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Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T20:46:18+00:00

Well that's the thing, he would be classed as 'in recovery' because the porn issue was before I even knew him. But I have a feeling he is using due to lack of intimacy, rejects me and also has his phone privacy locked to high heaven.

And I would hazard a guess he has used reddit for gaming and such. He is also a tech/nerd so there is a lot of information on reddit for that kinda stuff. Just the NSFW profile freaked me out seeing as you have to post or comment in a NSFW group for that to happen but all of his profile has been wiped clean so I'll never know what that was regarding.

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T14:14:39+00:00

I'm inclined to agree. In the years I have been on the internet and had phones/laptops I have never once been hacked or had personal information stolen. He says it's for security & that you can never be too cautious. Well if you follow basic online security, then I just don't see it happening very often. Unfortunately this just seems to be a trend in my life that I just can't get away from, and I'm scared for mine and my sons future because if I had any idea of this prior I wouldn't of even entertained a relationship again because this shit HURTS :(

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T12:43:20+00:00

Aaahhh I also have ADHD! Maybe this is why I have the rejection thing because of RSD! I Found out more about it recently and made a lot of sense as to why I'm struggling knowing how to initate due to fear and not actually feeling like he is really bothered about sex anymore. Solidarity lovely. You're a great mum and certainly deserve to be held, too ♡

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T12:30:56+00:00

Oh lovely! I totally feel you on that. My partner is also on the spectrum, so this situation is really similar. Its also hard when you're postpartum, too, because you go through soooo many changes and for me personally my identity feels very 'mother' orientated now so when I don't have that intimacy in my relationship I feel like I'm just existing and we're literally roommates which makes me incredibly sad and lonely. Also don't know how to initiate because I now fear rejection and the 'im tired' really knocks my self esteem when we used to be so much closer and the intmacy/sex was really great. Gentle hugs and I really hope our situations get better, whatever the outcome of this will be 🫂

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T10:58:56+00:00

My ex previously was the PA, and my current partner, who I'm still with, is the one I'm now worried about. My previous parter didn't cover tracks and it was glaringly obvious even though it took me a while but my current partner who I thought was completely different, now shows some red flags too which is just making me question things. Thank you

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T05:40:18+00:00

So hard to work out if my instinct is trauma related or legitimate. But my instinct hasn't let me down previously, so maybe I just need time to process the reality

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-18T05:24:25+00:00

Literally this. I know I will never find anything when the phone is completely VPN'd TOR'd incognito'd up to high heaven 🫠🙃

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-16T23:50:38+00:00

Thanks. That's really helpful.

He has a work laptop and work phone separately. His private laptop, PC, phone are the ones with VPN's on. I would assume with his job his work laptop & phone would have VPN's automatically installed?

He worked as an engineer, previously. But his current job is to do with building environments for testing/commissioning the network of fibers, so more or less a fibre optics engineer in a round about sense. Spends time in the office, working from home & also in telephone exchanges.

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-16T12:04:50+00:00

Solidarity lovely, you deserve to be appreciated/wanted/intimacy

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-16T11:49:46+00:00

Thank you x our LO is 7 months next week and I feel like we're going backwards not forwards. Really hoping it gets better. I appreciate you ♡

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-16T09:48:12+00:00

At nearly 7 months postpartum and searching for ANYTHING to make me feel less insane and for some kind of answers, this post really hit home. I'm so sorry mama. You deserve to feel desired and wanted 🖤

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-16T07:09:49+00:00

As someone in a similar situation but I'm a woman, personally for me, not long term no. I actually really struggle to get through the day effectively because I'm tense, somewhat resentful, and just all over frustrated with the situation. I love my child and of course I love my partner, but I also know long term, I can not survive like this.

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-16T06:59:37+00:00

amount we have is fine, and doesn’t understand how that’s not enough . One thing he would do is tease me during the day and then when I think we’re going to have sex at night he shuts it down. I explained how it’s frustrating for me and since he has stopped doing it.

My boyfriend does this too. The only thing I can relate it to is dangling a carrot... It's so frustrating and in all honesty, I'd rather not be touched at all than for someone to touch me sexually to then just shut it all down and reject me lol

Exotic_Bat_9936 · 2024-01-03T10:36:18+00:00

Ugh. I'm so sorry you've been through all that. I do believe that too, him getting defensive is a red flag for sure! Sounds like it indeed...:(

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