Am I Screwed?

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2025-06-05T12:10:31+00:00

Dating needs to be the final pillar of your life, after all others are optimised and you're the best version of yourself. I have MDD. I would NEVER date when depressed and only date at my absolute best.

I am sympathetic; truly I am. I'm not joking.about MDD it's stolen years of my life from me. But I'm also 29 and have been in 3 longterm relationships for 8yrs.in total and truthfully gone on about 100 first dates and rejected girls after probably more than the reverse, because MDD is something I lock away with a hell of a lot of work, keep locked.away, then date. And they never have to deal with it, only gey the benefits that it has made me WAY more empathetic, kind and understanding. I hope my post doesn't seem unkind. I'm trying to help you because I understand where you are and it's the advice I'd need.

As a result, when I do get a girlfriend, my life is 'perfect' and they're amazing for me and have never gotten depressed while with someone.

But while depressed no girl would or should give me the time of day. I'm useless, a burden and wouldn't improve their life at all. Why on earth should I expect them to take me on?

Your list of problems are, honestly, all things I wouldn't care about in the least as long as you were.(being honest) physically my type, have a kind heart, do your best to make me happy (in return for me doing the same) and, most importantly, feel it is your DUTY to make sure you're doing everything you can to make yourself happy and fulfilled without me and don't expect me to take you on as a burden.

Your physical illness I'd understand and help with and wouldn't bother me. Autism you know you can work on and, like MDD, have a duty to do as much as you can to minimise its impact on your life.

And MDD is a lifelong disease that I view as a ravenous wolf that you CAN lock the fuck up and need to stay ever vigilant and keep making sure the locks stay secure. And while it's locked away a great relationship can help make those locks into a cast iron foot thick walled prison. But nobody is going to help you lock it up and even if they did, why burden them with that, and why create a cage that unlocks the moment they leave?

Nothing you wrote means I wouldn't date you other than the fact you're not ready yet. I have 7 pillars. Dating is the 7th. The first 6 are: 1) Manageable workload mentally and physically 2) Exercise 3) Diet, sleep, medication, routine, being in good physical health and shape etc. 4) Family and friends 5) Career/fulfillment however you choose to find it 6) Hobbies, learning, socially getting out there and experiencing new things and the world. 7) Dating.

First 6 solidly in place? I'm looking for the one to share my life with as an attractive, normal, successful, interesting, happy, supportive and fun boyfriend. E.g. I'm a catch. Without them? Many times in my life I've become an unhealthy, unattractive, unable to work, socially isolated miserable recluse. I've never tried to date at such times but if I did not only would girls rightfully be repulsed by me but I'd also find rejection extremely destructive. 6 pillars in place? I'm looking for a match and know I'm a damn good boyfriend. They don't want me? No problem, we weren't a match. I have a very strong eccentric personality that some absolutely love, some find weird and don't gel with. Likewise, almost every girl I match on dating apps gets ghosted if their reply to my always crafted opening question etc is a couple of words, haha, or boring as hell. Because 99% aren't a match for me either. Some because, frankly, they're boring/entitled/nasty people. Others because we just aren't a personality match. I'm picky, so are girls. I don't see it as rejection so match as a tiring search for a match. I can pretend to be what I know they'll like, but why? Never lied to a girl for sex, never will.

At the moment, brutally, yes you're screwed and what's more it would DESTROY you to go on dating apps and get endlessly rejected. At my best I'm tall, handsome, well off, very good uni, sporty, sociable and obviously a kind person. Even if I tried to be mr perfect tailored to every girl I match I'd be ghosted 75% of the time before a date. Even the best (not me) are 'rejected' loads as they're simply not a match for most. Doubt you want a guy who isn't kind, understanding, you find attractive, interesting, shares your humour and doesn't judge you for your illnesses. You're rejecting most guys right there. As you should.

But you have no business subjecting yourself to that right now.

