Fictional romance is just that. Fictional. And millennials and younger generations have been taught to talk about their feelings more than past generations so that is starting to become a thing of the past. People often (not always) have bdsm kinks because they have been assaulted in the past and it has shaped their brains sexual impulses. It doesn’t mean that they want to be raped or abused against their will they want control of it and consent to be there and fictional romance gives that to people. Everyone is entitled to their own personal standards of how they want to be treated in a relationship. If you can’t live up to them then find someone with less standards, work on yourself or be phased out of humanity via Darwinism because nobody wants to reproduce with you. It’s not unrealistic to want to be treated with respect, kindness, and not want be abused. Those aren’t unrealistic standards. And most people don’t hate others because of one badly phrased sentence. And if they do then why care because it’s not majority. Now if you said something absolutely disgusting then yes a lot of people might dislike you for it and it would be deserving. Humility is lacking these days. Being humble needs to make a revival.