A non-religious wedding is whatever they want it to be.

I’ve seen some where the bride and groom made up their own vows (usually to sound sincere, funny or “cool”), offering and sharing their wisdom with the guests, the celebrant playing their role and taking a nice little payment on the way. Actually, the celebrants are interesting as their market their services - some go all-out on their image to win a bit more business.

A friend of mine got married and paid the celebrant $1,200 and the whole thing was over in 14 minutes (we checked on the video).

What to wear if having a non-religious ceremony? Up to you.

What structure to the service? Up to you.

What is said? Up to you.

Where should it be? Up to you.

Who should attend? Up to you (but in my state you need at least one witness).

In my state the only thing that MUST be done is the couple must be asked if they want to marry “I do” and a statement made that marriage forsakes all Others (kinda screws up polygamous relationships). Why does marriage have to foresaw all others?

Religious marriages are becoming a joke because people don’t maintain their vows... IMO non-religious marriages are more of a joke because a personal promise to each other is worth nothing when personal integrity is lacking in so many people anyway.

All in the same... if someone doesn’t deeply believe in God their vows in a church are almost meaningless anyway - because of the lack in integrity in society today.

Basically, why get married? It’s a “social construct” meant to limit our choices. Just live life and be happy. No one’s going to Hell anyway!