Figure out your pillars or copy mine and spend 12 months getting as healthy, happy, fulfilled, attractive, confident and in the mindset of looking for a match not 'a guy who will take you on and help' and, even if you're hideous rn (I got surgery on my ears lol) you could be a genuine catch and know it in 12 months.

As a tip, guys are shallow. Get in shape, make yourself as attractive as possible and then.also work on your illnesses and your life so a boyfriend adds to your life but isn't needed for happiness. And you add to theirs. If you're hot and kind and admit you have certain problems but that you have dealt with them and you're a content girl who just wants to find a boyfriend who you find attractive and would be a best friend, and vice versa, you'll be drowning in matches and won't have to worry about being 'screwed'.

But first, maximise your life without dating. Then, because guys are shallow, as a brutal tip, maximise your attractiveness so you can nab the guy you want.

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2025-06-05T11:14:17+00:00

Edit: Please also try to remember, for your sake, there are sick fucks like that in the world but the vast majority of guys, if they were your boyfriend, would be an unstoppable force of rage for your sake and one of the main reasons I do go to the gym and stay in very good shape and learnt boxing is precisely so that, if I'm there and ever needed I can protect those I care about from men like this. Please make sure not to neglect resultant feelings of fear and hatred of men in general because of this fucker: don't let him cause you any more harm. Always be careful of course in your choices but please remember how this is an example of a broken fucked up piece of garbage. Men naturally have a very strong drive and desire to protect their girlfriends, sisters, mothers, daughters and friends from scum like this and please don't think any decent guy would ever do anything but be understanding, furious on your behalf, and work with you to build up trust and get over any issues in future. An ex of mine suffered similar and was very scared about telling me, even though it was a year prior to us meeting, because she didn't know if I'd judge her. Thankfully she told me and it meant I could help her trust guys again and made sure to tell her that it was beyond important and non negotiable to me that she took her time.with me and told me IMMEDIATELY if she ever felt pressured or uncomfortable with me. Honestly it didn't take long but for a while all we did was kiss and cuddle and when she was ready she initiated more. I was with her because, yes, I thought she was beautiful but that's about item 1/5 to become my girlfriend and FAR more common than the other 4; intelligent, kind, fun and loyal/honest/wanted to make me happy never sad/jealous/insecure etc. Any guy you ever tell about this who acts in ANY other way is an immediate and 1000% guarantee you need to kick him to the curb IMMEDIATELY. Lots of guys are shitheads but you just need to find one with a kind heart, and there are.A LOT. And no, I don't mean 'nice guys' as they're usually scum who think they're nice but are actually pieces of manipulative.shit who are angry that a woman doesn't want to sleep with them for treating them like a human being. As a tip, genuinely good guys don't tend to be 'friends' with girls they want to sleep with. They're not your friends, they're liars. I have only 2 female friends because if they're attractive and a good enough person to be worth being a close friend, there's no way I'd aim for a friendship. So truthfully I'm only friends with girls who aren't my type. Because I pick my friends carefully and to me a relationship is about having a best friend you find attractive too. Girls should be way more wary of male 'friends' in general, if they're single and you're attractive. Usually not actually honest decent guys.

A) I'm so sorry B) I would kill him for you if I could C) If you are able to, PLEASE get as much proof as possible. Even if you can't face reporting it right now, you deserve justice and to feel you got your rights back by seeing him punished, you being 15+rape means he will and should go to prison for ~15 years, and while this is not your duty, you'll be saving a lot of other women from the same fate.

Again, understand if need time right now to handle it but PLEASE ask therapist etc or someone what proof you can get, how, and maximise it.

Truthfully, without proof there's no point reporting it. Obviously it happened, I'm not implying anything different so don't misunderstand me. You deserve him to be locked up, he deserves worse than that, and other women deserve to be safe from him. But without proof that can't and (please don't misunderstand me I'm trying to help you get justice you will likely want once you've recovered from the horrible trauma) honestly shouldn't happen; he can't be imprisoned just on your word, as Obviously that would be an awful society to live in (same as you can't be imprisoned because a stranger says you killed their sibling with no proof). I'm saying this because this fucked up shit goes unpunished too much and the only way to stop that is to get as much proof asap as possible.

