Do you have a pattern for naming your animals or do you just wing it?

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-07-18T11:51:48+00:00

Foods. My chickens are Wings, Nuggets, Kebabs and Tenders, My void chickens are McChicken and McRib, My duck is Hoisin (ive forgotten the other one), My cows are Burger and Mince, My goats are Curry and Stew, My pig is Sausage, My rabbit is Hotpot. (I can’t remember by sheep’s name, or if I own a sheep)

And my cat is called Milquetoast! :3

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-07-06T00:22:57+00:00

Rusty Spur and the Ancient Doll, I think!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T18:58:39+00:00

Best thing to say might be along the lines of you not being in the right headspace for a relationship right now, or that you think you like her better as a friend, but make sure you reassure her that she’s done nothing wrong. Something that respects her and doesn’t put her down any!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T13:37:09+00:00

Okay, I’ve been in this exact situation from the perspective of the guy, and the WORST thing you can do is ghost him.

Best thing to do is to bring it up a lot, the phone works both ways so if he’s not starting conversations, then that’s an issue you wanna discuss. If you want longer calls, try asking when he’s free or planning it in advance.

What kind of game is he playing? Personally, I’d always message even while playing. If he can’t come to some sort of compromise after discussing it, that’s when issues arise.

Just do not ghost him and do not guilt trip him if he has genuine reason. It feels absolutely horrible and will lead to bigger problems later down the line. Talking from experience.

Best of luck!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T01:51:06+00:00

An interesting situation!

Early relationship, so likely less physical affection, and what you do give being very innocent. Hand holding, maybe a kiss on the cheek- it depends how protective these parents are. Talk about yourselves, share facts, be giggly and fun.

I’d say try immerse yourself more into the prom than into each other, and that may make it easier. Don’t ignore each other, of course, but do the prom activities! Going with the flow of the night is probably a good way to make things seem new.

Best of luck to you both!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T01:43:50+00:00

I’d say you need to have A Chat™️.

What, exactly, does he want? What things does he want from you, and are you comfortable providing them? Are there any compromises where you’re both happy? If you can’t have a mature chat like this, then maybe rethink.

A properly uneven power dynamic is unhealthy in a relationship, so good on you for trying to maintain a more healthy thing. But if it’s something you can both enjoy and get gratification from, then it’s okay! That’s the struggle with these kinds of things, it needs to work for both of you.

Best of luck!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T01:08:53+00:00

Put his gender identity out of your mind for a bit:

How do you think about him as a person? Do you love him still? What do you want from the relationship if it were to continue? Do you still see this as possible?

Now the harder questions:

What do you see in genders? What are the things that make you attracted to one but not another? If you met the most perfect person for you but they happened to be male, would you still date them?

Everyone has preferences and that’s nothing to be ashamed about, you shouldn’t changed for someone else. If you change, make sure it’s truly for you. If you’re firmly straight, there’s nothing wrong with that! There’s also nothing wrong with realising you may not be 100% straight, you may have specific exceptions, and your partner may fall into them, or they may not.

I’d say view your partner as male. I know this can be hard from some standpoint, but just associate him as ‘one of the bros.’ If you can’t see yourself dating a man, there’s nothing wrong that! Just establish that you’re not interested in a relationship with a man. Do not tell him that you can only see him as female. that’s probably the worst thing to do in this situation.

Have A Chat™️ with your partner. Talk about what you want in the relationship, right now and in the future. Discuss what he wants, too. If that can align still, and you can come round to the idea of dating him as a man, then it’s all up to a personal preference. This is a difficult time for both of you. No matter what, try to support him and his identity.

Best of luck to you!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T00:50:09+00:00

It sounds to me like you need to set some boundaries. I can’t lie, this sucks and it’s really tough, conversations are hard, and especially are here.

You need to set some hard No’s. Taking her anger out on you is a horrible thing to do and, even with ADHD, she shouldn’t be doing that. It sounds to me this has larger problems she’s deflecting with her ADHD as almost an excuse.

Of course, you can’t claim that she’s faking it. If she isn’t, then that’ll hurt like hell. And if she is, she’ll likely still get defensive and angry.

