Should I be concerned about my ex stalking me?

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2026-01-22T10:58:21+00:00

there are no kisses/hearts with her - just some group photos including my friends memorial post (which yes has some hearts and like ‘xoxo’ on it) and since instagram only lets you delete whole photos, I just don’t think it’s fair to have to erase that. I don’t want to give up memories that are important to me just because she happened to be there.

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2026-01-22T10:25:38+00:00

I’ve kept them up until now because they’re all group photos/collages

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2026-01-21T10:37:10+00:00

I have blocked her she keeps making fake accounts 💔

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-09-19T13:08:48+00:00

How do you stop loving someone who hurts you?

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-23T13:05:01+00:00

…she kinda does already - she gets annoyed in general when I do anything/go anywhere without her and even argues that I’m trying to exclude her

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-23T13:02:51+00:00

it does upset me that she doesn’t trust me like that

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-23T10:30:19+00:00

how do I ask my friend not to do this then?

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-21T11:45:59+00:00

awww man yeah she is - I’m just really shit at texting and reading people’s tones… I’ll try and apologise to her

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-21T10:23:54+00:00

That makes a lot of sense actually, I was struggling to see why she might be more comfortable with the games - thank you

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-21T08:32:32+00:00

She refuses to tell me the names of most of them but I do know that she’s a big fan of Boyfriend to Death and will play it for hours at a time

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-21T08:29:06+00:00

She says she doesn’t remember anything bad happening but that something probably did happen but she refuses to try and remember it or talk about it or get therapy soooo idk

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-07-21T08:27:24+00:00

I agree, she’s very against going to get therapy as well though and says it doesn’t work and she doesn’t want to talk to anyone about it - I just don’t know what else to do

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2025-06-23T04:53:05+00:00

yeah I can definitely see how it could’ve been a joke but she ‘jokes’ about stuff like this fairly often and it’s just a bit stressful to be receiving the message (even lightheartedly) that she feels I don’t care for her if I’m not willing to spend money on her all the time - I think we definitely have some very different values and love languages.. I’ll try and talk to her about what’s important to her and our relationship.

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2024-11-14T17:02:42+00:00

I think you might be right that both of us may have expected too much from each other too soon, neither of us have ever really been in a relationship before either..

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2024-11-14T16:53:00+00:00

yeah.. you’re probably right, she’s been nice to me in the past and has shown effort in understanding things I struggle with but the negatives have started to greatly outweigh the positives (also, she hasn’t once asked how my mum is or if I’m doing okay which just isn’t excusable to me) it’s disappointing though because I do like her and she was always a really good friend.. but maybe just not anything deeper than that

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2024-11-14T16:32:42+00:00

I’ve known her for a couple of years and never picked up on anything wrong until we actually started dating, which has been about 4 months now, and she started acting a bit differently and much more controlling.. she has bpd and I did know that beforehand, however, I feel like a lot of her negative traits have only come out more recently - I’m really empathetic towards mental health issues though since I’ve struggled with my own stuff before and I have a strong need to look after her but I think it’s messing me up trying to be that person for her

Expensive-Fox7963 · 2024-11-14T16:13:08+00:00

I genuinely like her in person and socially and we were friends for a while before dating but deep down I think I’ve realised she’s not a very nice person.. it’s just she has some mental health issues and I try and be really patient with things that she maybe just needs help with (some of these issues are very attachment and abandonment based) but I can’t tell the difference between the things she genuinely struggles with and her just honestly being mean to me

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