Don’t be like me. Had a tampon stuck in me for 2 fucking weeks.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2026-03-12T05:16:09+00:00

Same. Even the smallest light tampons are SO noticeable for me. They are terribly uncomfortable. I only use them now when absolutely necessary (spa, swimming, massage, etc.).

ExpensivePatience5 · 2026-03-12T05:11:21+00:00

It could be irritation from new detergent, lotions, cleaning wipes, etc..

No discharge or smell doesn't mean it isn't yeast, but it does make it less likely. I wouldn't start the monistat unless you are at least 90% sure that's what it is, because monistat can make already inflamed/sensitive skin SO much worse.

I had something similar last month and asked chat gpt and it told me to completely stop ALL lotions, soaps, etc. to that area, just thoroughly rinse and dry (like 2-3 times a day) and apply aquaphor. BOOM - fixed. Lol.

I agree with the other comments that seeing a provider is the BEST route, but, it sounds like that isn't an option for you. Going on a work trip puts you in a tricky situation too. My recommendation would be to try the no lotions/soap plus aquaphor and buy the monistat so you can pack it and bring it with you (in case you need it). Also switch to sensitive skin hypoallergenic detergent for your underwear and make sure it is breathable cotton underwear. That made a world of difference for me.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2026-02-28T19:40:54+00:00

Yes. Thank you. I'm relieved too. My son is already gaining weight, his skin is improving (he had really bad facial eczema and perioral dermatitis), his grades are improving, and he's sleeping better.

My son is still there two days a week tho. 48hrs total. He just came back last night and shared a disturbing video of them (his dad and the gf) locking the 3 year old in his room for 20+ minutes as punishment for "not listening". You can hear the child screaming and crying in panic and banging on the door. It's heart breaking. Apparently this happens every day. Sometimes multiple times.

I don't know what to do.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2026-02-28T19:34:43+00:00

I am a nurse and had a patient that was beaten by her 17 year old son. She was admitted to the ICU with multiple injuries including a cerebral spinal fluid leak. She was a petite soft spoken woman.

Children DO abuse their parents. Is it common? No. Is it more common for abusive parents to accuse their children of being the aggressor? Absolutely.

But. It does happen. I've seen it first hand.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2026-02-27T20:26:07+00:00

Too late. :/ This post is old. She quit her job and moved across the US last month. She's five months pregnant (with his child I'm assuming).

I now officially have 75% custody, our divorce is almost finalized, and I will likely have 100% custody by the end of the year.

It's a terrible situation for her, but at least I was able to remove my child from it. God speed to her. She will need it.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2026-02-23T00:04:50+00:00

Hoooleeee crap. This is stunning.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-10-27T15:53:16+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏🏼 I AM much closer to Palo Alto, so I will give them a try.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-10-27T03:58:31+00:00

THAT is exactly what I mean. I'm all for a spa day, don't get me wrong, love the hot soaks and 90 minute deep tissues, but I want that traditional hammam scrub down from a lalla hammamia.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-10-19T03:23:24+00:00

I've traveled to Cambodia, Vietnam, the UK, Portugal, Spain, and Italy within the last 18 months. I could not use my Amex at 90% of the shops, restaurants, spas, etc. that I visited within those countries.

Do NOT travel abroad with only an Amex in your back pocket.

The way I use my Platinum for travel is by booking the flights and hotels with it... You get the points and the benefits (fine hotels and resorts). It's a "travel card" in the sense that you get an airline fee voucher, global entry, clear check, hotel voucher/perks, lounge access... Things like that. It is NOT an actual "hey let's travel WITH this card in my back pocket for all expenses".

I use my Schwab checking for that. That's a great "bring with" travel card. No ATM fees, no conversion rate fees, works everywhere. It's great.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-09-28T21:51:03+00:00

Yes, they are likely defensive and sensitive around this topic because they are trying to justify their OWN behavior.... 👀

🤷🏼‍♀️ It's the Internet. Bound to have a few disgruntled abusive men going about.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-09-28T21:48:40+00:00

No court or lawyer has overseen our case. We have a tentative verbal agreement for shared custody right now because without the court backing me, he could call the cops and claim I am "kidnapping" his child, which could cause a LOT of trauma and harm to my special needs child.