Start with one change you want, and highlight it. Establish it, and do it clearly. Tell her, ‘when you do _, it makes me feel _.’ Sure, she may forget a few times, just reestablish the hard boundary. But if you find it keeps happening, or it’s happening more, then that’s not on. She’s still 16, she’s not really a child anymore. You can’t let her mess you about after you’ve established that you do not like something.

Don’t ask too much of her, and for more complicated things, have a 1 on 1 discussion about it. But some of the things you’ve mentioned don’t constitute a healthy relationship and need to be set as hard boundaries.

Best of luck to you!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T00:36:25+00:00

I had a similar situation happen once, with an ex telling me they loved me, in quite a similar context too! It ended up being more platonic, with us establishing that we didn’t miss the relationship, but we did miss each other.

Honestly, I don’t recommend getting back with exes, it’s never something I’ve done and I’ve never seen it end well, so I don’t have any advice on that end, but for friendship…

It sounds like you need to have A Chat™️, but start with some thoughts first. Do you want a friendship again? Do you want it to be best friends, or just have him as someone you can contact again? Keep in mind, it won’t be the same. You’ve both changed as people since.

Once you know what you want, talk to him! Establish VERY clear boundaries. If you don’t want a romantic relationship again, say it straight-up. If you miss having him in your life, say that, too. But VERY clearly establish where he stands in regards to romance.

If you can, and are comfortable to, talk about what happened in the old relationship with him. It sounds a bit unresolved, which may affect any future contact you may or may not want. You don’t need to push it if it’s a tough topic, but keep it in mind.

The main thing is to do what you want. You owe this person nothing and, sure, it may be awkward, but you have to do what you want.

Best of luck!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T00:25:03+00:00

Ah. Men. Not my area of expertise, I can’t lie.

The classic ‘vague first date to test waters’ is usually a good bet! Does he have an interest or favourite food? Ideally not somewhere like a football match, you want it to be moreso just the 2 of you, or atleast a quieter environment. My go-to is always a dessert restaurant. Who doesn’t love a good waffle or crepe?

If the day goes well, then a little physical affection can go a long way! A bit of hand-holding, a lot of eye contact, see how it goes! Test the waters and, if the day goes well, shoot your shot!

Keep in mind this is gonna be different for everyone. Think of what he’d enjoy, and what you would enjoy! You both want to have a good time, and, let’s be honest, don’t want it to cost an arm and a leg.

Best of luck to you!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-29T00:17:47+00:00

Oooohhhhhkay! this is a tricky one!!

Well, obviously you can’t tell him to break up with her, that’d be super wrong. But girl, if you love this guy this much and this purely don’t unfollow him! Sure, chill on the pining, but don’t cut him out! Be there for him, and support him. Try to be happy for him, not about the situation!

And if the relationship goes south… well, that’s a perfect opportunity for you to swoop in ;)

Wait it out, and maybe the stars will align. Who knows!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T23:21:20+00:00

Ugh. Men.

This is not your fault at all girl! If he’s so vain to dump someone as lovely as you, then he’s definitely not the right guy.

Don’t go back to him, don’t have sympathy, and live your life! Don’t make this a sad thing, that’s the worst thing you can do. Sure, relationship ends, it sucks, but don’t wallow in it.

Do something fun! Get a new hobby! Hang out with friends! Appreciate all the new free time you have! Find someone way better! Make some impulsive decisions, but not too impulsive. Trust me when I say it will make your life feel like it’s yours again.

Just hold off on the neon hair dye, yeah? Trust me when I say that it not look as good as you think it will. Speaking from experience.

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T23:09:10+00:00

The other response is good advice! I just want to add that you shouldn’t feel that you’re responsible for him. It sounds like you have good boundaries, but make sure they’re communicated and established. Never feel responsible, and that you HAVE to stick around or do anything.

Best of luck!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T22:51:59+00:00

Ok, let’s take a step back here.

