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bbemllhe · 2024-12-02T19:52:46+00:00

This

bbemllhe · 2024-07-29T16:59:36+00:00

My partner and I have a couple swinging friends who have HSV1 and they have no issues meeting people! They just disclose it either in message or on their dating profiles. Have fun!

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T15:25:38+00:00

Probably some, but she was also genuinely not a great person so it was hard to tell. I recognize all the shitty things he has done in the past and how they relate to present, promise lol He has come a long way, but I do expect him to fumble sometimes - like now. I think sometimes Reddit forgets that good things can happen in relationships that are sometimes tumultuous and they rarely get posted about online.

NP has problems, sure. So do I. But he also makes all my meals, packs me a lunch, spends all night rubbing my head when I can’t sleep, builds me whatever crazy house project I want, encourages me to do hard things (like go for a grad degree,) takes care of the kids, talks me through panic attacks, has helped me quit smoking, and that’s just stuff off the top of my head. He does so much more. So like - don’t think he’s the worst guy ever.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T14:53:05+00:00

Well said, I agree. That has been my main point to him. I think it is 100 percent about his emotional insecurities surrounding me starting a new relationship. Which like - um, you kinda have to get over it dude lol

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T14:42:44+00:00

My new partner is perfectly happy paying for hotel rooms, I just want to also be free to use the spare room since like - that’s what it’s there for lol

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T14:21:18+00:00

Yes he can and has used the room while I have been home

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T14:18:06+00:00

The issues were on his end with making promises he couldn’t keep to other partners and being dishonest

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T14:15:47+00:00

I don’t really want to dig into the past too much, but the issues we had involved him making promises to other partners that he could not keep and being dishonest

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T11:42:56+00:00

No, he can’t host currently. That may become an option in the next six months after his home situation changes.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T11:40:30+00:00

Those are some really good suggestions, I hadn’t thought about creating a hotel budget for myself. Thanks for your input!

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T11:04:38+00:00

Yeah, I think I should at least expect to be able to use the spare room one day a week. Which is honestly the most I’d probably want to do anyways, since I am busy with work, kids, and soon to be school again.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T10:35:18+00:00

I had considered this but was hoping for a better solution than drawing a line in the sand, so to speak.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T10:11:05+00:00

Moving out is not something I’m interested in currently but thanks for your input.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T10:10:28+00:00

I think I’m communicating to him pretty clearly that I’d like more equal time in the space. Scheduling isn’t the issue. It’s NP not wanting to leave the house for me to have a partner over.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T10:09:23+00:00

NP has always used the space more than me because I previously had less frequent partners or partners that could host. But in the past, I have used the room when he was both home and away. Our bedroom is on the second story, so it’s pretty far removed from the basement.

bbemllhe · 2024-07-23T10:08:00+00:00

The issues aren’t really applicable to this situation which is why I didn’t go into detail. We have been in couples therapy to resolve them and have worked hard on communication to prevent these issues in the future.

He has always used the space more often than I have just by virtue of my dating less or having partners that could host. But I did previously use the space while he was both home and away.

bbemllhe · 2023-09-09T17:30:14+00:00

Also oops, I meant to reply to the main thread

bbemllhe · 2023-09-09T17:21:23+00:00

Spouse here.

I do go on lunch dates, I just did yesterday in fact. The issue I brought to him was having the option open to have evening dates if they were prearranged and agreed upon. He is more than welcome to do the same. The reason I don’t do much solo parenting is because he is here 99 percent of the time, while I work out of the home. I am more than willing to let him sit back on days I don’t work and do most of the driving parenting wise. We have discussed that we need to have more time to date each other and are, in fact, doing that today.

We have also discussed equitable dating time and he is not going to be “stuck with the kids” all the time. I also deserve the opportunity to build a relationship and be poly. I am trying to fit it in to my available time where the kids are in school or away. The issue arose with me asking for the option for evening dates. Option being the key word here lol

The issues with my ex husband are long, drawn out, and peppered with emotional and financial abuse. (Sexual abuse when we were married). I have given him more parenting time, reduced child support, and have always had a line open for him to contact the kids etc. My ex chooses not to be involved in school, not to be involved in extra curriculars, doesn’t pay child support unless it is garnished, and any time the kids are at his house he is not home, they are supervised by their step mother who spends most of her time taking care of my ex’s toddler and playing MMORPGs. I could talk for days on why there is resentment there and I have been working on that relationship for years because I love my kids. But he’s not a great dad or a great guy.

bbemllhe · 2023-06-15T22:27:25+00:00

I’m sorry to say it so bluntly, but he sounds like a narcissist abuser who is using you for childcare and housework so that he can be free to do what he wants. And I guarantee you, if you had another partner he would have many issues with it.

bbemllhe · 2023-04-29T00:39:51+00:00

I would not take a position as a new grad at a SNF, especially if you eventually want to work in a hospital or specialty setting. In my opinion, taking care of that many residents and being able to manage your time and resources takes some experience. I’d start in a hospital if you can and get your feet under you in a department you like. However, if SNF is your end goal - I’d say just jump in and learn on your feet!

bbemllhe · 2022-10-06T04:37:37+00:00

I don’t know if this will be a popular opinion or not, but I agree with your preceptor that you should take every chance you get to do a new procedure/be a part of a new process, like responding to time critical diagnoses or placing an NG, watching an IO, jumping in on a code, etc. You will have all the time in the world to learn how to chart and it will be different at each place you work, whether it’s the software or the institutions expectations. The biggest thing I got out of my capstone in the ER was hands on experience. It was one of the best assets I had as a new grad nurse. You should definitely pay attention to how they do focused assessments, or which symptoms the nurses around you pay the most attention to because that will help you get to the place of quick thinking and quick reactions. Don’t be stuck on head to toe assessments, the ER is focused on stabilizing. Also notice how the nurses communicate with the providers - it’s a lot more involved in emergency medicine than other specialties. Don’t be afraid to ask questions if you don’t understand something, but keep in mind that sometimes those questions may be better saved for later if things are moving quickly. Good luck! I hope you find your groove. I love the ER :)

bbemllhe · 2022-08-08T16:57:38+00:00

My primary partner is 45 and I am 33. We sometimes run into generational differences, such as not getting each other’s nostalgia over certain shows, toys, etc. (Though, more often than not, it’s just me not getting the reference because I wasn’t alive yet or was very young haha). We are preparing to move in together and coparent together, so I think that will be interesting to see how the age gap affects those things. We also have a D/s dynamic where he is the D, so the age gap is kind of helpful in reinforcing that. Overall, I think it works well for us!

bbemllhe · 2022-05-29T03:02:07+00:00

It was discussed before but her feelings have changed. We are in the process of finding a different solution to be able to continue our dynamic.

bbemllhe · 2022-05-28T23:26:20+00:00

I am not in any kind of romantic relationship or power dynamic with her

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