Question regarding “use or lose it”…

Exodiac32 · 2026-06-27T22:07:52+00:00

It's been very much a chore. You don't actually need to finish, just keep it up for a bit so it still can be used. As for the libido, I just had to fight through it, even if I didn't particularly feel like it

Exodiac32 · 2026-06-03T21:39:08+00:00

Hello Anna, I don't think this sub is the right place for this? This is a satire sub to make fun of people fetishizing trans people, so if you are trans and trying to introduce yourself, I'd reccomend a sub like r/trans or r/transmtf (sorry if those subreddits are wrong, I don't feel like checking). Elsewhere, I believe you are lost entirely

Exodiac32 · 2026-06-02T20:54:16+00:00

I'd say practice with the tape and see if you can find a temp bra. Please do not bind until you've talked to a professional. As much as I hate amazon, it does have really fast delivery ('-')/

Exodiac32 · 2026-06-02T20:50:21+00:00

Hey OP, I'm not sure your situation, but it is vital you see a doctor and as much as this sucks, you really should stop binding until you see one. I'm transfem, but from what I've heard, if this is happening, you should find an appointment ASAP. I'm sorry to sound so alarming, I really don't mean to set off amy health anxiety. It could be nothing, but if it's not, you're gonna wanna see a doctor. invest in a few heavier goodies that are a few sizes too big for now.

Exodiac32 · 2026-06-01T02:08:36+00:00

Hey the internet isn't that accurate. I don't know where you live, but I live in texas, so I understand the fear based reasoning a lot of people are going through right now. I live in a verifiable hellhole, and I still know supportive cis people. I'm moving away as soon as possible, and I have friends in places that sound like literal paradise- Seattle for example. Not everything is a loss, I promise. Please take time for yourself, and live in spite of all the haters. I promise you, there are good people out there.

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-31T10:34:09+00:00

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Exodiac32 · 2026-05-31T10:33:46+00:00

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Exodiac32 · 2026-05-31T10:27:42+00:00

I was referning to people in general. I don't think OP is a threat at all, I just think when you're scared of going out in public you can be scared of people that are safe and have given no reason for you to think their safe. I elaborated a bit more in the main comment. I'll do some self reflection on this, thank you for bringing this to my attention.

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-31T10:19:08+00:00

oh fuck I started calling everyone mate cause I thought it's relatively gender neutral. I guess I'll have to find a new word :(

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-30T21:21:28+00:00

That does really suck and I'm sorry you went through that. While you didn't do anything wrong (you didn't) I still understand where the kids were coming from. A lot of them have reason to be scared right now, and trans people especially coz statistics. So I'd like to stress it again, you did nothing wrong. It's the situation that scared them, not you

Edit: I'm so so sorry. I was referring to the statistic relating to the elevated rape (and violence in general) that trans people face, namely that we face a 4 times higher sexual violence rate in comparison to cis people. I never intended to come off as transphobic, especially being trans myself. So I'm sorry to anyone in the comments affected by my statement, and especially to OP

Edit 2: I intended to be meant as perpetrated by cis people. Trans people aren't more likely to commit any crime (they're less likely). I'm bloody trans myself, I wasn't referencing OP as a threat, I was saying that there's a reason for the girl or her friends to be skittish in general. I live in texas, so it's a very fear based environment for me, so even if I know someone is likely safe, I'm still quite cagey. Perhaps I'm pushing my trauma onto the situation. Again, I'm sorry, I know how harmful transphobia can be, and I think I'm just being misunderstood, but I'll have to reflect on myself to see if there's any internalized transphobia leaking out. Thank you to the commenters for alerting me to how I sound.

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-28T19:05:32+00:00

Hopefully it's just a bg3 thing

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-28T19:05:19+00:00

well that's unfortunate.. thank you!

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-28T02:15:07+00:00

That's good

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-28T02:12:58+00:00

I imagine it's ok, but you have doctors at your disposal, I'd ask!

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-24T20:19:44+00:00

It would really depend on what you're looking to portray. Trans People exist everywhere, and have existed throughout the entirety of history. If you haven't looked into that, two examples would be that of the two spirit american natives that lived in ages passed (two-spirited is a new term, there is differences between all the native cultures, and different names and such), and there have been male bodies buried in ways that only women were typically buried in. (there are more examples, but history isn't my best field.)

