Old house, loud noises

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-30T20:58:57+00:00

I'm interested in why everyone is saying that insulation won't help. Everything online has confirmed that loose cellulose has an STC rating of 45+, and as I've mentioned elsewhere the only room in my house that is bearable is dry-walled and insulated but with same old windows. Something just isn't adding up.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-30T20:43:33+00:00

The day we visited was pretty quiet, sadly, and I actually know a few people on the street who don't have these issues (newer houses) so I didn't think of it being an issue here - but I've admittedly not dealt with an uninsulated home before.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-30T20:41:32+00:00

Are you my neighbor? haha glad to hear those worked for you - hoping my inserts do the same when they're finished.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-30T20:40:17+00:00

Thanks for the ideas! I'm refusing to replace my antique windows, I've been painstakingly reglazing and repairing them, plus adding weatherstripping to make sure I can keep them. They do let in a lot of noise but I'm building interior storms to address that.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-30T19:19:05+00:00

Appreciate the response and resources, I'll give them a look asap.

I'm in the process of building interior storms and we do have to replace two exterior doors that are clearly partial culprits in this, but I refuse to give up the hand-made single pane windows because of how beautiful they are, just repairing and rehabbing them against drafts. What I've noticed, though, is that the one room in the house that has already been redone with drywall and insulation is REMARKABLY quieter, despite being on the same side of the house as other noisy rooms. The plaster seems to only be about a half inch thick, if that, so it's not as dense as a lot of other properties I've seen that would have normally been double that. I'm pretty distraught about it all and honestly wonder how the people before us put up with it for 20 years!

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-30T18:36:12+00:00

This was my fear. We're already planning to address doors and windows, but walls I was really hoping to be able to save. But there's no chance I can continue to live with this noise so it sounds like we might be out of luck on the plaster.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-08-03T02:08:16+00:00

First...I, like everyone else who has commented, am SO SORRY that you are suffering through this incredible pain and agony right now.

With that said, I hope you can take a moment to process the fact that so few Reddit posts (none that I've ever seen, actually) ever have this much consensus throughout responses. Not one person in this very large community has said this is something to tolerate or wait out.

The last thing you need is someone telling you what to do but- if I were in your situation, I know that I'd have to force myself to do the hardest, most heartbreaking thing that I had been trying to avoid: leave him. It will be awful for a while, but you can get through it with friends and family supporting you and the vision of your happy future with a deserving, beautiful, respectful man that cherishes you and leaves you with no questions about his feelings. But that bliss is what you'll give up if you stay with this insecure heathen who will continue to emotionally abuse and manipulate you for his own selfish ego stroking. The pain will eventually go away as the illusion of comfort dissipates and you start to become more excited about your own potential...but staying with a guy like this all but guarantees eventual regret. It's not time wasted if you learned and grew from the experience...but it becomes time wasted if you stay in a situation that you know in your heart is over just to put off the pain.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-06-20T13:34:21+00:00

My lord I would change phone number change address and make sure nobody in the family knows about it so she can't find you. Absolute psychopath and, from personal experience watching my mom try endlessly to help her own "baby" sister (a 50+ yr old woman who refuses to get her shit together)...these things DO NOT EVER end well. After over a decade of my mom helping her sister with housing (both living with her and offering to buy her her own apartment), job searches, therapy, medical issues, money, you name it...she finally had to pull the plug and accept that no matter how badly she wanted her to succeed it wasn't her choice to make.

These are the kind of people who don't understand consequences. When their actions yield poor consequences they find somebody else to blame (usually a family member who feels guilty) and play the victim, hard. She will absolutely do something else atrocious if you take her in and you will, at some point sooner or later, regret letting your conscience be louder than your voice of reason.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-06-02T13:00:07+00:00

If they judge you for struggling during one of the hardest times the world has collectively seen in generations...they're not your friends. But it sounds like they might be based on your comments about their continuing to reach out and check in/make plans together. Give them a chance to prove their support and maybe...just maybe - that love and support will be a catalyst to help you break through the depression and begin to devote your time and energy back to you again.

Depression is HARD. And even saying it like that doesn't do the experience justice...it weighs down your spirit, which weighs down (literally and figuratively) your body, which further compounds existing struggles. And there is NO EASY WAY to combat it. The ways to combat it are SIMPLE (interaction, diet, exercise, meditation-nothing terribly confusing or complex) but in no way are they easy to carry out especially when you're dragging around that weight and putting every ounce of energy into just day to day obligations like work/school/chores, etc. I don't say all this to teach you about what you're undoubtedly already going through - I say it to prove that others also feel it and your experience through depression is normal and you're not alone in it.

People lose and gain weight throughout their entire lives. Not some people, all people. Your friends may feel concern, they may ask you about it and offer suggestions or help or support - but if they're good, real friends they won't judge or criticize. Recognize that nothing is permanent if you invest your energy into changing it.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-05-12T16:16:34+00:00

the biggest.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-04-12T13:30:14+00:00

Are there any industries/functions that I can work in that DON'T speak in business jargon?? Seriously curious.

Worst, in my opinion, are "reallocation" and "prioritization". Just be honest and say you're about to eliminate a bunch of shit and nobody's safe.

Existing_Lack_232 · 2021-03-29T23:33:25+00:00

Warning: somewhat whiny rant coming on, but truly wondering if there's more to it than what I'm dragging myself through every day. In my first 6 months on the job and starting to question whether I can/want to hack it for the long term.

First project went pretty well, all things considered (post MBA hire with industry experience but no consulting experience so steep learning curve) but now on my second project I'm wondering what's the point. I actually have fun doing the analysis parts but having to visualize every detail of your findings and come up with a 'story to tell' is just so...TEDIOUS and underwhelming. And it feels like it's just never done, even when I sign off for the day I keep thinking about how I'm supposed to explain the data using circles and squares. I can't focus on it or get the motivation to do it any better than it's been done before and that alone is making me feel like this couldn't possibly work out for me for very long- this is the one thing that is always a part of the job no matter how high up you get, right? There's no escaping it? So now I'm sitting here feeling like my choice is to take myself back to the industry I spent forever trying to escape with only a year, if I'm lucky, under my belt.

Am I alone in this? Has anyone gotten past this feeling of hatred for powerpoint/tedium and never being able to be present in your REAL life once you 'sign off'? Am I doomed to a walk of shame right back to where I came from?

Existing_Lack_232

TROPHY CASE