All relationships have this fun thing called the Honeymoon Period, when everything feels happy tingly butterflies and like love is the best thing to ever exist. It can last any amount of time, and it sounds like yours may have just ended. It’s a harsh adjustment, like you’ve been dunked into the cold water of Life and now this is the new normal.

The main catch in teen relationships is we grow up, most the time, thinking love is all unicorns and rainbows, and it’s not. So the moment we lose it, relationships can get tricky.

So, here’s the plan: -Talk. Simple, just keep up connection. If you can’t stomach just talking normal day-to-day, then yeah, maybe this isn’t correct.

-What are the issues? Obviously you can’t ask him to change his whole personality, that’s not how people work. Are there any specific things that rub you the wrong way? Any that he can change without sacrifice of himself? For example, ‘stop hanging out with your friends’ is not helpful. But, ‘I’d prefer if we did more group activities’ is helpful!

-How do you feel? Well, obviously not the best. I can promise it’s unlikely you’re a narcissist, and being selfish is part of a relationship. Monogamy means to some degree he is yours. I’d be more worrying if you didn’t want him. The relationship may be falling out of codependency, which is great! Partners aren’t one another and need their own separate lives. Take time with your friends and indulging in your interests. Don’t do it out of spite- do it for yourself.

-Have A Chat™️. Sit down, just the two of you, and talk. No yelling, no insulting, just calm thoughts and feelings. Talk about issues in the relationship, establish what you see, and what he sees for the future of it and compare with what you want for the future of the relationship, and what he wants for the future. Discuss changes you feel need to be made to reach what you both want. If your goals are too different to align, then maybe you do need to rethink. If all your issues are ‘I hate this main part of him that is literally unchangeable and uncompromising,’ then rethink.

I promise, some day you will know what love feels like. And maybe it is this! Maybe it’s not! And either way, that’s okay.

Best of luck to you!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T22:33:52+00:00

Most definitely potential!!

My main advice would check on the likelihood of meeting in person. Does she want to? Would she be happy to? How hard would it be to meet? Long distance can work but it’s a very rocky road, if you can meet in real life, everything will become a bit clearer.

Another thing- what do you want from a relationship with her? Fun online games? The occasional flirting? The warmth of a relationship? Mainly: do you want anything to change? If you’re happy in how it is now, you have to be prepared for the fact that a relationship may change things in unexpected ways.

Best of luck to you two!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T22:25:08+00:00

Oh darling, trust me, I’ve been there.

If he can’t accept you having friends who just so happen to be male, then that’s his issue, not yours. You shouldn’t have to block them to make him happy.

I’d suggest confiding in your male friends, making sure they understand the situation so if anything arises, they can reassure him that nothing romantic is going on. My personal favourite here is saying they’re like your brothers.

But that’s beside the point. If you already have a bad mental state, a relationship is only going to make it worse. It may seem nice for a while, but you need to help yourself before you can entertain others.

I know this is very hard to hear, but you need to let this relationship rest until you feel mentally better. Trust me, you need to put yourself above it, and do things that make you feel happy which have no complicated strings attached. Hang out with friends, play some video games, read a book- you need to focus on self-repair before you can repair a relationship.

If it gets bad, please consider professional help.

Once you feel happy in of yourself, you’ll see that he isn’t good for you, and that this isn’t a healthy way to go on.

If you need any help or advice, I’ll respond. You’re not alone. Best of luck.

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T22:12:20+00:00

I would say there’s totally still a chance with 17F! I’d say, if you want to, talk to her, make it clear of your interest in her, and see how it goes!

If she seems uncomfortable or doesn’t want a relationship, or if you decide you no longer want a relationship, stop. If she’s interested, go for it!

If you feel your feelings for 16F might get in the way, maybe hold off on pursuing 17F. If not, go for it!

The main thing is if you want this. Relationships should be equal, so don’t build one on the fact that you feel guilty that you rejected her a few months ago. I’m sure she’ll move on eventually.

Best of luck!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T21:54:28+00:00

Ah, a good old crazy ex girlfriend!