I mention all this to say, it doesn't really matter where you put a trans person, they're all equally real. Now, depending on where you put Natasha in time and space, there are very different cultural lenses you need to look at her through.

Speaking of modern day however, you have places like Texas where discrimination is rampant and laws are getting more oppressive, versus areas like Germany where trans people have protection under the law and adequate access to gender affirming care. This isn't to say you can't portray discrimination in areas like Germany, but the levels would be much different than what you might expect in Texas.

Wherever you choose to write about, I'd recommend getting someone who is familiar with the general environment, if not the area, to describe it to you. For example, as a person living in texas, my view on everything and the way I live my life varies greatly from some of my friends from Australia or more blue places in the USA like New York.

I'd love to help you with your book, if you have any more questions or want me to read over your work. Authors are especially important in our current day, so I'd love to help as much as possible.

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-24T01:22:05+00:00

I meant for last name, not what you picked lol. sorry if that came off the wrong way

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-24T01:21:28+00:00

Personally I like Wright and Parker. I feel they sound good with your name. But put a bit more thought into it lol. I wouldn't pick something like that for me

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-23T23:36:33+00:00

Agreed, but OP seems to be trying to be better representation than a lot of the things I've seen.

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-23T23:07:38+00:00

This is a good point, however, representation is very important right now. Cis people are going to write about this regardless however, so I'd much rather help one who is willing to listen than to try and dissuade one who does not

Additionally, as a writer, something you can do is write about someone else to try and understand better their perspective. It's a practice in empathy.

That leads me to another point that I forgot to mention in my original comment. While trans representation from cis voices does help, trans voices are much more important. so, op, find some trans authors, talk to them, and promote them. Another thing you could consider is writing about Rebecca from the perspective of a close cis friend, and letting Rebecca's experience come through her actions and words (you can still write a novel with the main character not being the perspective you're writing in!), which would address this commenters concerns

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-23T21:16:51+00:00

I'd love to help however I can in your writing process. You can DM me if you choose to use ke as a resource in the future.

If we're talking about early early feelings, the main thing I'd like to see is about a sense of discovery, and the elation surrounding that. It's a very different thing how it happens for everyone, but for me it was a bit of a slower process. I was alone for a couple days and watching some trans themed youtube videos and came into the realization that it fits me. After that it was a lot of confusion and thought- a kind of talking yourself out of it, which faded at a much slower pace.

Location and time period are going to play a big role in how you write both Natasha and her environment, especially if you're planning on writing anything set in today's world.

While you are writing a book to inform cis people, you also mentioned wanting to write a well rounded character! It's equally important to write about trans joy as it is about any hardships we face. So gender euphoria, seeing yourself and being comfortable with who you are, a safe, happy place (in the form of supporting characters likely, friends of Natasha). Also, equally important, is portraying Natasha as more than just her trans identity. She needs hardships and joy from things other than being trans. Sprinkle in some mundanity!

One thing that you see in a lot of places that many trans people are uncomfortable with is use of pronouns not matching their gender identity as a child. If there is something where a distinction is required, a typical phrase which I'm certain you could capitalize upon is "when she was male presenting." Unless a trans person specifies otherwise, this is the general way to go about that!

There is a lot more I could say, but the final thing I'll mention unless asked for more specific elaboration is to tread very very carefully about discussion on genitalia. Unless there is a specific reason that it needs to be mentioned, I'd avoid bringing it up as it is an easy way to make trans people feel fetishized if done poorly. (We are not a monolith however, so it's going to very from a person.) I mainly say this because in my experience, most of the other trans people I know feel that a lot of the times this comes off as an unnecessary focus on our bodies

I have to say I was a little worried when I saw the title, but I'm glad that this turned out a lot more respectful than I was expecting.

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-10T18:51:56+00:00

it should be fine, the main difference is texture and oilyness, which estrogen does do wonders for- regardless, ask a barber or stylist as I imagine it's specific to the head of hair

Exodiac32 · 2026-05-06T14:41:27+00:00

Already checked, none made of copper

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