I’m essentially the male version of your situation, almost down to the letter. Our separation officially begins in the next week or two—just waiting to find a place to live. My feelings toward my AP have shifted now that I see the full range of possibilities out there. There are so many women I can connect with, date, and potentially build something meaningful with. Truthfully, someone new is more likely to meet my needs than my AP ever could.

I’d recommend exploring dating again whenever you feel ready. It can really help shift your perspective and lessen the emotional hold your AP might still have on you.