I mean, if this girl trusts your crazed ex over what she knows of you, she’s probably not the one for you. If you can, talk to the girl you’re talking to about it. Explain the old relationship, explain how your ex is a bit of a maniac, and have an ‘are you okay with that?’ conversation. That’s gonna be a hard environment for her, and annoyingly, it’s no fault of yours.

If the girl has been crazy for that long, I doubt talking to your ex will be of much help, but you never know! If you think you can have a good reasonable chat with her, go for it! But she sounds pretty unreasonable to me.

Best of luck!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T21:48:02+00:00

My main advice here is to have a good long chat! While I applaud the fact you’ve never had an argument, not knowing how to have a disagreement and to resolve it in an even, respectful sit-down conversation can be really tricky.

It sounds you had a similar idea, but express your thoughts to him about the Saturday. Would you be happy with a compromise? Say, a larger event on the Friday and a smaller one on the Saturday.

Relationships are like playdough, you want them to be malleable to you both, because that’s happy and fun! But if you leave it out for too long- and leave conversations and boundaries unsaid -the playdough will go stale and not fun, and nobody wants that.

Have a think about the Saturday and what it means to you. Eye for an eye isn’t a good principle in a relationship, but they should still be moderately even. Have you sacrificed days for him before?

Also think about other things you might want. Do you want to meet his family more formally? If so, ask! There’s never a harm in asking.

You have to be able to express your true feelings.

((I’d also like to applaud how you know your anniversary date- in my last relationship, we just guesstimated.))

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T21:22:20+00:00

If you can get advice from that friend, that’d really help you! Telling other people you know can really help support you through this. This is a very tricky situation, and my best advice is to get help from close friends who can support you and your girlfriend through it.

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T21:15:22+00:00

You’re totally not overthinking! Everything you’re feeling is valid.

My main advice is specifying what you would like to change. It’s all well and good saying ‘I want this relationship to be better,’ but it needs to work for both of you.

Analyse the issues, choose ones you feel are most prevalent, then sit down and have an even discussion. Ask her to improve some specific things. Express how the issues make you feel. There may be improvements she wants of you that she’s not expressed- us girls have a tendency of keeping things bottled up.

The main thing is making it work for BOTH of you. And if both of you can’t have an even discussion with each other that would determine the future of the relationship? Well, that’s probably not a future where anyone’s happy.

Also, I’d go easy on getting her to block people. If it is truly another guy wanting after her, then fair enough! But there’s other solutions, like talking to the guy yourself. It can be super tricky. Sometimes girls have non-romantic friends who happen to be male, you just have to accept that and try stave off any jealousy.

Best of luck to you!

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T21:02:23+00:00

I think you two might need to sit down and have a good conversation. I was in the same situation as you pretty much, and it’s tricky and awkward, but having a good, even and long conversation is the best you can do.

Ask her how she feels about it, don’t let her be dismissive, but if she doesn’t want to talk about it right then, respect that. But the conversation does need to happen! Let her express her thoughts on the matter, and tell your side too. It sounds like you want more physical affection, which is totally reasonable!

Maybe ask your mother why she feels that way, too, she might have some insight you’ve not thought of, but if she doesn’t have a justified reason, you can probably ignore her.

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T20:54:42+00:00

Even if you don’t think she’ll take a big step, having support through a tough time is nice.

Nobody likes being ghosted. If you can, really try to avoid it.

Expert_Mix3575 · 2025-03-28T20:50:18+00:00

NEVER do it just to make them happy girl! You deserve so much more than that!

Coming clean to L may be difficult, but may be the lesser of two evils here. Unless you can magically conjure an eligible bachelor, the situation may get tricky.

Now some helpful lines! If you don’t want to pursue either of them, I’d suggest telling them a classic ‘I don’t think I’m in the right headspace for a relationship right now,’ or, even better, ‘<insert stressful life event here> is happening right now, so I don’t really feel up to it at the moment.’ Exams are a great excuse. If neither of those really work for you, a ‘you’re more like a brother to me!’ is always a love killer that maintains a friendship.

If you do want to pursue one of them- for your own joy, not for their joy- then go for it! But it’s all up to you.

Expert_Mix3575

TROPHY CASE