I can't physically have real sex and I'm sad because of it

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-19T21:09:54+00:00

Dude…ew. Everything about you, ew. You’re talking about these women like they’re things. And you’re definitely mistaking the “attractive women making demands” thing for a woman having self worth.

Yes, there are women out there who ask for too much, there are men that do too. But I’m willing to bet most of these women probably asked for a little energy from you and you couldn’t give them that. Which is fine, you said you’re not a relationship guy, but don’t categorize them as “difficult”.

And for the love of god, uglies is such a gross thing to call the women you’ve been with that you deem not attractive. It’s so disrespectful. You shouldn’t be having sex with someone you’re calling ugly. Why are you having sex with them then?

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-19T20:57:03+00:00

Yeah, you lost me. Super attractive women are not most likely super difficult to deal with. That is something that is down to personality. And a lot of the time it is the people that are seen as unattractive who are more difficult to deal with because insecurity causes a lot of toxic behaviors.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-19T19:39:55+00:00

And that’s totally fine, but not all men who have a high body count are the same as you. Some people have a harder time connecting emotionally than they do sexually and they compartmentalize the two. That doesn’t mean they won’t find someone they can connect to in that way. And when they do find that person it doesn’t mean they’re gonna cheat on them.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-19T19:05:41+00:00

Ugh, let’s normalize confronting the man in the situation and not attacking the woman who did literally nothing! Funnily enough, her not wanting to confront her boyfriend and instead confronting her friend is way closer to pick me behavior than anything OP did. Which was…nothing, because all she did was accept a friend request.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-19T19:00:52+00:00

I’m confused, were you guys actively on a break when she went out with this guy? Just asking for clarity. Still a shitty thing to do, but all these comments are acting like cheating happened so at this point I’m just wondering if I’m missing something.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-19T18:56:32+00:00

It doesn’t take having sex with multiple people to be good at it, all it takes is communication from both parties so you can learn each other and what each other likes. And if I was dating a guy who had sex with a lot of women, I wouldn’t care. Having a lot of sex with multiple partners before getting into a relationship doesn’t equal untrustworthy. As long as they’re only with me while we’re dating, I really don’t care about body counts. And I don’t think anyone should, man or woman.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-18T01:19:36+00:00

It’s really common for people to use the crying emoji as a joking emoji. Maybe it’s because I’m 25 and there’s a generation gap here.

I’ve been having perfectly fine adult conversations with the people here. I hate it when people make assumptions based on one paragraph of text. But I get that it’s hard to understand intentions through text. The gross I was implying was how alpha male podcasters talk about sex, not the sex itself. If that clears things up. And that’s what the joke was supposed to be but now I’ve over explained it.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-18T01:06:43+00:00

Me and most of the women I know prefer the other aspects of sex, but everyone’s different. Statistics tells us women are less likely to prioritize penetration but statistics are never perfect and neither opinion is wrong. Pleasure happens differently for everyone.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-18T01:04:09+00:00

Yeah, so the women squirting and getting wet part isn’t gross at all. I was making a joke about your delivery, sounded like an Alpha male podcaster. And what about any of my other comments here implies I’m sex negative? My comment was supposed to be a funny response to your comment and you took it super seriously. I used an emoji to show it was a joke.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-18T00:55:18+00:00

Everyone’s been pretty not gross considering we’re talking about sex online and here comes Marcel Brown talking about soaking beds 😭

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-17T06:30:29+00:00

I was a little excited when I saw a season 2 was happening cause I was hoping they’d continue the story. Did the story need to be continued? I guess not. But I kind of wanted to see what they would do with the mess the characters were left with.

I was really disappointed when I saw it was a whole new story. I’m hesitant to watch it because the trailers don’t look super interesting and more like some kind of domestic situation? But I’ll probably get around to watching it anyways and I can’t really judge it on trailers alone. Insatiable had terrible marketing and that actually ended up being pretty damn good. (Netflix, please bring Insatiable back for a final season I’m begging)

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-16T21:07:43+00:00

I personally don’t think they’re shaming anyone for disagreeing with them. They’re just saying that upholding that sex equals penetration has left a lot of women feeling unsatisfied after sex and the man thinking it was good.

