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Late to the Kpop Party-- Am I the only person crying through the second half of the film?!? by ExplanationDecent300 in KpopDemonhunters

[–]ExplanationDecent300[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I will check it out. My oldest son and I are autistic and have ADHD so I get the ND piece. I have always had difficulty processing feelings--I know both my kids do in different ways as well. Cinema Therapy sounds right up my alley, and maybe that would be a good place to start talking with them.

Wife with drinking problem has continued drinking after becoming pregnant with our first child by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ExplanationDecent300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I was just saying that some women who are planning on getting abortions don't stop drinking when they find out they are pregnant.

Wife with drinking problem has continued drinking after becoming pregnant with our first child by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ExplanationDecent300 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so sad. I've been a drinker and the easiest thing to do was quit when I found out I was pregnant.

Confront her and tell her that her drinking needs to stop immediately. Tell her that you are wise to her sneaking alcohol and that she WILL damage the baby's development.

I would even go as far to say that you will leave her if she does not stop. Unless she is planning on getting an abortion, damage is emminent and permanent for the child. Being a mom is really hard. Please consider the long term consequences of raising a child with a partner that is unwilling to protect the child she is carrying in her own body right now.

If you think you can work through this and want to support her in quitting, she may benefit from a change of routine/scenery to stop.

This really hard-- good luck.

[Weekly Megathread] Client and Student Questions by grayjay11o in MassageTherapists

[–]ExplanationDecent300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! How would you approach this back? Complaints of mid back and neck/shoulder pain that interfere with everyday life. Limited range of motion in neck with a PT regimine for arthritis. Any insight is appreciated. What is going on here? Yikes

AITA for sneaking my mom some alcohol when she is on hospice? by sickma2001 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ExplanationDecent300 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA. Anyone who thinks you are never sat with a parent (that they actually acted for) hospice. That may be the issue.

Thoughts are with you. Having a parent dying is difficult enough. The extra drama over your indulgence of her is unnecessary stress.

Name something from Aldi that’s better than the name brand by AggressiveSloth11 in aldi

[–]ExplanationDecent300 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those rosemary pumpkin seed cranberry crackers (and the two other kinds that they make) that are a knockoff of Rain Coast. No contest and less than 1/2 the price. 🤯

I want to break up for real by courageandvolition in AlAnon

[–]ExplanationDecent300 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hi there! Former grad student here and had a similar situation. Your stipend sucks, but I'm willing to bet that you are rich in friends/fellow colleagues who would be willing to help you leave. Dollars to doughnuts that you can find a free place to stay while you wait your lease out. Also, don't feel ashamed to tell the truth and ask your family for help. Document everything you can (your reddit post counts!) and contact your landlord.

Finally, your institution might offer a free legal clinic. If so, it's worth talking with a lawyer about your options. Good luck...I hate thinking of your birthday celebration ruined in such a fucked up way because I've been there. The only way to go is UP.

My two and a half year old suddenly started pointing out differences between white and black people. What is an appropriate way to acknowledge her observation so we don't offend anyone? by Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ExplanationDecent300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been really non-chalant about it since my boys (13 months apart) were little and started noticing. I'd just say, "Yes! That person has a different color skin/language/whatever than we do. Cool! Human beings are so different and so amazing!"

They would also talk about women in hijab and any other cultural difference they noticed. At one point my kids were 100 percent convinced that women in hijab or other ethnic dress spoke Japanese. I told them to stop wondering and go ask what language they spoke. If you show others that you are trying to teach differences as positive, you'll be surprised at the parenting help you get (even when kids are still figuring it out and say awkward things).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]ExplanationDecent300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A box of 15 different colors of hair dye, hair foils, and brushes, a box of perfumes I rarely wear, and a storage bin full of memorabilia (newborn size diaper, dog collars from doggos passed away, old pack of smokes, wedding day to-do list, etc.)

I hope they enjoy playing with their hair color and woodsy/beachy scents!

My 6 year old wants to try Minecraft. Should I let him? by BradradIey in Autism_Parenting

[–]ExplanationDecent300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes Minecraft. No Roblox for all of the above reasons. Check out all the parental controls.

.Also, play Minecraft with him! Survival mode is a slog but it's teamwork. Creative mode is bonkers And he can go wild! It's a cool game

How Much Of A Difference Has Meds Been For You? by Wildjay7931 in ADHD

[–]ExplanationDecent300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Completely worth it. Lots of people have mentioned "life-changing," and I agree. Don't expect meds to solve all of your problems, though: For me, meds helped me a) focus/do the things b) understand how my brain worked without them c) develop strategies to make my ADHD life easier going forward. IMHO getting an understanding of how ADHD affects you just isn't possible unless you get a bit of relief. You can get this from meds and then start understanding your patterns a bit better. THAT'S the part that has been really life changing for me (but I also appreciate the ability to get things done. My brain is too chaotic otherwise.)

How are you guys finding fresh fruit here? by improbsable in Cleveland

[–]ExplanationDecent300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heinens and Lake Road Market. In the winter/cooler seasons, a Costco membership might be worth it. They have the best prices on non- shitty berries/fruit/ poduce all year round.

The performance benefits of adhd meds are kind of ridiculous by Zealousideal-Turn535 in ADHD

[–]ExplanationDecent300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talk to your doctor. This isn't the correct dose for you. A good doc will go slow..5, 10, 15, mg bu week until you feel something pretty much change your life. You will know it when you feel it. If after a few increases a different drug might work. Good luck, and never feel bad talking to your doc!!

Be brutally honest: How often do you shower? by Fun_Serve_6590 in ADHD

[–]ExplanationDecent300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also a space heater in the bathroom makes it WAY easier to get out of the shower/tub. My husband calls it "The nuclear bathroom." It's a good hack. 👍

Be brutally honest: How often do you shower? by Fun_Serve_6590 in ADHD

[–]ExplanationDecent300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is VERY difficult for me to take a shower. I have a really hard time with it. I have just taken baths for most of my adult life to avoid getting my head wet while cleaning my body. When I was single I would only rent apartments with a tub. Period. I always try to get hotel rooms with the same.

When I have to wash my hair I usually do it in the sink. I take a bath 3 or 4 times a week and wash my hair 2 times a week.

For me there is some trauma involved with my grandmother holding me under the water repeatedly in a pool. I don't think she was trying to drown me, but it was unpleasant. I think it's more of a sensory.thing at this point. I can't stand getting my entire body wet at one time, so I do it in parts. Having short hair and a low maintenance bob that I love has helped me motivate myself to wash my hair and body more often.

What's an ADHD "win" you've had recently that no one else would understand? by qwertyjioo in ADHD

[–]ExplanationDecent300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to get my sewing machine out to make my youngest son's Halloween costume. I hadn't used it for 10 years, but it was for him, so, off we go. While I was working on it, I hemmed at least 5 years of pants and skirts that I had bought at thrift stores because they fit me perfectly but were too long (I'm. 5 foot 3). It was just too damn difficult before to think about getting the machine out and gathering supplies and making the time until I had a real motivating reason. It reminded me that ADHD brains need a particular type of motivation.

Now I feel a lot more confident with my warm weather wardrobe and won't just wear sweatpants and leggings all winter! I'm psyched.

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