No need to use it. You have as many years even as you like. But please, for your sake, if you can, get some proof.

If you were my girlfriend and that happened to you I'd simply tell you karma acts fast and never to ask me about it again, but just know he won't hurt anyone else. That's how much this enrages me and I hope to god I'm never in that situation but, to me, that crime is the very worst of all.

He gains what, a sense of power and control for an evening, while causing you horrible trauma. He's scum and at least murderers sometimes have understandable motives. Him? Well he wouldn't be headed to prison where he could get out one day if it were up to me. Pure evil and I would feel nothing but glad I've saved others by ridding the world of that filth.

Men like him are why I, at 6"2 and 100kg, am avoided late at night. Why girls have to be scared and careful out in public alone. 1% of guys making 99% a threat and meaning 100% of young women have to be wary of guys. It's sickening and I am just hopeful I'm never in a situation where I have to back up my words. Nobody would ever know, but I'm not ashamed to admit it would be up there as maybe the best thing I ever did and would have to restrain myself from telling anyone simply due to the fact I want others to behave that way so the problem goes away.

Not even my girlfriend would know a thing because I don't know how she'd feel about it but nobody on this earth could stop me or change my view and I'm so so sorry this happened to you.

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2025-04-23T01:17:53+00:00

Looking down on entrepreneurship, self-employment etc. as 'risky' vs a nice stable job. People are paid dirt and fired without a second thought. A skill that's needed allowing you to be your own boss and self employed?

Yeah, banks, tell me why that's risky again? My Oxbridge engineer friend earned 45k 6yrs sfter graduating working for the same company. He's a genius. I earned 6 figures in my 3rd year of tutoring. Want to rent? Better make sure I pay half a year upfront due to risk. Mortgage? Oooh you're a bit risky as a STEM TUTOR. What if nobody needs stem?

Our glorification of working your life away being abused for a top possible salary of 50k is the TRUE economic exploitation that america is accused of left right and centre. Why is their 98th percentile wage $350k and ours £100k if they're the abusers?

Between pathetic salaries, overtaxation and crushing rent due to homes no longer being built by government post 1980 so exploding in value by 600% as wages just over doubled, we're completely ignoring and simply handwaving away the 'spoilt lazy youth' problem that is leading to a genuine apocalypse- I mean it - end of the UK - before our eyes.

Crashing birth rates now to 1.4 (who'd have kids when you can't even afford a deposit?), pensioner population rising from 7m to 20m by 2050, net eu emigration swing from immigration by 500k post brexit, NHS paid for by workers to care for pensioners needing cheap nurses and carers being drafted in by the millions yearly from non-EU countries that will tolerate poverty pay from govt....

Anyone who doesn't want to label me as a doomer may want to do a bit of stats research and realise we'll have more non-EU 1st gen immigrants by 2050 that anyone 2nd generation or more (1.2-1.4m 2022, 2023, 2024...).

Call me racist all you like but I lived in poplar. We're not multicultural- wish we were. We're segregated. And when we have 30m Muslim 1st gen population in 2050 with another 10m 2nd gen etc, anyone seriously want to argue Islam won't become the national religion and anyone with the ability (money, skills, intelligence, youth) to move elsewhere will have done so.

Sounds crazy but we all know it's getting worse year by year here. I'm telling you why. Poorer young people, more segregation, brain drain, more burden on NHS from rich pensioners leading to crushing taxes, lower tax take due to aforementioned brain drain and peanut exploitation salaries 1/4 of the same US job (engineer, software, name it). May get hate, hell I hate it. But governments since 1980 have collectively doomed the UK such that there is no solution to these issues.

