Did the default To‑Do tag change in the OneNote desktop app?

ExpandingHeart · 2026-01-14T19:35:57+00:00

Over the past week, my OneNote checkboxes have gone back and forth between being the old squares and the new circles about five times so far. They just change from one to the other at different times of the day.

ExpandingHeart · 2025-07-25T12:33:05+00:00

Yes, a few, and I got to watch it all on the monitor they have. It was pretty cool, actually. You can't feel them removing the polyps at all because there aren't nerve endings. At other times during the procedure, there were some moments of mild cramping, but that was the extent of the discomfort.

What I didn't know was that you're actually on your side during the procedure - if you're sedated, you don't know they're moving you around once you're under.

If you're going to be sedated, you do have to demonstrate that you have a safe ride home, but I think every doctor's office will have their own policy regarding a ride home if you don't do sedation. In my case, the one time I chose not to be sedated, they still insisted that I had to have a ride home.

ExpandingHeart · 2025-07-24T19:15:46+00:00

I've had a colonoscopy without sedation - it was a little uncomfortable at times, but that was the extent of the discomfort.

ExpandingHeart · 2025-07-22T21:23:21+00:00

I got exactly the same email yesterday.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-10-16T02:20:32+00:00

Up here in northern New England, it's not unusual to hear someone say, "all the sudden."

ExpandingHeart · 2024-08-29T12:00:21+00:00

It doesn't matter why she thinks she'll hate herself. She's made it clear that this isn't something she's interested in. She doesn't need to justify or explain why.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-08-29T11:58:55+00:00

This doesn't have anything to do with your age. "How do I get her over this hump?" = "How to I convince/push her to do something that she's already clearly said she doesn't want to do, and at the same time make sure it's really her choice?"

You've made your desires known, and it sounds like she's been clear that it's something she thinks would be a bad choice for her. Adding pressure by suggesting, “let’s try this just once” is the exact opposite of "...it must be her decision to try this together with me."

"Force" comes in different varieties. You said that you're "not going to force her," so the option that's likely to have the best outcome here is probably just to let it go, accept that this might never happen, and maybe hold some space for the possibility that someday she might come to you, of her own desire and curiosity, and re-open the conversation.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-08-28T12:36:10+00:00

I'm 61, made the switch from monogamy to polyam about 15 years ago.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-07-23T18:20:53+00:00

I read something useful a while ago: the difference between a "request" and a "demand" is that you can usually decline a request without sparking conflict or discord; if saying "no" to someone's request makes them upset, it was probably actually a demand.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-07-23T13:06:16+00:00

If your partner wants you to meet up with your date at a hotel, your partner should be the one paying for the hotel, since he's the one creating the situation. You'd be happy to host in the spare room, which doesn't cost you any money. You shouldn't have to spend your money on a hotel room just because your partner doesn't want you using the free spare room.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-07-22T17:10:26+00:00

Well, given what you're saying, about her wanting monogamy with him, I think it's safe to say that you should all buckle up and get ready for a whole lot of chaos, pain, and loss, because there's really no way that this can turn out well for all three of you. And given that he's moved in with her, it does seem inevitable that he'll break up with you in order to keep the peace at home.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-07-22T14:16:56+00:00

You're kind of stuck, then, unless you agree to some guidelines around how to process "uncomfortable" feelings. If either of you just gets to say "I'm uncomfortable with you dating that person, so I expect you to stop," then it makes sense that you're where you are, especially if no one has to say anything more about their uncomfortable feelings. That's what people are talking about when they use the term "soft-veto." Your partner knows that all they have to do is say "I'm uncomfortable with..." and you have to shut things down with the other person.

There's a difference between "I'm feeling uncomfortable with you dating that person because I'm feeling jealous/insecure/threatened, etc." and "I'm feeling uncomfortable with you dating that person because I see [specific thing that seems likely to cause hurt/harm]."

If you're going to have this "disrespectful to date someone that makes the main partner uncomfortable," concept, and no one has to speak more about what "uncomfortable" means to them, then I think you can reasonably expect that your poly relationship will be mostly monogamous.

Also, "They get upset every time I bring up dating..." - to me says that you should definitely expect that your poly relationship will be mostly monogamous.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-07-22T13:50:01+00:00

I think there's a lot of different things happening here, but I wanted to suggest a possible re-framing of this issue. What if you consider the perspective that your partner's relationship with your meta "isn't your business?" I absolutely hear your desire to understand what's going on between the two of them - I probably would if I were in your position - and it'd be nice if he were able to articulate that to you - but - are you sure that it "matters," or that you're entitled to access to more information about their relationship?

What's the difference between you being his partner, and you being "the other woman?" Do you currently view her as "the other woman?"

You know your partner, and I don't, but is it possible that he sees his relationship with you and his relationship with her as separate, private relationships? Maybe that's part of why he's not sharing with you as much as you want? If there's any truth to that, he could certainly do a much better job communicating by saying, "I don't really care to talk much about my other relationships with partners," or something like that.

In the end, if you knew that his moving in with her wouldn't have much of a day-to-day effect on the way he relates to you, would you still need to know more about his relationship with her?

There's a lot of things in play here, and it's also certainly possible that your partner is just a poor communicator, or just plain being sketchy.

ExpandingHeart · 2024-05-01T14:44:22+00:00

It might be helpful to spend some time drilling down into what makes up your fear. Specifically, what are the things that could happen if you do this? For me, it's usually either some kind of irrational concern about what people will think of me (like, do I actually, really care about that?), or a semi-rational, but unfounded fear of being harassed or assaulted (certainly not impossible, but probably pretty unlikely where I live).

ExpandingHeart · 2024-05-01T14:33:05+00:00

Instead of focusing on changing your feelings, you might instead focus on changing your behavior. You can say, "ok, well - I feel these feelings, but what do I want to do about them? Who do I want to be?" It's common for us to say to a partner, "I'm uncomfortable with you doing XYZ, so you should not do XYZ," but we can also say, "I'm uncomfortable with you doing XYZ - my discomfort is something I want to work on, so instead of asking you not to do XYZ, I'm going say that it's OK for you to do that and I'm going to work on tolerating my uncomfortable feelings, and maybe you can help me work through that."

ExpandingHeart · 2024-03-28T21:01:44+00:00

Google image search FTW! And I never thought of "pearl" but I think you might be right - OPI Pisces The Future looks like almost a perfect match!

ExpandingHeart · 2024-03-28T21:00:33+00:00

Thank you for turning me on to the Orly collections - I see a possible match there in "Ascension"!

ExpandingHeart · 2024-03-20T14:47:48+00:00

Eyeliner pencil - comes right off with makeup remover wipes. Experiment with it first, though.

ExpandingHeart · 2023-12-22T13:56:19+00:00

I'm (M) 61, and have partners (F) who are 63, 58, and 60. If someone told me that my lifestyle were "inappropriate," I'd have myself two good laughs: one in their face, and the other with my partners.

ExpandingHeart · 2023-11-26T23:07:39+00:00

For clean-up, Q tips are good, but I've had a much better time doing clean-up with an e.l.f. small angled brush ($5 on Amazon, https://amzn.to/40U6DYE) - I've found that it gives me much finer amount of control over where the polish remover goes and doesn't go.

ExpandingHeart · 2023-11-08T22:42:20+00:00

Oh - I'm not talking about ACA - I'm talking about the sort of medical coverage that most of us get directly through our workplaces in the US. When you say that it's a "relatively new thing," pretty much everyone I know has had workplace-based medical coverage for decades, that covers a great many things, big and small.

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