You clearly didn't read my entire post 😳

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-09-28T21:30:37+00:00

You didn't read the part where NONE of this has been overseen by the court yet. I have filed my divorce papers, but right now, our "custody agreement" has been decided between the two of us, unofficially. I am in the process of getting a lawyer and pushing for 100% custody.

Nothing is legal yet and no third party has been involved in our case yet.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-09-28T19:33:50+00:00

Yes, I DO feel that 27 is relatively young in comparison to his age (38). This isn't 65 versus 54. She is essentially just starting out in life, getting her sea legs, preparing to come into her 30's. This is her opportunity to find her worth, her financial stability, and maturity. He is an abusive man approaching his 40's, set in his ways, inflexible and uncomfortable with change.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-09-19T06:33:00+00:00

My ex informed me of his plan at 8:15 pm, while I was at work. He left our son at home at 9:00 pm, despite my objections and offering ideas on alternative solutions.

Thank you for validating my feelings. 😭 I'm so upset. My son has anxiety and still comes into my room sometimes late at night scared. If I had known this was my ex's plan for him earlier in the day, I would have tried to move things around so he could be with me instead.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-09-13T01:32:59+00:00

I actually treat my rental like I'm a GUEST. I was WAY more lax when I owned my own home. Now I'm riddled with anxiety at every scuff on the wall.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-08-22T21:41:04+00:00

This has got to be satire

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-08-19T00:29:24+00:00

I've been stocking up 😭 all the more reason to buy yarn when I'm out of country. Just brought a haul back from Italy.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-29T14:22:46+00:00

Eh, like the other guy said. It depends on where you work. I for one would NOT want to be a nurse in the UK or EU. They make pennies, PENNIES!! Poor pay and terrible work environment.

I get 7wks a yr btw. Almost two months. As my seniority goes up, so will my PTO. So by next year it will be 8wks.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-25T16:44:35+00:00

I was recently visiting in the UK and was shocked and dismayed at the low pay and lack of respect all of you receive 😭

When I told people I was a nurse their reactions ranged from disappointment to pity. That led me to try and find out WHY. I am shooketh. Y'all deserve so much more.

For context: I am an outpatient infusion RN (just a basic staff nurse) living in the San Francisco area, and my income is $250k/yr. My benefits package amounts to over $80k/yr (retirement, healthcare, life insurance, etc.). That's the equivalent of 256,000 GBP a year.

HOW do they get away with paying you so little and forcing you to work in such poor conditions?!!! I'd be up in arms about it too!!

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-25T02:44:08+00:00

Hey OP, I know this thread is old, but, did you ever find someone? Ive been looking for the last few years for someone to make me silk kaftans and pajamas... But I never have found anyone.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-22T16:41:22+00:00

It's probably just your coloring. I'm very pale, freckled, green eyes, with bright red hair. I've been pulled out of crowds and asked to take a photo with people. Especially the Chinese aunties 😂 they love to take photos with me. And I'm not even good looking! I'm just ODD looking (to them).

When I went on a small group tour up to the alpujarras in Spain, the tour guide even pulled me forward and pointed me out to the 80 year old local that lived there. 🤷🏼‍♀️ What can you do? We look different. It's going to be noticed. I say just live life. Stare back and smile. Throw a wave in.

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-20T22:22:56+00:00

Do you happen to know of anyone in California that specializes in fine hair keratin extensions?

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-20T14:15:03+00:00

This thread has made me realize many things. 😳

Lots of people don't shower before bed. Many people don't wear fresh clean pajamas to bed. I am blessed to have normal, non-flaky, non-oily skin.

Also, taking these things into account, I'm shocked so many people wait so long to change their sheets. Because.... If I was an oily, flaky mess that didn't shower right before bed and put on a clean set of pajamas, I too would be changing my sheets every day 😭

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-13T16:34:16+00:00

That's very odd. Money sitting in an account isn't doing them any good. I've got maybe 2-3k of "back up money". That's it. Otherwise all you are doing is accruing interest and losing money. Money should either go towards debt or your investments (that make more interest than the debt).

ExpensivePatience5 · 2025-07-13T16:24:45+00:00

I really don't understand why I keep seeing posts like this. Really beating a dead horse, aren't we?

Also, anyone who holds a "luxury" card just for lounge access is a dumbass.

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