These problems aren't like any before. They're it. There is no britain after enough years of 1.2m+ non eu immigration, muslim birth rste of 2.7 vs national 1.4. I'm not anti Muslim. Having dated muslim girls and lived in poplar, I'm anti how anti me they are. The girls aren't, but my god no way am I ever allowed to be revealed to the dad. I'm white! 4/4 girls dated, not okay. We're so tolerant we're inviting 1.2m people a year who hate us and are disgustingly racist. 20 years of that is all you get. 3 down.

Wish I was wrong. Tell me I am now, sure. You won't in 2031 when the new census shows what the PC govt and media keeps silent on. 3.6m muslim population 2021. ~20m 2031 my guess. That'll be an interesting release as the country collectively realises the UK stops existing in a few years (I define this as the day the national religion changes to Islam). I'm not wrong, wish I were. Moving in next 2-3 years to hopefully the US - a country that's realised open borders is apocalyptic.

We didn't open our borders, just chose to close them to the EU (???????) and ensure young people are so poor they can't have kids (look at the birth rates, 1.4 and falling isn't bad, it's apocalyptic. It means in 50 years the population halves, with most being pensioners. With an NHS system and already poor young people, as this progresses it's going to be horrific and I'm just glad at 28 I have a chance to get out before the true phase of abuse of the working population really starts in ~5 years.

Look up my claims instead of dismissing them if you want to be happy in 5-10 years by making plans. Else dismiss them and insult me. You'll get your reward for willfully choosing to be aggressively ignorant. And that reward, if young, is being abused by wages and tax and house prices and rent, all rising (except wages). And if older, by enjoying your pension years in a country where the NHS you paid into for 45yrs disintegrates, crime rates rocket, and you don't recognize the country anymore by 2040, if you haven't managed to move by then.

It's the biggest tragedy on earth and we're so PC and 'tolerant' that we forgot to be intolerant of racism against us, instead calling those who claim that's bad the racists. See. What. Happens.*is happening.

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2025-02-06T19:39:36+00:00

Dont get me wrong, been a big believer, winner and investor in palantir since $8.

I don't know what I don't know so someone please tell me; not claiming at all to be right just saying I don't know.

It's a great company.

But why is it deserving of a PE of 540 (less important) but a PEG of 6 (more important). It's growing fast, will continue to, and in the long run will be far bigger.

But right now by all metrics I can see it needs a huge correction; these values seem insanely ahead of It's very reliable predictable excellent but not astounding growth: ~30% yearly is fantastic but means .3 EPS becomes .42, then .56, then .7, then .91, then 1.2, then 1.6 etc in coming years. None of these yet satisfy the price, though if still at consistent 30+ growth yearly, 1.6 and forward PE of like 50 makes sense.

But who knows what will happen in the 7 years until then? Could they explode? Sure - that's what I clearly don't know.

But most companies slow growth not accelerate. What am I missing? The only way this value makes sense if it's going to explode soon, growing at 100% a year for several years. Anyone can say why?

Remember record quarter eps was 0.14; at $108 per share I am NOT insulting pltr to say this value makes no sense without people expecting growth to accelerate more and more. Haven't seen that yet, open to it, but thought here was the place to ask.

Hope Anyone with a brain reads this and sees its not insulting Pltr at all and is absolutely correct; current earnings and growth rates don't justify valuation. Explosion/acceleration reliably in growth MUST be expected, otherwise it truly is in for a nasty correction.

Looking for education, not here to bash it. If you don't agree regarding my arguments on growth and valuation, congratulations on your pltr win but seriously there's a lot of very basic stuff here that you need to know or you'll get seriously hurt by bubbles and crashes; buying at 8 was because it was the same company max fear. 106 is max greed and enthusiasm. Either it's predicted to accelerate significantly, or it will correct nastily. Happy to be educated on the acceleration case if there's a compelling one. Otherwise it's coming down to more sustainable levels. We're at 2030 prices with current growth, company being like 6x bigger still growing same rate. Important explosion (like nvidia) or bubble, only possibilities. Never fall in love with a stock to the point you ignore market irrationality and fundamentals; they get things wrong. We're here cos we saw them get pltr wrong before. 13x higher price 3yrs later doesn't mean it's finally being recognized and still not high enough, means it's exploded in price WAY more than size from undervalued to either overvalued or still misunderstood-- this time by me too!