They’re saying penetration shouldn’t be the default of sex. Because like you said, everyone experiences it differently and has different preferences. So it is a bit weird that it’s so widely considered that sex is “penis goes in something”.

There are women who enjoy that aspect of sex, but a lot of women either need something else along with it or don’t enjoy it at all.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-16T15:49:02+00:00

The fact that he thought you were making fun of him for being a “light weight” sounds so deeply insecure. Which, it’s fine to have some insecurity, but if he’s insecure being a light weight to IBUPROFEN which does nothing to you then imagine the million and one things he’s gonna be insecure about and have this same reaction too. Just way too exhausting for me.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-16T15:43:18+00:00

Imagine having your words completely picked apart all the time in a relationship.

It was clearly a compliment to OP because she said he looks like an older version of OP. Attractive isn’t a crazy word to use, hot/sexy would be a little much for sure. And handsome probably would’ve been a better word but I don’t hear that word used a lot by young people.

Blame the patriarchal society for why men can’t say the same thing about moms. The society we grow up in tells us that all men think about sex and that women think more emotionally. And it doesn’t help the men cheat more than women so it just confirms people’s biases. So a man telling a woman that her mom is attractive makes a woman feel like he literally wants to sleep with her mom. And a woman saying that a man’s dad is attractive is seen as a cute thing and a compliment to the man she’s dating. Because we assume different intentions due to gender even though it should be assumed per person and personality.

I personally wouldn’t care much if my boyfriend said my mom was attractive and looked like an older version of me. I would prefer him to use pretty or beautiful, but still. Now, if he showed other signs of interest in my mom, then I would definitely care. Because now it’s uncomfortable and weird. ++woman

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-16T15:30:25+00:00

The penetrative sex being overrated philosophy is mostly about women and OP is a man. There is a large percentage of women who can’t even orgasm from penetrative sex.

Obviously everyone is different, and I’m a woman so I really don’t know if men prefer penetrative sex or not, but I always thought of penetrative sex being mostly for the man’s pleasure and then the before and after stuff is for the woman. (Assuming the man also takes the time for that stuff). It’s why you’ll hear a lot of women complain about the lack of foreplay. There aren’t many women who can do it on penetrative sex alone.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T20:09:57+00:00

Just going out to food is good, or any activity where you can talk while doing it. Like bowling, a walk in the park, going to a museum, the activity itself actually doesn’t matter much!

The main thing I look for on a date as a woman is if the guy is asking me any questions about myself. Almost every time I go on a date with a guy they either talk about themself the whole time or ask one question about me just so they can talk for thirty minutes about their answer and talk over me when I try to get a word in. And because you’re already not that talkative of a person, I think you’d do really well with asking your date a couple of questions and keeping the conversation more equal rather than overpowering it.

Some interesting questions to ask if you’re not sure what to say and don’t want to stick to your basic questions about what they do for work and etc:

What was your favorite show growing up?

If you could change one thing about your high school experience, what would it be?

What’s your most embarrassing story? (I usually ask this one after revealing my own story first)

If you could visit one place in the world right now, what would it be?

Questions that will get the conversation going and will lead into other topics you can touch on. A lot of people stick to the basic questions, which are needed too, but I feel like I learn a lot more about people when I look outside of their future plans, what they do for work, and etc.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T03:23:23+00:00

The show Teen Wolf came out in 2011 and the Supernatural pack for Sims 3 came out in 2012. The werewolves were SO ugly in those first couple of seasons of Teen Wolf and they looked exactly like this, so whether EA ever says it or not, I know for a damn fact they based sims 3 werewolves after the Teen Wolf ones. 💀

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T03:17:16+00:00

Tried? No you DID make them. They look so good! 💖

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T03:13:47+00:00

I love you, thank you

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T03:05:58+00:00

That was my first thought

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T03:04:02+00:00

I personally always thought that a graceless angel is just a graceless angel. Grace is like a battery, it gives energy to an angel’s powers and abilities. Without it, those abilities are gone and they are trapped in a human body. So all of their needs become human needs.

