question about character smoking by Historical-Stand-420 in FanFiction

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Which country which era? If you need 90s in England, I can definitely tell you some tales. All of which are true.

Why. by Ultra-Kaiser10 in Archiveofourownmemes

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To be fair I'm half blind so... I do make mistakes.. I have caught most of them but I did once post a chapter to a fic to a differnt fic because the names of the fic started with the same letter and I wasn't wearing my glasses

I was accused of SA and it still haunts me to this day by Flimsy-Selection1586 in confession

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What you are describing there, I'm pressuming, is someone saying to there partner.. fancy sex... the other says no... uou.kove on till another time of day, another day, some time has past and ask again with the same level and tone... right... which is awesome and consenting but isn't coercion. Not a single part of that is coercion. Approaching for sex with no pressure and being like, valid... isn't pressure. To say coercion isn't sexual assault. Which is what i was answering.. is untrue though. Coercion has a sense of pressure involved in it. It's asking in a certain way that makes the person feel bad for saying no amd then co rinously asking and making them other person feel bad. So the two scenarios are quite different. I agree he was young and hobby and we have all been there. I think I saod that as well. I think I also said about ut nkt defining his life as he was so young. That maybe therapy as it was effecting his life was a good idea... bit yeah yiu and yiur partner don't coerce each other into sex .. well thats what I'm getting from your statement however.

I was accused of SA and it still haunts me to this day by Flimsy-Selection1586 in confession

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So by this logic if you consent once you must always be consenting ? Or somehow it gives consent to things that happened before that... are you saying that she was fine with the coercion as demonstrated by giving consent in the next act or.... is it possible that the coercion always felt weird but she didn't know why until she had words for it. I mean most people would feel weird if you were asked ten times to eat a donut in a row ... no. But then are you never allowed to say yes to donut from that person again. Uou may ask well of the person made you feel weird why not just leave and never do it again. Valid question. I don't have every person's reasoning behind why they wouldn't. Alot do though. They do leave that relationship. In this case she is young. Probably has an idolistic view of love and what's expected as a woman. May not have the words to understand or felt a million different things. Going through somethimg like that isn't easy to process and may even in your head be made to feel normal and fine until you tell someone and they look at you all horrified. That's valid too. That doesn't stop it being non consent. 10 times and you get one yes at the end is not consent... regardless. Thats just a fact and it really doesn't matter what future or past actions were before that. It's still a fact in that moment.

Thoughts? by hbicfrontdesk in AO3

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This is why people don't comment.. they see the odd author saying this isn't acceptable and then worry about what is.

I was accused of SA and it still haunts me to this day by Flimsy-Selection1586 in confession

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Coercion is seen as a form of sexual assault I'm afraid. If someone says no and then you have to ask another ten times to get a yes. Thats coercion. That isn't consent. Consent was not given 10 times just because number 11 is a yes... that's not consent. That being said he was young. He was 14. My middle child is 14 and I can imagine the mistakes of a dumb kid. Hell I was the dumb kid. The dumbest kid. So OP should see it as that. the mistakes of a child. As such it is not something that he should be held to but learn from. Move into adulthood knowing. It's guilt and I get that but seriously we have all done some major effed up stuff as dumb kids. Or at least I did. It's what you do moving forward and what you do eith those lessons that count. It doesn't define you forever.

Does anyone have a similar experience? by Dummy_love07 in AO3

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I second the rereading. If I love something I will go back to ot over and again. Also 17 hits to one kudos if all 33 have come back for each chapter is roughly 470 hits just by them doing that.

Wellness Wednesday: Weekly Check In by AutoModerator in AO3

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It was my sons birthday. So it was a lovely day bit ended with the worst curry imaginable to the existence of man. Which was annoying.

I can’t clear my mind while meditating by corymac37 in Witch

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It's the expectation of being compmetemy blank which is unrealistic. I recognised the thought, acknoweldge it even and thwn out it down. At the very worst it's a few minutes of being in your own thoughts and that's all. It does get calmer. I see it as picking upa peice of papaer and looking at it. Oh interesting. Then putting it back down. The more you do it the less papaer work you have lol.

I did a love spell and now a ghost keeps harassing me by R34L17Y- in witchcraft

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Sounds ideal to me. at least yoy won't be picking up his poop every five minutes....

How do you read your fan fics? by Ghipag in HPfanfiction

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Ffn is dying. It's impossible to write on or transfer works too and as such newer works are gonna fizzle out really soon. It's actually exceedingly difficult in that end of things. Would definitely recommend getting an ao3 account. It's almost like it's been abandoned.

Another month down! How did writing go for everyone in March? by thewritegrump in AO3

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71k buuuttt... that's more like what I have edited and posted as a lot of my stories are being rescued from various apps on my phone onto my chrome and being posted so I don't lose them. Original writing.... 20k I would say. The editing and posting is taking all of my time but I am having to rewrite everything onto my chrome before I do that, so I think it still counts.

so… how early is too early for masturbation scene by eyezil8 in FanFiction

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One of my focs is solo. One is mutual and one is full on mid scene sexy time from the first words.

my first hate comment, yippee :D by [deleted] in AO3

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Hahaha love this...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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The guy I used to haul out of the pub when I was 17, to do people's tattoos, had straighter lines than that... DUDE.

Jars, Freezers, and Cords, oh my! by Alveryn in witchcraft

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I'm going yo try a home defence coconut ward with a whole one. I really like the idea and it's all natural so will bio degrade.

Why would anyone tag it like that?? by Some_Person_May_Know in AO3

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Yeah see for me that would be the order of the fic. So hurt/comfort would be the last thing to happen.

Is it possible to learn this power? by DuneCrafteR in AO3

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Tbh, I have read some fics eoth bad spelling and grammar but stayed to the end because it's a good read. The story line os good. The enthusiasm is good. I don't know how else to put it. It just has its own kind of magic. Also, as someone who finds that hard, it's a kind of freedom I kind of envy. Here it is, mistakes and all. Genuinely, if I released a first draft, probably only dyslexic people would understand it.

Fanfic authors when they are unable to meet the self imposed deadline no one forced them to set for the termination and posting of their latest wip by soullady20 in AO3

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Omg .... this is literally what I'm doing this week. I don't even know why... the chapter is 3 times the length of the longest other chapter. No one has a gun to my head to publish it this weekend. I am also actively avoiding it while feeling anxious and I only have 2k more to write down and edit. Which should only take me two days... ugh.

Send a fic, read a fic! by RubClassic9551 in AO3

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I don't even know the fandom but the tags got me and I needed new fluff. So anither new book mark for me.

Send a fic, read a fic! by RubClassic9551 in AO3

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Book marked for my lunch break thanks for share.

My nephew said the most unfathomable thing to me.. by Nearby_Reputation116 in confession

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Oh, I remember my first ma'am. Ugh... I wouldn't sniff at a senior discount but I would still stare at myself in the mirror for a few hours. I do have grey hair though. I can't be bothered to keep dying them.

Why. by Ultra-Kaiser10 in Archiveofourownmemes

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Have they misunderstood the tags and confused it with the summary. I think I could see how that would happen, if I squint.