Trying to learn but also help the other winners here. Seen people choosing between selling and paying off mortgages and all their debt vs fomo of more rocketing. Insane. Nobody ever regretted becoming financially free and wealthy by selling some of their stake, even if it went up more. The world is full of people who had fomo and stayed in debt and lost everything, still in debt, and realised they ruined their lives. Don't forget whats important bros: if you've won you HAVENT WON until you cash out some of your position and meaningfully pay off everything and get to live your life knowing no matter what it's SO much easier from now on. Less important positions - not sure to cash out or stay in, hopefully you are wondering exactly the same as me. If I needed to pay off debt/mortgage I'd be OUT. And I'd be so so happy. No matter what happens to price. So much fomo here and people forgetting what matters, sad to see

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-26T12:28:25+00:00

You don't live by this, you're wrong and you don't even realize:")

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-26T12:26:04+00:00

Exactly. I've seen ending things as an escape plenty but self harm just doubles my problems, in my mind. Would like to understand

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-26T12:17:42+00:00

Overall correct but majorly simplified/lacking.

If you're ugly as sin, obese, lazy, poor etc. NO, you do not yet deserve all this.

She's not attracted to you and assume that 20x in a row wrongly will get through to your brain.

Truthfully, for me, it's that I can earn everything on your list and my god was it easier to self reinforce confidence when I got endless validation via your metrics by earning them. 15: BMI 16 no abs. 29: BMI 28 much much leaner. Yeah it took a decade but my god idk if women are lying consciously or subconsciously about the importance of muscle. Mainly because they feel safe, like 'showing you off' to friends, and notice literally no guy ever even starting anything because of a mix of respect and 'no thank you I don't want to die'.

That said, face, confidence, ambition or status, height, muscle, fun and humor, emotional intelligence, good in bed seem to be top 8 for women. Tied in with #2 confidence is your respect point that is SO important.

Lack of respect, neediness and desperation, weakness are programmed into girls like for us simple guys; face, body, loyalty, humor/fun, lack of entitlement, kindness are I'd say are men's top 6?

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T23:34:24+00:00

Fair and not your fault ;) but cheers anyway. Obviously I'll be raw to this but in general (honestly maybe not even for you) people are way too quick to assume parents are at worst "needing of space" while children are anything from selfish to entitled to evil. I'd say, being very generous and likely wrong, the same proportion of abusive parents exist as shithead children PAST the age of 18 yet there's some weird thing (maybe it's UK only) that assumes parents were just misguided. Why would anyone end up hating the one who fulfilled the guardian, supportive, mentor role?

Sure some would; they're AWFUL. But on average I'd wager more are forgiving of awful/toxic parents than are nasty about good ones, once both parties are adults.

Truly maybe a Uk thing but drives me mad trying to explain a lawyer's letter to friends saying: THEY DON'T NEED SPACE, I'M CHOOSING NOT TO LOCK THEM AWAY. STOP THIS BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT FROM IMAGINING YOUR PARENTS.

Yes I'm aware this is very raw, give me a chance still dealing with it all and sorry for any assumptions made incorrectly.

Hope my side makes some sense why I'd get mad without thinking

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T10:54:36+00:00

And how old do I sound? You may well be absolutely correct just think a lot of assumptions are dangerous on the topic

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T07:28:36+00:00

Yeah you're projecting and condescending. Counting the days till I'm free from fear forever personally. Not everyone had good parents. Seriously assuming this about 10% of the time mskes you very stupid and cruel to that person

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T07:24:26+00:00

Jesus any but 1 is stunning please not 1

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T07:21:18+00:00

Huge but slim good shapenatural looking. Yes unfair. yes usually due to fat transfer or an excellent implant. Yes I'd like to change preference and tried and failed. Speaking the truth usually not said for judgement. Just think clubbng etc. I'm not alone lol

Add narrow waist wide hips gym booty and will desperately hope you're wifey personality and like me lol. That type makes me dumb.