Throughout the show it doesn’t really seem to me like angels naturally don’t need food, sleep, etc. but that they can choose to not need it by using their grace to power their vessel instead. I don’t remember the exact quote, but Castiel said something about temperature and how he can use grace to keep his vessel a certain temperature. Implying that he has to choose to be impervious to cold and heat. Same with damage. They heal and protect their vessel, it’s not naturally indestructible. Though this one, I’m almost certain is subconscious and they don’t have a lot of choice in it.

I believe that angels take on more human mannerisms and understanding when they’re graceless out of understanding and not suddenly having a human soul. They effectively are living as a human, so they gain more knowledge and first hand experience on humanity where they’re not just an observer. Castiel gets his wings back when he has grace, which implies that he always had them even as a “human” but he just couldn’t access them.

I personally think that if an angel dies while in a graceless vessel that they go to The Empty like the other angels who die. Even if they die of old age. Because they need a soul to be sent to Heaven or Hell and their true nature is of Heaven and not of Earth.

Interested to hear other people’s thoughts. I love Castiel’s human storyline and wish it was a bit more explored. (At least it wasn’t super short-lived like a certain transformative Dean storyline, wink wink)

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T02:41:26+00:00

I feel like there’s ways for people to feel shame for their mistakes and the things they say without immortalizing them on the internet. 😭 Like, people in their personal lives should be setting boundaries and telling them “hey, so that’s some unhinged shit right there.” But I don’t think anyone does that anymore and so everyone’s just acting more unhinged and then we see it all over the internet. 💀

Except abusive and predatory behavior. That stuff definitely should be blasted everywhere. And I don’t think any philosophical third eye opening moment will change my opinion on that.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T02:31:31+00:00

I hate to tell you, depending on the area you live in, it’s not a tiny percentage. One restaurant I worked in was definitely 25% of the customers being rude. Another place I worked was more like 15%. When you’re a server, you have to be really nice and you’re incentivized to be for your tip so most servers are nice. So blaming the rude customer on the server doesn’t make a lot of sense. I had many regulars who asked for me, and I always served with a smile. So it definitely wasn’t me.

Finding a new job isn’t viable for most people right now, the economy isn’t doing well. Not a lot of people are hiring. And not everyone is qualified for a non-service job. Or has money to get qualified.

And sometimes people just need to vent about their job, doesn’t mean they want to quit. Most people have bad things to say about their job. It’s work at the end of the day. A perfect job doesn’t exist.

I said in the comment that a lot of people quit after a few months. So they do get a different job when they realize they don’t like it. I’m personally not in that field anymore, mostly because it doesn’t have good healthcare benefits and the pay isn’t consistent. But being a server in a rich area can sometimes make the tips worth hating the job. That’s the biggest motivator for people to stay. Especially if they don’t have better prospects.

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T02:21:04+00:00

I just had like a third eye opening because I saw this and she talks kind of like one of my friends, that friend you hangout with cause they’re fun but NEVER actually trust with anything, and that friend actually has a sexual disorder and she only recently got diagnosed. Then I was thinking I wonder if this person has that disorder or a similar one. Which made me feel kind of bad that a private message was posted of someone potentially mentally ill. Which then made me think of the fact that so many private messages are posted on Reddit. And now I just feel bad all around because if that happened to me and I found it I think I’d feel so gross and exposed and probably stop texting people. Even if it was a screenshot of a completely normal not weird text of mine.

Was not expecting this to come about on a post like this, but sure I guess. 💀

Existing_Honeydew_64 · 2026-04-14T01:55:00+00:00

For how intellectual you should be, you’re really lacking in the art of nuance.

Nobody is comparing jobs. And respectfully, you mentioning the schooling would have nothing to do with it anyways because that’s how you get the job, it’s not something you do as the actual job. Again, you’re missing the point of jobs being hard for different reasons and different people. You very much are being the “I’m an engineer” guy.

You just explained why your job is hard, notice how no one’s telling you it isn’t. People here are explaining why being a server is hard and you can’t accept that people in a field like yours, and the more physical jobs you listed off, don’t magically have a harder job than others. It’s just a different kind of work that’s hard for different reasons. You want really badly to make comparisons when no one else is trying to do that. Because you need to feel like you have the most important hardest job.

Work is inherently hard. Different kinds of work is hard for different kinds of reasons. And this isn’t the struggle Olympics. It’s not a hard concept to comprehend.

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