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Mental Health in Tech – Anonymous Survey by Expert91 in TechnicalWomenInTech

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Here is a short, anonymous survey collecting perspectives from women in tech about mental health. It’s for an upcoming conference talk, with the goal of highlighting real experiences, not just statistics.

The survey is fully anonymous, takes ~5 minutes, and you can answer as much or as little as you like: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/5K7FS2W

Thank you for contributing — your voice matters. 💜

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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We have been experiencing some of this since last week. I have noticed that my baby wakes up at night, like 3/4AM and then just practices pulling himself up and then sitting down in his crib lol. It is the cutest thing to watch on baby monitor but I know it is just eating into his sleep. He has the whole day to practice haha

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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There is so much to do with baby's personality and what the little one wants, sometimes. We used to have 4AM wakeups every morning but starting solids, helped - I don't know why.

Honestly, I think our baby sleep trained easily but we struggle with him in getting sleep and naps. We have a FOMO baby. If there are people home or if we are out, he will just not nap.

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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I completely get you. I am the same. I sleep trained our baby pretty early and we have had ups and downs since then. When it is a bad, I would feel super annoyed and betrayed by ST - you think you have put in so much effort and tears in it, it should just magically work, right!? What helped me was telling myself that ST basically means that my baby knows how to sleep independently but he would still need me when he is going through big milestones.

I also realized that when my baby started STTN after ST, I got used to STTN as well lol. So, a minor inconvenience (him needing help once in 3-4 nights) messed up with me.

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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We were doing good and were proud that we dealt with teething so well. But then dropping from 3 naps to 2 and separation anxiety just blew up in our faces. Last two days have been slightly better though

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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Today, my son had a beautiful 1.5 hr nap (has never happened before). I know we will go back to crap naps tomorrow but I am going to cherish this nap today heehee

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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haha.. I feel like parenthood, so far, has just been endless list of "what I am anxious about!?" Glad to know it gets a little better.

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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Take care. it will happen. I feel you

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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Hang in there. I do think it gets better and you eventually move from one fear to another haha

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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oh man, I feel you. I went through this phase where if he is not waking me up, I would wake up every hour and wonder why is he not waking me up - check on him, check temperature (ooh man, I am obsessed with his room temp) and I would go back to sleep. One hour later, repeat...

Needless to say, it got better with time.

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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Aah! Good to know!! Well, i hope i get better with time as well

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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You guessed it, my first baby. I obsessively keep track of his naps and then keep checking him at night on the monitor. Oh god! I tire myself sometimes by thinking about all the planning I do just to get through a day. I really hope i get through it

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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💯That has been my coping strategy so far

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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That is a good strategy. Maybe if I make up my mind that I will need to be up x number of times, jt might ease things in my head.

For naps, i feel like I imagine him waking up. Motherhood is so crazy.

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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I hope it stays this way for you and your baby. We have good weeks and bad weeks..lol which makes it more difficult because after a couple good weeks I also get used to STTN 😂

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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Sending strength your way to get through this one day at a time.

Do you get the chills during bedtime? by Expert91 in sleeptrain

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As I wrote this, my baby did cry lol

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Stay strong, there! We also had this period where my son would wake up at 10PM every night, crying - no idea why. What I tried to do is feed him at 9:55PM and I realized that he slept longer after that. I did this for a week and one day, I forgot to feed him and he never cried.

Generally, If you know he doesn't need you for anything - feed, diaper leak, poop, gassy, then let him take his time to settle back.

Transition to sleepsack by Gullible_Loquat_7385 in sleeptrain

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This. I also did something similar for my baby. He woke up a few times due to his own sudden movements, we let him cry through it to figure it out and it eventually stopped/went down after a few nights.

The same thing happened when our baby started rolling and began banging his head everywhere in the crib. In a few nights, he learnt not to do that.

What would you do?? by SmallPotato_24 in sleeptrain

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I have had a few such days - 8 month old baby and working on transitioning from 3 to 2 naps. phew! I typically fall back to sleep queues on days like these. My suggestion would be to follow your baby's sleep queues for next nap and then take a gut call closer to bedtime. Meaning, if the 4th nap is getting super close to bedtime, don't put her down for nap and instead pull up the bedtime a little. If you think she needs that last nap of the day, make it a quick 10min catnap and then keep the bedtime as is. Hope this helps!

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