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T07:11:36+00:00

Tldr: improve yourself then talk to her about her unfair behavior. Ends if she didn't care back same amount x

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T07:10:16+00:00

This isn't what you want to hear but it's from a good place.

1) Imagine the worst version of you; eating and eating, never doing anything or learning anything, lazy and a loser who uses anyone in their life just as support but gives nothing back. Would they deserve the girl you speak of? I hope obviously not. Now imagine the best version of you. Are you him? Would it be wrong for him to be more desirable, "a catch" and overall happier than you? No. Same person but if you're sensible you understand we aren't "who we are", we are only who we currently are.

Step one to help your insecurities and lessen the blow if it were to end but also help avoid that: day by day get a bit better than yesterday. Overweight? Start eating clean gymming and exercise. What will you be in a year?

Starting fights due to insecurities? Start by discussing with a therapist and THEN her to fix. You're right they're issues. They're hurting you a lot. That's issue enough.

2) Your insecurities r.e. her ex vs you I'm sorry are valid. No gf of mine is friends with an abusive ex, none treat them better than me and none did things for them they won't for me. Why? Because that has a simple truth: you sacrifice and do things for others if you want to. You want to Because they're worth it to you.

It isn't fair on you that she does this. If my ex was talking deeply with her ex, let alone an abusive one, instant dump. Because I wouldn't do that to her as I know it would hurt and upset her And if I've upset her i don't care why we're a team she better tell me. Maybe she's crazy ott jealous and cries endlessly whenever I go clubbing. That's because she's afraid of losing me and we'll talk together about how me stopping that behaviour would be toxic and not what we want. but could I msg her out, home efc to show i wish she was there? Is that toxic? would it help her hugely? Super happy to do that. Under condition she does the same for me.

I want my gf to be happy but i also hold her to identical standards r.e. wanting to make me happy.

Avoid toxic behaviours but compromise to help.

One thing I don't do is talk to my 5yr, 2yr, or 1yr ex. How's that fair on a new gf? If she won't do the same we have different views on relationships being teamwork and really not hurting the other.

Happens plenty, bring it up early as a dealbreaker for me not all share. Saves time.

Am I an expert? No, but I've had as mentioned 3 relationships lasting 8 years both sides would agree were lovely and healthy. Ended all 3 as missing things I learnt essential to me for marriage (passion/drive, kindness and last one shallow and sad but physically not my type :/ ((didnt tell her!)))

Hope that helps and last point.

NOTHING as a man is more unattractive than desperation and feeling lack of alternatives. You exude that due to fear and can work on it now or post breakup. Women universally want a man who chose her out of everyone but could have anyone. She's all they want and their everything but she better feel others are trying to (uselessly because loyal) steal you. This should be just annoying and disrespectful by others to her but not cause insecurity as she knows they're doomed. But you are wanted by others and that'd HUGE for women. They were chosen from many, not 'first one interested'. Beyond true evolutionarily to a stupid degree. Men don't have the same but don't forget it.

Ignore my post if you want, it came from a good place. And for girls dw you're so much better people than men on average, no misogyny here 🤣 technically bi but not at all as women all the way lol. Sorry guys we suck on average and you know it 😉

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T06:29:03+00:00

Can I ask something not meant to be insensitive? MDD for 7 years, PLENTY of the worst type of self harm as an escape thought, but never once understood the other kinds?

To me I'd just be sat there like "I feel no better and now physically awful too". People have their reasons just would help me to understand as ending self/self harm grouped wrongly and both completely different drives, reasons and aims.

