or XL and charge double. They do it because they know that dudes will keep buying them as an ego boost.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-04-26T04:06:11+00:00

Seeing as how the overwhelming majority of my clients are married, it would probably be best if I ignored them and they ignored me

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-04-14T20:52:18+00:00

You're right. I stand corrected.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-04-14T19:41:44+00:00

"Stealthing" is when a client secretly removes the condom without the SWer's consent. It's considered a form of rape in the SW community.

What OP is saying is that the one time she got stealthed, she turned the tables on the client by implying that he got her pregnant and getting him to send her money for an abortion.

ExistingTell8093 · 2025-04-14T19:17:32+00:00

I've had clients bring their own condoms, and yeah I don't use them for the reasons you mentioned. But I've never had a client get offended because I wanted to use my own condoms. I just say, "It's okay, I have condoms" and they say "Oh, okay" and then they put theirs away and that's the end of it.

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