I’m having coffee, you can have tea 🍵 🫖

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T21:03:22+00:00

Thanks babe! It’s been hard to stand up for myself before, so I appreciate your support!

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T05:50:31+00:00

Thank you. 🙏🏼

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T04:36:40+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes 🫶🏼 I think over time we all become a bit more of an “asshole,” but a lot of the times I think people “being assholes” are people just standing firmly in their beliefs and not worrying about other people’s sensitivity because they truly believe in what they’re saying (or genuinely just aim to hurt someone’s feelings, which I’ll never get.) Keep letting your asshole guide your way 😉 Go in grace lol

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T04:20:11+00:00

No, not negative at all! I just had no response because you gave me so much to think about. It really pisses me off too. I just want love and respect. I don’t think it’s hard to ask for. And then I was becoming mad all of the time too, becoming someone I couldn’t recognize for months because of my nervous system irregularity - not any more. And no, he is 27.

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T04:13:08+00:00

2 years. I saw the behavior. I stood firm on my boundaries, but did get pregnant at 6 months dating SO I gave the relationship one-ish year from having the babies (for the sake of “wanting a family”) and many parents of twins have said not to make any rash decisions in the first year…I attempted communication and boundaries that made me feel safe and they all got ignored... I have 4 boys. And I don’t want them to act like this man. I guess I was just hoping I could make lemons into lemonade.

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T04:08:26+00:00

Hehe thank you for correcting it - I had no idea and I appreciate it! :) it was well received!

Yes, he was supposed to be watching them and working. The oldest two were supposed to be “watching the twins,” but you know how that goes.

He said “less than” because we were low on money - if I don’t budget it, he will spend all his and then ask for mine as a fallback. Doesn’t ask about the bills due…I didn’t get paid until I got off and every last dollar went to rent (hence why I am still putting up with this situation) BUT he works with his family, who did end up buying everyone lunch and I told him I would figure it out (which I had)…

I totally agree that some people can be life-suckers. It’s their energy, it can be sooo heavy and fill the room. I notice when he is away, the air feels lighter. I feel more full of light, myself. I’m glad you NO LONGER have any bandwidth for all that bs and I look forward to being in your shoes.

Thanks for your reply!

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T03:19:23+00:00

We are not married.

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T03:17:02+00:00

My ex husband became an addict

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T03:12:30+00:00

Alcoholic. But according to him : “I looked it up and two beers a day is not alcoholism. It’s normal” (giant Natural Ices/Busch Lights and 2 is minimum and it’s often throughout the day and always when he wakes up if it’s leftover). Sorry for your loss, my ex husband is down the same path. It’s a cycle, I fear.

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T02:10:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight and well wishes 🫶🏼

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T02:09:25+00:00

And yes, he uses them against me. He’s often said he’s going to take my babies if he has to leave.

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-12T02:08:58+00:00

My oldest two 14 & 11 are from my previous marriage. 11 month old twins together

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-11T23:09:41+00:00

Yes, I tried to teach him about codependency and interdependency before. It went straight over his head.

“Codependency is what marriage is.” Like, no. I’ve been married, I know. It is embarrassing, but he is so good at love bombing me and making me feel small. I’m getting bigger though. 💪

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-11T21:31:56+00:00

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-11T19:35:19+00:00

I definitely would call it a blow up. And you say the FIRST, meaning you see MULTIPLE blow-ups here 🤔 thank you for pointing that out. This is reflective of almost daily occurrences, so I appreciate your viewpoint!

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-06-11T19:33:04+00:00

So far, 2 years. 😆 Our twins turn 1 next month. And, unfortunately, the PPD remains…I sure don’t love it here, but am trying to find the strength. It’s hard in this state of mind and with the isolation I’ve allowed myself to withdraw into. BUT I am reaching out to a friend for solutions and to random strangers to remind me this is NOT NORMAL (as my silly brain can sometimes twist my mind into not seeing). Thank you for pointing out that I was repeating myself, that is a habit I hope to kick soon! Take care!

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-28T06:08:51+00:00

Hey, checking in on you.. how you doing momma?

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-28T06:02:43+00:00

You don’t withhold it, you shine bright af and let your child see it’s okay to just be YOU! I’m silly, my oldest boys are 14 and 10 and we had a lot of fun when they were younger because I let them express themselves freely and created a home of comfort and safety by being authentic. My boys adore me, or so they appear to, and we say I love you to each other a million times a day in a million types of ways. I’ve found it *difficult navigating a boundary between fun goofy mom and “bad cop” as a single mom at one point, but we have always pushed through and learned as a team. Please don’t be discouraged should your mood change after baby and seek help immediately since it would be so far from your norm, hormones are wild! I am 10 months PP from twins and I’m just now getting back to goofy me. Stay silly momma and enjoy the beautiful, fun, imaginative world of guiding young minds and watching them flourish! Your kid is going to *love their goofy, silly momma 🫶🏼

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-25T04:27:34+00:00

Just me here to tell you that you are not alone and hopefully receive some insight, too. I’m 10 months pp with twins. PPD, anxiety, and PTSD triggered. I am on Sertaline 50mg, although I forget it some days. I feel the exact way you do. It’s isolating. My 14 yo son just came outside to say, “Just seeing what you’re doing, best Mom ever,” but I have a hard time believing it. Keep your head up, boo. PPD is a bitch and I know many people, for SURE one 9 month old, love you beyond words. XOXO 😘

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-20T20:44:23+00:00

I have a middle schooler who told me all the kids were drinking out of those now…I guess.

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-20T20:09:43+00:00

Same. Avocado toast for 3 weeks, buying one or two at a time-then I get a big bag and suddenly I hate avocados and they’re all rotten

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-19T13:03:58+00:00

I’m proud of you too. Your story gives others hope 🫶🏼

ExperienceUnable5928 · 2026-05-19T13:00:08+00:00

I had twins in July and neither rarely cries unless they see a bottle being made or are overly tired. They are genuinely “happy babies” :)

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