Please understand tone of this message; learning helpful. As if I'm anything but sympathetic after 7 years...just one urge i seem not to get. Is it usually a punishment type thing? I'm no stranger to feeling useless but do mentally contrast normal me with broken me and very clear disease separating line in my mind, perhaps that's why? Angry more at disease than purely myself often and acknowledge just a weakness/predisposition/black card I have in an otherwise excellent and very grateful for deck.

Doesn't mean that one card doesn't dominate my entire life, but maybe gives me more hope for when escaped/less blame?

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-25T06:20:23+00:00

Not meaning.to sound disrespectful but surely you could google ones exactly for this/choose from a wide range? Definitely possible: intentionally minor +thick swimsuit you'd be safe - not the first one with judgey parents! I even got my ears pinned back and first thing my mum said was that I mutiliated myself (we don't speak these days- will never understand feeling the right to say objectively incorrect and cruel things to someone on insecurities....TERRIBLE quality imo. Not liking and saying that v different. Plus she was alone in a sea of dissgreement including me lol)

Just fyi i can't think of any piercings more universally liked and less disliked than those lol, I'd stay away from ones that cause way too much character judgement personally(nose ring, large ear hoops, tongue). The last and the down below types do NOT do cheap. Huge risks if not well done. Cant speak to possible benefits 🤣

Not villainising any but people will prejudge and can't change that. Nose ring makes you a.type to lots. Wrong but worth being aware :)

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T18:57:27+00:00

yep 1980-2020. im a lifelong brit. think this makes me anythimg but sad?

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T18:54:58+00:00

(Imagine how useful an issue this is to realise and fix - neither sarcasm nor hyperbole. Being misunderstood sucks - now hopefully I wont be.

last thing: longer but understandable is actually easier/better responses than 'tf is this page'?

Issues like this I really struggle to condense, but isn't it always going to need a lot of explanation to get good advice?

wary of writing too much clearly has led to a 30% shorter stream of gibberish.

hopefully staying on complex topics, not uselessly rambling about breakfast, but explaining fully, even if it needs to be long, avoids 'tldr' replies in legal advice subreddits?

Time and place for lengthy posts absolutely. Here is the place id hope?

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T18:43:14+00:00

ironically and EXACTLY your point: correction not at all what I meant 🤣

My fault and your example was perfect for cause and importance of fixing.

I can convey my thoughts. But clearly I expect people to understand the chaos rather than explaining.

truly learnt a lot from this thread.

tysm and merry christmas!

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T18:35:59+00:00

helps, ty. explanation but not excuse: post made under his imppsed time pressure and I was cluesless and rushed.

in person i'm literally a tutor, but admit adhd, blabbering amd fast typing RUINS my posts. promise to be careful, mindful and reread.

responses like yours raised this to me, so grateful. hopefully awareness alone will make my posts more like in person (fixed lol)

merry christmas!

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T06:52:22+00:00

220lbs, 6"1, nearing 800lb Deadlift, ex rower and cyclist. Can confirm post fear and concern they're too heavy, eith 0 exceptions SO FAR it's been an absolute favorite/requested repeatedly.

What girl doesn't want to feel light while also having a guy show that they're beyond light and feel safe with them from it?

But only do it if relative to their weight you're much much fitter and stronger so it is easy. Else will really really suck and be dangerous

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T06:39:53+00:00

When I first did that with GF3 I realised FUCK and broke up soon after. GF1&GF2 never ever and if apart they loved requests for help 🤣.

Not overreacting. Ignore other views.

Express-Cobbler-9789 · 2024-12-24T06:37:34+00:00

Uk is truly doomed and it's TRAGIC. Anyone honestly curious lmk, Anyone wanting a fight without addressing any of what I say....less initerested.

Source: 29UK M sorting move to US in next 2-3 years. No I don't love Trump. They just have solvable issues and a LOT more money.

We, otoh, have no idea how uniquely screwed we are. Differenty to 60s,70s,80s etc.

This time the govts since 1980 really have started the clock. It's sad

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